I stayed in a marriage where I was mentally abused and now we are getting a divorce but I feel so alone sometimes even when im around friends and talking to family will this feeling ever go away I don’t want to date anyone right now because I just cant handle that, I hate this feeling inside me
2007-05-05 02:18:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wish I could tell you it'll go away soon. You're doing the right thing by being with friends and family. Keep yourself busy with other people and with stuff to do that interests you. Eventually (not soon, but eventually) you'll develop an interest in someone else, and women will notice you, and that'll help boost your confidence. You're probably right that you're not ready to date right now. You need to be careful not to choose the same kind of person. Many times we tend to choose the same kinds of partners over and over. See a therapist if you don't start feeling better soon. Good luck to you.
2007-05-05 02:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get better. It will take some time though. You are experiencing normal feelings after being in a certain pattern of living for so long. You were in some kind of a relationship as a human being and now you are not. Even though it was a bad relationship, it is normal for you to feel some loneliness from the day to day interaction with another human.
Don't confuse the loneliness with thinking you made a mistake by getting out of the bad relationship. Just remember, every day now that you wake up you don't have someone abusing you and telling you things that are not true about you.
Hang in there. You will make it.
2007-05-05 09:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Moose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok dear I stayed in an abusive relationship for 14 years & when I got out that is exactly how I felt.
I promise you its only temporary & time will change it. I was so down that I ended up suffering from depression even though I was so much better off I felt worse some how. But I met a wonderful guy which you will as well because they are out there just dont settle make sure he is all you ever want & treats you like gold.. It will be a great life now just have a little patience as its a whole new word but a much better one!
2007-05-05 09:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, it will go away. It takes time, but it will go away and you'll feel better.
When I divorced my abusive husband I just assumed I would feel great! I figured I would no longer feel under his control, and finally feel free to do what I wanted. But instead I felt alone and even scared. But in time I found myself again, even went through counseling, and eventually started dating. I met and fell in love with someone and I've been married to him for nine incredible years.
Take this time for you. Don't worry that you don't feel like dating yet, because when the time is right for you, it will happen! Reach out to people who support you, and get yourself some counseling if you feel you need it. This is all still fresh and new, but it will get easier.
2007-05-05 09:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Aimee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling is normal and it will go away in time. Trying to date right now would be a huge disservice to both you and the lady you date. Take your time, make lots of friends, and it may be a couple of years before you want to date again.
2007-05-05 09:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase. It seemed hard to go through the divorce but the hard part is healing yourself. It's okay to be feeling how u are feeling. It's starting ur life again and learning to have control over it. Tell urself it's okay and try to occupy ur time. Talk to a counselor, it'll really help to get it out.
2007-05-05 09:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way i see it,,its like having a rotten tooth,you put up with it for a while and then it gets too much so you have it removed,,you know it was the right thing to do because it was bad but you still feel strange chewing,,you feel the space where the tooth should be simply because it was always there but sooner or later you stop noticing,you become accustomed to the new feeling,,,,give it time and all will be ok,,use your friends and family for support,,tell them how you feel,get them to reaffirm you have a new life to look forward to and this time it will be of your making and not of someone elses.
2007-05-05 10:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll hurt for a few months but then it'll hurt less and less until it doesn't hurt anymore. You're better off without her so hang in there!
Start jogging three times a week and try out a diet so that you'll have a clean mind; do not get drunk and do stupid stuff.
Rent the movie Swingers with Vince Vaughn....great message in this movie that's right up your ally.
2007-05-05 09:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by airmandan10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When by ex went of with a knobhead I was distraught for a long while. Then as peace came to me I realised she had done me a favour. Now my life is utter bliss. You'll get over it aand feel the same way, just don't rush into another relationship to quickly.
2007-05-05 09:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by tucksie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were used to be mentally abused and when the circumstance takes a 360 degree turn, you'd obviously feel very uneasy...this feeling will go away in due time...get some fresh air...enjoy being single for a while before you commit to another new relationship...hopefully you'll be able to find the extremely right one who won't torture you mentally
2007-05-05 09:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋