I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years now. We have a house together and a child. So why is it he hasnt asked me to marry him yet? We do bicker like any other couple but to him he thinks thats not normal. Other than that no other relationship problems. He has nothing to compare our relationship to because I was only his 2nd serious relationship (his other in highschool and little beyond) Everytime I bring marriage; I get one of 2 answers "when we dont fight" or nothing at all (which with him is better than a no) I try to talk to him but it just seems hopeless. We do not have the best "talking" relationship. He is not a talker; so what do I do to get his view on this!! We have been together for so long if marriage or at least an engagement is in my near future, I will feel the past nine years of my youg life (im only 26) has been wasted! And how do I let him know if marriage isnt in the future neither am I?? I also feel his "single" friends may have an influence.
2007-05-05 03:58:19 · 9 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He hasn't asked probably because he doesn't need to or want to be married; you two shacking up means he has it all - without any commitment. You gave it all up, and you are changing your mind now?
2007-05-05 05:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it. 15 months really isn't that long. I mean, it's definitely decent for your age, but it's not like you should be feeling bad that he hasn't asked you yet. even if you WERE engaged, you can't get married until you turn 18 so why rush it? Plus, the longer you are together before you get married the better chances you have of actually lasting and not getting a divorce. so, slow down and concentrate on making your relationship as amazing as possible and in time marriage will come if it's the right thing for you both.
2016-05-21 01:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he afraid of marriage? You are already living together and have a child. The only thing marriage would be is a legal document at this point. There's nothing for him to worry about, because you guys are practically married. His peers could be an influence but if he isn't sure about you now, will he ever be? I can't tell you what his issues are, but you have to get it out of him somehow.
I know in my state if you live together for like 15 years you become married by common law. Something like that, it might be something similar in your state. (Not that you should have to wait that long).
2007-05-05 04:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave the goods out for free and allowed him to get comfortable with the life he has now. If you feel really stong about getting married then talk to him about it. If he is still not up to it well you have a choice to either walk out find someone that will marry you or stay with him. It is all up to you.
2007-05-05 04:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the most stable relationship and besides he has the comforts of marriage without having to actually marry you. You need counseling and for Gods sake don't have another child until you are MARRIED!
2007-05-05 04:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't either married you, or at least asked you, in 9 years, he's most likely not going to. The way I see it is, you have two choices.....continue like it is, or leave and find somebody who would like to get married at some point. I strongly vote for the latter! Don't waste your time, any longer. Good Luck!!
2007-05-05 04:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've got two words for you. "Sex rations"...why would he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?!? You need to tell him outright that you will no longer let him touch your goodies unless you get a ring on that finger...and watch him walk down that aisle quicker than you can say "shotgun wedding"!
2007-05-05 04:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by GirlsAreStupid!ThrowRocksAtThem! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants the freedom to dump you whenever he feels like it.
2007-05-05 04:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt like you
2007-05-05 04:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋