You women really have me confused?

Question

You throw yourselves at me, knowing I'm in a 9 year relationship, because I am a very upstanding and honest person, enough so that I share this with all my 'one nighters'. Then when I ask for a little advice on this site you tee off on me for being unfaithful to the gal I've been dating. I'm 'unfaithful' as you call it with members of your sisterhood, so get mad at your own gender for contstantly begging me to spend some play time with you. What's a guy supposed to do? If I don't sleep with all these women, you'd probably say I was a tease; so I do and you say I'm a scum. I don't see how a guy like me is supposed to win. I suppose if I left the girl I've been dating as you suggest you'd say I was bad too. So many women, so hard to keep them all happy - maybe I should just focus to pleasing me more versus all of you. Not being critical, just looking for feedback, you beat us men up way, way too much.

Answer 1

Cheating is wrong and you're talking all around it so it feels right to you. I don't really see a question here; more like guilt looking for a way out.

Take responsibility for your actions, reassess your moral values and move on.

Answer 2

First and foremost, there are a few mistakes in your question. First, you aren't being "unfaithful" to your girlfriend with people in the opposite "gender." Gender has nothing to do with being a woman or a man. Gender is about the traits that are associated with being a man or a woman. For instance, the gender that we associate with women is wearing skirts, long hair, sensitive attitude, nurturing and so on. Those things are traits and they are things that a lot of women do because it's expected by society. Ask yourself, if a woman didn't have long hair, wasn't sensitive and was career oriented would that make her any less of a woman? NO! Get your terms straight.Look it up. You are being unfaithful with people in the opposite SEX not the opposite gender. Secondly, their is no "sister-hood." Women don't have a sacred bond just because they are women. You have bonds with people who you meet and have fun with. I'm sure that some of the women who you've had sex with have had boyfriends. Does that mean that you are turning your back on the "brother-hood?" No! So stop being ridiculous. The last and most important thing that I can say is that if you want to have sex with other women when you have a girlfriend then that is you choice. There's nothing wrong with it. No one should judge you as long as both you and the women are ok with it. However, you leave people no choice but to judge you because the previously stated requirement isn't being met: You're girlfriend isn't ok with it because she doesn't even know! How can you claim to be an "upstanding and honest person" because you tell your "one-nighters" about your girlfriend when you aren't telling your girlfriend about your "one-nighters?" Where's the honesty in that? All that i'm saying is that if you are going to do things you should atleast be brave enough to admit to them all of the time not just in certain less dangerous situations. Of course, you may be a person who doesn't value bravery or honesty 100% of the time and that's ok too. No one should judge that either. Just don't claim that you are doing something and being honest when you aren't. There's no integrity in that and there's no way that people can ever take you seriously.
*By the way, don't be sexist and try to make this seem like it's just women who are judging you because I'm a guy and I'm questioning your integrity as well. Personally I doubt that you even have a girlfriend let alone a string of one-night stands. But then again, we've already established that you aren't honest haven't we. This question is as made up as your run-ins with women.

Answer 3

If you are a cheater: You are scum.

If the women you are cheating with know you are in a relationship: They are scum too.

You are NOT "a very upstanding and honest person" because you are a lying, cheating moron.

All women are different just as all men are different. You are focused on pleasing yourself, not anyone else. Don't try to put your actions on someone else. Some of the world still have morals and values.

Answer 4

you are funny really i couldn't stop laughing for like thirty minutes i almost dropped my laptop gosh man i don't know what question you posed but don't get mad you asked and they gave you feed back you re a man we are women what exactly did you expect to hear back great job buddy did you want mad props a cookie what unlike most women of m y sisterhood as you called it i think you're not that bad of a guy what guy doesn't sleep around on their girls and but most women don't understand it I've been burned by a guy like you but you know what I've learned if you don't give a fudge then why should i but here is a question for you if you're girl was doing the same thing as you how would you react or is there a double standard for her

Answer 5

I think you need to focus on two things, and two things only. One is your loyalty to your partner and the other is your partner. It takes two to tango, so while the girls who want to cheat with you are tempting and throwing themselves at you, it is really only your response and behaviour that is the issue as they are not forcing you to cheat. The only girl that should matter at present is your partner. Maybe you could stop cheating and sort out your relationship in an honest fashion, before even thinking about taking up any other offers. Stop trying to rationalise what is wrong and trying to shift the blame. You know what you are doing, and let yourself get into the situations. Yes, men are human and it would not be easy to reject such tempting offers, but it is not okay to cheat on your girlfriend. Simple as that.

Answer 6

Your lucky you haven't caught an STD with all the sleeping around you've been doing. And unless your girlfriend/wife of "9 years" is blind and deaf to (not) notice all the running around you've done....your lucky she hasn't left you too. I'm not judging you but this day and age, its not safe for casual sex; even condoms bust. But honestly, not all women are the same and dude - you are certainly not the only guy in this world that is "upstanding" and obviously not that honest - your not only lying to yourself - you've been lying to the person you've supposedly been with for 9 years. I feel sorry for her already. Thats not love; thats ignorance.

Answer 7

WAIT a minute! Do not try and put off your lack of self-control on us! You've a mind . use it! Don't try and use us as a scapegoat for your lack of morality. You shouldn't be cheating on any woman. Who cares if she throws her self at you, you should have enough respect for her and yourself and your GIRL to NOT cheat. UGH, your terrible! How would you like it if the tables were turned? or someone you REALLY care about were being treated this way, say your mother or sister? UGH, have more respect.

Answer 8

You know, you dont have to please everyone! Just the girl that you are with, the one that you are dating. I mean seriously, do u really think that you have to please every girl that flirts with you? Just tell them: "hey i have someone in my life who i like a lot" and if they dont get the point then oh well! Who cares what they will say about you. Im sorry if i sound rude, im just giving my honest opinion. I hope this will help you in some way.

Answer 9

some one got out the bed the wrong side today didn't they. whats up did some girl knock you back last nite,you charmer you. keep it in your pants matey. do you ever tell these women the real truth,and are the only women that fling themselves at you drunk!!!! I'm surprised you get anyone with your sexist attitude. i have never slept around and i have only slept with 3 men in my life,and I'm 34!!!!! don't class everyone the same as you. shame on you

Answer 10

Well, I suppose if a person is truly committed in their relationship and sowed all of their oats they would remain true to that one "special" person. My husband cheated on my with another woman who threw herself at him and he agreed to her advances, so I guess it takes two to tango. I am not going to beat up on you for your choices but I look at it like this. I put the shoe on the other foot and say, would I want that to happen to me?