I am in this relationship with my b'friend who I do love and would do anything for. He has encouraged me to have sex with his 3 friends who he has known for a while. They sit and talk about what they want to do to me and some of it scares me pretty much but I'll do anything to please my b'friend...you may think thats wrong?
These guys think its far bettter to do all this without condoms but what to have sex with me after each other. I feel messy how can they like this? and why do they refuse to use protection??
Its not so easy for me to end this cos my b'friend always talks me into it especially cos his mates are here every night and want sex my b'friend lets it happen and seems they all get off on watching
2007-11-12 20:03:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, it sounds like you're uncomfortable with this situation, & if your boyfriend is pressuring you to do this when it isn't something you want to do, he obviously doesn't love you. He & his friends are just using you as a semen receptacle, & they don't care about you at all. If you're willing to allow this to continue, you should at least insist on condoms for your own sake so you don't get STDs, if you haven't contracted any already. If you have trouble convincing them, you could always try grossing them out by saying something like "so you like his juices all over your shaft". Essentially, that's what's happening: they are lubing themselves with one another's semen. Also, another thing to consider is if you have an unwanted pregnancy, you will have 4 men you have to test to determine who is the father. If you're on the pill, you can still get pregnant, & with this much volume of semen inside your uterus, there's a much greater chance than if you were having unprotected sex with one man.
I personally believe you need to find a new boyfriend who will respect you & love you. Sure, a new guy might want to try something like this, but if you say you're uncomfortable with it, he'll respect that. I had a girlfriend years ago I told I was curious about anal, & she told me she didn't want to try it. However, months later, after I'd never mentioned it again, she asked for it. Her reasoning was she knew I respected her, & she wanted her first time experiencing this to be with me. Turns out neither of us enjoyed it, but she still knew I loved her because I accepted this decision. Look in your heart & honestly ask yourself if you can say that about your boyfriend, & if you can honestly say beyond a shadow of a doubt he truly loves you. I already know you won't be able to honestly tell yourself this, & that's why I think it's time to move on, but if you refuse, at least buy some condoms & start insisting they be used. Also, get to a gynecologist for a pelvic exam, pap smear, & to get tested for STDs pronto. You deserve to be happy & healthy, so do what's right to make sure you are.
2007-11-12 20:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, thats loyalty, well condoms take away a lot of the feeling I dont like using them but i dont like STDs or unplanned babies either. Thats the last thing you would need is to get a disease or one of the guys gets you pregnant, so i would insist, if I were you, that they use protection.
But most importantly while it is good to want to please your man, there are some things that if you dont want to do you should not do.
2007-11-12 20:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your boyfriend loves you if he enjoys seeing you with others so intimately and your chances of getting a STD is really high. This is very destructive behavior and you should not allow it even with a condom. You are not respecting yourself and you are being abused. You sound like a very giving person and deserve much much better.
2007-11-12 20:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by GisL4all 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to stand for hat you should speak up ur not anyones personal toy to pass aroound like that if they like to watch tell them to go rent those porn movies and leave you guys alone as fo the protetion guuys say its because it dont feel right maybe if they used the ribbed comdoms insifde out then the ribbed side would feel ore plesure for him its ok but not when ur bfriend talks you into it thats just wrong what kind of guy askes his love to do such a thing i think u better reevaluate ur sitiation withhim dont be afraid to let him go you can find a better guy who will respect you and your body and actually cares what you do and not so fast to pass you around like that like some cheap whre cause yur not a guman being made of flesh and bllod with emotions and feelings ur not an animal to do such things put yuor foot down stand up for your rights yuor not his door mat your suppose to be treated like a lady with love repect and kindness not passed arouns to be infected with god knows what these guys could have been passing to you through you to the other guys ok think about it and make up your mind for your sake and remember its your life and body your letting ur guy put in danger you gotta be careful with the stds outthere aids cancer antobiotics cant cure everything it may prolong you to lieve longer but thres no solution to death ok girl love yourself better than tht ur special in ur own unique way
2007-11-12 20:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's sick! This guy has got you brainwashed and apparently doesn't have much respect for you if he's wanting you to have sex with his friends. Obviously you don't have much respect for yourself if you're actually considering doing this. You need to get some help, for real!
2007-11-12 20:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg.....i really dont know what to say to you if i am honest...if he loved you he wouldnt ever want to see you with anyone else let alone his mates.
BUT if you are going to do this you definatly need to use protection as there are alot of diseases out there that they may have which you might not realise.
My advice here is to DUMP HIM, he clearly only wants you for sex and to abuse with his mates.....which as a women you yourself should know is wrong and should want more for yourself.
2007-11-12 20:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe babe babe...its not ''wrong''...its SICK!!!
And he is treating you like a whore....He's worse than a pimp because he'd give you away for free!!!
This guy has no love or respect for you....I suggest you learn to love and respect yourself before you do something so low and put yourself in danger of not just being used and abused - but its downright dangerous...GET OUT QUICK - And find a man who shows you RESPECT!
2007-11-12 20:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by chandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get pressured into anything you don't want to do. If you want to partake in that lifestyle, it is your choice but I would INSIST on using protection.
2007-11-12 20:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oohhh.... baby i love you way... haha.. Blue mountain.. can't help it.. sorry.... hahaha....
anyway... your pretty entertaining... can i be a friend of your bf?.. haha.. I'm pretty sure were gonna get along just fine... haha... please!?.. haha.. kidding... haaay... hahaha!... I'm pretty sure you guys have porn cd already... haha!! man thats funny... you are so funny... and messy... and such a b*atch!!! what a s*x object!!! hahaha tsk tsk tsk.... good luck if your gonna have STD or HIV and maybe wors... aids!!! hahaha.. have a good time.. while you still can..
2007-11-12 20:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by condo_m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋