Marriage & Divorce - 5 May 2007

Everything changed after we got married. He started complaining about every little thing. We fight all the time, because he ain't listening at all, not to me, not to anyone, he says stupid things for me and my family, and if we are not fighting then we ain't talk at all.
Because after he makes all the mistakes he is acting as if nothing happened, and that is so annoying. I mean so far because it is impossible for me to live with somebody and talk at all, i always initiated a discussion, but i cannot take this any longer.
I need him to show me that he cares, that he is aware of all that he has done and how much pain he has caused me.
I need him to start showing some responsibility, and get him to undestrand that marrgiage is not a game, it is something we should work on.
Is there any chance, i can get him to talk to me by his own initiative, or am i seeing an end to this marriage?

2007-05-05 05:07:08 · 32 answers · asked by Senka M 3

what are some of the wildest things anyone has ever done or seen at a bachelorette party? (at the bars, in the limos, with the strippers, crazy themes, etc.)

2007-05-05 05:03:23 · 3 answers · asked by collegeguy09 1

that you have never lived with before or even stay the night with him before? Do you think things are going ot be werid once you are married? (My Best Friend is doing this!!) I thought it may be hard for them...

2007-05-05 04:51:52 · 19 answers · asked by Small Town 2

..attention too much its embarassing especially when im with my uglier friends the girls are like bees around a honey pot when im around but my friends just look on I want to help them they feel left out what should i do ..Im sorry to admit it but Im soooo handsome. I just want my friends to get some attention sometimes.?

2007-05-05 04:43:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

You throw yourselves at me, knowing I'm in a 9 year relationship, because I am a very upstanding and honest person, enough so that I share this with all my 'one nighters'. Then when I ask for a little advice on this site you tee off on me for being unfaithful to the gal I've been dating. I'm 'unfaithful' as you call it with members of your sisterhood, so get mad at your own gender for contstantly begging me to spend some play time with you. What's a guy supposed to do? If I don't sleep with all these women, you'd probably say I was a tease; so I do and you say I'm a scum. I don't see how a guy like me is supposed to win. I suppose if I left the girl I've been dating as you suggest you'd say I was bad too. So many women, so hard to keep them all happy - maybe I should just focus to pleasing me more versus all of you. Not being critical, just looking for feedback, you beat us men up way, way too much.

2007-05-05 04:39:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tell her how nice she looks when we go to town. She always tells me "I don't feel it" and sometimes in a blue moon she sais "thank you" I cannot remember the last time she complimented me. Do you think that telling a spouse shes beautiful is destructive somehow?

2007-05-05 04:35:45 · 40 answers · asked by tyler d 1

Sorry if this is confusing trying to put it in a few words is hard, if your married to a man on disability pension you seem to have to get a doctor to fill forms out he is diabled , find that confuising after all he been on it for years. but to get care payment this seems the way,need clarification
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2007-05-05 04:08:33 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

What can I do if my wife is threatening me, but says if I call the police she will lie and say i've been molesting my kid and beat herself up and say to the police that it was me. Please answer promptly thank you all

2007-05-05 04:08:30 · 8 answers · asked by sexycindybee 1

2007-05-05 04:08:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years now. We have a house together and a child. So why is it he hasnt asked me to marry him yet? We do bicker like any other couple but to him he thinks thats not normal. Other than that no other relationship problems. He has nothing to compare our relationship to because I was only his 2nd serious relationship (his other in highschool and little beyond) Everytime I bring marriage; I get one of 2 answers "when we dont fight" or nothing at all (which with him is better than a no) I try to talk to him but it just seems hopeless. We do not have the best "talking" relationship. He is not a talker; so what do I do to get his view on this!! We have been together for so long if marriage or at least an engagement is in my near future, I will feel the past nine years of my youg life (im only 26) has been wasted! And how do I let him know if marriage isnt in the future neither am I?? I also feel his "single" friends may have an influence.

2007-05-05 03:58:19 · 9 answers · asked by Confused 1

Thanks for reading. My sister's a genuine, giving, gorgeous girl who REALLY wants to get married to the right guy. (Who doesn't) She thought she'd found the right one. We all agreed. There were some initial reservations but that's another story. He asked my parents if he could marry her & told our family he'd do it on her upcoming birthday.

Then she got a call from a girl who obviously got her # from his cell, saying they'd been together since a year ago off & on, she's pregnant(!) but possibly going to terminate (another jacked up story). She told only me. He knows I know as well.

I'm willing to support her as she tosses around whether to stay or go. Then he proposed last Saturday. I HATE that he cheated & they have only even been together since like Feb./ March. Going forward I'm thinking of years of uncertainty she's going to be able to share with JUST ME. I don't even know how to ask, but what the H to tell her?

Because she loves him, he has some celebrity &

2007-05-05 03:42:23 · 21 answers · asked by Sleek 7

at highschool and didn´t think any subject was boring...I thought all of them but 2 were very boring !!! do you think it´s possible to never feel bored??? PS He told me it´s because he´s a simple being, and that is actually very hard to be one...

2007-05-05 03:36:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

In our first year of marriage he actually invited the girl he was cheating with to our son's christening. I haven't had cause to suspect him lately, but i just found out that he was actually going out with the girl i suspected then. Can he ever change since he cheated before we got married and also in the first of year of marriage. We are have been married for five years now.

2007-05-05 03:26:36 · 14 answers · asked by worriedlady 1

We’ve been together 4 ½ years, lived together for a 1 ½ years and got engaged last week. Ok, he wakes up in a bad mood almost every morning and I am sick of it. He was pissy so I let him be. I made little casual comments, tried to make little jokes and he just sits there with little one word answers or pissy comments. I'm very aware of non-verbal communication and it hurts me to live with this kind of tension. (this is not a new thing) I can't ignore him because we live in a small apartment and there is really no way to get away from his negative energy. I love him very much but this tension can drive me insane b/c it always escalates into a fight unless him or I just leave to do something else (school/work). Sure enough, he finally made a comment to indicate his irritation (although, he will deny up and down that he is in a bad mood). He called me a lazy, worthless b****. Mind you, I was doing nothing except telling him not to use our fish tank bucket for chemicals, b/c we can use the spare trash can. (Putting chemicals in a fish bucket and then using it to change the water in the fish tank could kill them very easily). So, I took my engagement ring off and threw it at him. I couldn’t stand having it on my finger at that time b/c I felt chained to him…a man that hurts me so much. He accuses me of that probably 2-3 times a week minimum, b/c I don’t choose to work as much as him and I am in nursing school full-time (most of the girls who go don’t even work in the first place b/c of the time-consuming nature of nursing school). When we moved out, he knew the situation and he rubs it in my face all the time. I was very hesitant to move in w/ him b/c of this, I knew he would be footing most of the bills and so did he. He still wanted to do it, I had a good arrangement living w/ my mom. He wants me to be like his mom and cook and clean 24/7...I find other things in life more important. I’m not like her in that way and he knew I wasn’t. I keep the kitchen clean and do some stuff around the house but I am not obsessive about cleaning like he is. I don’t live in filth or anything, but he sees messes that I just can’t see. I’ve been spending 9hrs a day for the past week tutoring a friend who may fail out of nursing school b/c I felt it was the right thing to do, and I haven’t been able to clean like he wants. He even encouraged me to do this for her. Well, I asked for the ring back about 5 mins. later (even though he was still being a jerk) and he refused to give it to me. He then left for work. It really hurts me when he says those things and I know I may have over-reacted throwing it at him, but I just felt so tethered to him when he was hurting me while I had that ring on…it was weird. I looked at it and it made me feel nauseous. So, I’m taking my dog and packing up some stuff to go to my mom’s for the weekend (at least). Am I wrong? He will inevitably call me like he always does and beg me to come back, say he’s wrong like always…but….I’m sick of it. Does that nauseous feeling I felt when looking at the ring at the time mean anything? Did I over-react way too much? Am I completely wrong? Is this common for newly engaged women to feel burdened by the weight of the commitment? I’m a product of a divorce, so marriage does not appeal to me like it does him, it scares me. My childhood was tumultuous b/c of it. I do love him, but I’m just scared I guess. There are lots of other good qualities but his negative attitude is just eating away at me and overwhelming all of his good stuff. Sorry this is so long, but I have to get this out. Thanks for all your advice.

2007-05-05 03:25:38 · 14 answers · asked by SNAFU 1

RAVE Motion Pictures, AMC Theaters, Cinemark, Regal, or Studio Movie Grill. What is the best place to experience a Motion Picture in its true essence?

2007-05-05 03:05:36 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My spouse does not have an issue with me looking at and or using pornography, however I do. That is I feel a little guilty for doing it but I can't seem to stop. I'm not addicted in the sense that I don't need to see it in order to be intimate with my spouse, however because we are aparted due to work comments a lot, I do feel a little guilty sometimes. So the question is, am I just being stupid? or should I be concerned about this?

2007-05-05 02:44:10 · 18 answers · asked by lisa s 1

2007-05-05 02:26:15 · 13 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I stayed in a marriage where I was mentally abused and now we are getting a divorce but I feel so alone sometimes even when im around friends and talking to family will this feeling ever go away I don’t want to date anyone right now because I just cant handle that, I hate this feeling inside me

2007-05-05 02:18:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 26, he is 56, we have been together for over 2 years, we love each other and we have been through a lot. I tried hard in this relationship and so did he, I finally brought up the idea of breaking up with him yesterday bcos Im not happy about the age difference, and I am worried about my future with him, there is too much pressure and it gradually worn me out. He was pissed off and hurt, he said I didnt leave a good form to him, and he is not impressed. He said I wasted his 2 years, he said Im only playing games.
After breaking up, I felt so bad, I couldnt sleep, I couldnt get him out of my mind, and his words hurt me so much... I love him very much, also he is the first one I had sex with, now Im nothing to him, he only considers me as a game player! The pain is so much... we havent contacted each other ever since, and I dont think we would...
maybe we cant even stay friends...

2007-05-05 02:10:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband likes to gamble and we're always fightin' about it...i wanted him to stop , what shall i do?

2007-05-05 02:06:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-05 00:50:49 · 1 answers · asked by lilly l 6

I mean, there is nothing better out there for you?

Or, have you made compromises and are willing to deal with them?

2007-05-05 00:40:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a professional and make a lot of money in my business. My wife is really lazy, leaving the housework and yardwork to me. I just can't keep up with all this anymore. When I come back from a road trip, all the cleaning and repairs are overwhelming. No matter how much money I make, it gets absorbed by paying for things damaged by trashy neglect. I believe in trying to make a marriage work. Marriage counciling doesn't seem to have an effect. At work, I'm internationally respected. I just can't sit and watch TV like she does.

2007-05-05 00:30:41 · 25 answers · asked by mojonah 3