In our first year of marriage he actually invited the girl he was cheating with to our son's christening. I haven't had cause to suspect him lately, but i just found out that he was actually going out with the girl i suspected then. Can he ever change since he cheated before we got married and also in the first of year of marriage. We are have been married for five years now.
2007-05-05 03:26:36 · 14 answers · asked by worriedlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't listen to the once a cheat always a cheat thing. Listen to what your instincts tell you about the PERSON YOU MARRIED. Do you think he's done playing? Deep down we know...People cheat for different reasons and at different times in their lives. Have a talk with him about your concerns and newfound information. If it was truly the past and you knew about it before you could ha ve gotten over it then. Since you just found out about the cheating it' s almost like it just happened. Don't ignore your thoughts. Go to counseling.
2007-05-05 03:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple sweetie...once a cheater, always a cheater. Get rid of his sorry *** and find a man that will treat you right. He obviously has no respect for you. You really want to spend the rest of your life knowing he cheated on you? How can you even trust him? I would question every move he made. I wouldn't want to live like that. And if you choose to keep him, then you deserve to get cheated on. You should have dumped him the first time you found out. If you are going to be that ignorant and keep someone like him, then shut up and deal with it or get out of the marriage.
2007-05-05 04:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you married a philander. He is not the man he portrayed to be when you married him. Often these men go through long periods of abstinence giving you the feeling you are safe and that he will not cheat again.......but, when the feeling is right for him and the need arises he is on the look out for the next woman to have sex with again. He needs to own up to why he did this to you and what was he thinking when he decided to betray the relationship? What will be the preventative measures he will take to not cheat again if he is tempted to. You both need to be in marital counseling to find answers for things to be right. Your trust was betrayed and everything has changed for you and how you look at his character. You need to be cautious and carefull with him due to std's and protecting your own life with him. What you are living with is emotional abuse caused by his selfish act and that is devastating to you and the commitment of your marriage. Your marriage was in trouble before it ever had the chance to start and you need to know what is going on with him and what could be expected of your marriage with your spose in the future. I would go and talk with a proffesional even if it was just for myself.........some one who will help you to know where you should go with all of your hurt and what you should do with it all now. Good luck sweetie
2007-05-05 04:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has cheated on you TWICE now and you've got a child w/ him, I'd say it's time to dump his sorry A** because it is NOT likely that he is going to stop.
There is no TRUST there, and you may just end up getting your heart broken, yet AGAIN!!
You don't need this. It puts way to much stress on a marriage. He's just sorry and upset that he got caught, not because he cheated. I'd attempt to find out how long this has been going on.
I am sorry this happened to you it sucks. GOOD LUCK!
2007-05-05 04:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by blazing_fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a piece of work, inviting his tart to your sons christening... Throw him to the curb because he is a cheater and a arrogant one at that. You are in for a life time of misery with this one if you don't...
2007-05-05 03:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
Everyone deserves a second chance but not a third, and having the audacity to invite her to your child´s christening, he is not worth it....
2007-05-05 03:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybird 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u need a divorce! he's not being faithful and thats not fair to waste your time. And to disrespect you and invite her to your son's christening that a red flag you need to find someone better than that!
2007-05-05 03:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He got away with it the first time and you allowed him back (shame on him). He did it again to you and it you allow him back then (shame on you). You are his doormat and he is wiping his dirty feet all over you. He will not change because you are allowing him to do it.
2007-05-05 03:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To forgive once is one thing, but to do it twice is another. Its time to let him go. He obviously didnt learn the first time and since you forgave and kept forgiving, he will do it again and again. I forgave mine once, but will not do it again. I wish you luck and strentgh and courage.
2007-05-05 04:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry mate, but once a cheater always a cheater. someone i know is exactly the same, ofcourse their intentions are genuine when they marry or commit but the temptation is too much for them.
2007-05-05 03:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by hana woo 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋