he's a gambler!?

Question

my husband likes to gamble and we're always fightin' about it...i wanted him to stop , what shall i do?

Answer 1

make a bet with him,that he cant stop!

Answer 2

Gamblers Anonymous.

Answer 3

Two of my friend's husbands have been gamblers and they have caused them years of upset, stealing money from their accounts and being very dishonest. You have to make a very strong stand here and give him some ultimatums. [is there such a word?!] Insist that he goes to counselling for one. If he won't go or stops going, say you will leave...or something along those lines. He has to know that you mean what you say. It's a bit like trying to keep a teenager in check. You have to be strong; otherwise you could be in for years of upset. Sort it NOW, don't keep giving him the benefit of the doubt, and good luck.

Answer 4

I know how you feel, my husband was a gambler and played on line games for hours. In a week he lost £850 and didn't tell me, I was livid as that was when we found out I was pregnant. I confronted him with my evidence (his bank statement) and told him to stop or I'd leave him. Your husband needs to admit his problem that's if he think he has one and then seek help. My husband stopped when I threatened to tell his mother! Good luck x

Answer 5

I have a friend who had the same problem,so she left him it was the best decision she ever made ,she really loved her husband but she realised that he loved gambling more then his family,she is very happy now and he is still betting on every thing that moves, so you will have to make that decision for both of you...good luck.

Answer 6

You have a big problem here. I tried it for ages and he kept promising to stop, but of course he never did. When I had no money to feed my two boys and he was still gambling I had to throw him out and divorce him. They just cannot stop. You need to decide whether you can put up with it because he is unlikely to stop. I know what you are going through and wish you strength to do what you need to.

Answer 7

well if you love this man, and you cant live without him you need to take control of the finances and just give him spending money for him to gamble. he has to understand that he has to limit his spending to that.if you already have debt because of his gambling go and see citizens advice for free help they will negotiate with the people that you owe money to and still leave you money to live on , talk to him and tell him that he needs to cut back that other things come first and if he cant stop ask him to go to gambles anonymous if he refuses i think you have to put yourself first and leave if you have children this is even more important that he stops or cuts back as it is them that will be affected
i hope this helps
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Answer 8

He will always be a gambler. Have seperate, as possible, finances. Make sure your credit rating is strong and maybe even put the house in your name. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Was he this way when you married? If so then you knew that. You can not fundamentally change someone. That is an external force. Only internal can change. Meaning only he can change. You can con coerce or threaten him. It will be futile. You can encourage and create a motivating environment for him to want to help himself. Suggest treatment. Not you get fixed or I am leaving. Because men do not respond well to ultimatums or threats.

Answer 10

Gamblers Anonymous is waiting for him to show up!

Answer 11

it's the worst addiction...the sooner he stops the better, otherwise you will stay without your house and be left on the street with your children. you must know the danger, and you must act on it imediatelly.