I have never really talked to people much in my life because I was always very shy. I was an only child and I didn't have much of a chance to communicate with other people. I can't seem to carry on a conversation very well and I know it goes back to my lack of interaction with others growing up. I would appreciate any advice on how to improve my overall social skills/communication skills. Thanks.
2007-11-12 19:31:49 · 12 answers · asked by mao ying 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm also depressed and I think I might have ADD or something like that. I have problems focusing on what people are trying to tell me and I have problems focusing on even my own words and thoughts.
2007-11-12 19:34:48 · update #1
RELAX, RELAX, RELAX everything thing else will fall into place without effort! Even getting a flat on the side of the road with your date or getting soaked in the rain or spilling your drink can be just as fun if you are not all uptight! LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MOOD MAKER OR BREAKER!
2007-11-12 19:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Usually, the person I'm talking to would be the subject. What a person does for fun or if a person is doing anything interesting this month is an okay one, to me at least. What sort of art they like; music, film, theatre, paintings, etc. If I am honestly curious, their appearance is something I might ask or make a statement about. I especially enjoy getting into their philosophies and opinions on stuff, and current events can help that sometimes. Simply because I've never been one for small talk or unproductive conversation that doesn't get me closer to this person, a point, or a lesson of some sort, and I can be pretty forward about it. ^_^" Edit: Oh and anything about the supernatural/paranormal, about cooking, sex, and alt. medicine is infinitely interesting to me. Good Luck! :)
2016-04-03 22:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly like you when I was a teen. I got worse when I got married because my husband was very talkative and thought that he was more intelligent than others. there came a time that I realized that I was being left behind although I had high capacities and capabilities. My face would flush ( even thinking about talking to an stranger) . So I worked on my self. Now I'm the manager of Commerce of a big company. I still sometimes flush but it does not hurt me anymore. I try to laugh loudly or tell jokes . I wanted to prove to myself that even if I mess up , the world would still be going round and I would still have another chance.
2007-11-12 20:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by lost-in-love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the perfect answer for you!
I'm also an only child, and am also pretty shy...
My advice is to get a job that deals with people. I worked the front desk at a 4diamond resort for 6months. I feel so much more confident around people in person, and on the phone than I did prior.
Hotels are nice because you don't just deal with shmucky people as you would by working at tacobell.
You get more high-class drunks and "new-money" rednecks....
2007-11-12 19:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats easy - force yourself to walk up to perfect strangers and start a conversation with them - dont worry about looking silly, you will prob never see them again and its not like that is the most interesting thing that will happn to them all day for them to dwell on it! Practice makes perfect!
2007-11-12 19:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by birdyblondie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to people you know have a common interest or have something in common like a class. It's always very difficult to talk to a complete stranger because you have no idea where there interests lay. People (especially young people) like to talk about themselves, so you could use that to your advantage.
2007-11-12 19:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by Peter S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
practice, practice, practice! I was really shy and high school and now im a dancer and talk to different people everyone night. you just have to get used to talking to people and you will get more comfortable talking to them. find things you have in common with them, ask them their likes/dislikes, tell them about yourself, etc. there are millions of things to talk about. just make it work into something that is going on at the moment
2007-11-12 19:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Practice works. Look people in the eye. When listening to someone speaking to you, try to forget yourself and how you look etc, instead listen to what they are really saying. You don't have to talk much. Most people are happy to find a good listener.
2007-11-12 19:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
get a mirror and stand in front of it for 3 hours and talk to yourself Do that for a 3 weeks then you should be ready for the real thing !!
2007-11-12 19:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by HmmmmmmYea 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try joining some type of group, or team. Then you will be forced to be a good socialite
2007-11-12 19:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋