How can I find out how he truely feels?
My ex boyfriend broke up with me over three years ago when I moved away for college...He is seven years older and was starting his career and said the long distance was hard etc. We stayed friends (w/benefits but only saw him every 4 months or so) for about 2 yearss until I found out he had another girl and told him I could just be friends. Last week I was visitng and we got together and he told me he was single. It had been about 4 months since I told him we could just be friends. He tried to get me to stay over..but I just kissed him and left. This weekend he was in my town (not visiting me but a friend) and we got together for an hour in the day and it was kinda awkard. I still like him a lot and cant figure out how he feels..why does he still contact me? do you think he still has feelings for me? guys..is it hard for you to open up? he knows now that i wont sleep with him but is still keepin in touch..?!?
2007-11-12 19:25:15 · 8 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't believe in getting back with an ex. It also sounds like he has no intentions of getting back together with you. He is getting all the benefits of a relationship without having to fully commit to you. You won't sleep with him now, but he knows eventually you will give in, hence his phone calls to you.
Don't give in!
2007-11-12 19:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by yayaquack 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really sounds like he is playing the field.
The best way to be really tantalizing to him is to stay out of reach and not be "user friendly".
The "friends with benefits" is not productive because it just gives him what he wants, without ever making a commitment to you.
Make it clear that you demand better for yourself. Tell him to come talk to you when he is ready to settle down to a monogamous relationship.
That will either light a fire under him or send him packing.
2007-11-13 03:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that he has never been with someone as caring as you are,as honest as you are,as faithful as you are,so he will keep on coming back bcoz what he had was just unbelievable........is good that you have that kind of a good personality where he just wanna b with you.
and also it might happen that you still love him but you just afraid of telling him that!
but never the less give him a second chance coz it seems like he deserves one!!!take care babe.........
2007-11-13 03:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lebogang S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going thru almost the same thing (practicly identical situation) and what do i have to say? screw him! hes greedy and wants u for his own fun. if he wanted something serious with u he would of already asked u himself. since he heasnt forget about it, dont get sucked in anymore than u already are. forget him, guys like that all they bring is trouble because they only think of themselves. and their d**ks.
2007-11-13 03:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by My 1st Luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he probably just wants sex
but he could be genuine and still have feelings for you
why dont u ask him about how he feels?
2007-11-13 03:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by ..☆..вяєαкιηg нєαятѕ..☆.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still likes you but he's greedy and wants to be with all these other girls too. he also knows that you still have feeling for him so he knows he's got you...
2007-11-13 03:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by gaile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still trying to win you over... give it a try...
2007-11-13 03:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows youll give him what he wants.
2007-11-13 03:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Gina Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋