that you have never lived with before or even stay the night with him before? Do you think things are going ot be werid once you are married? (My Best Friend is doing this!!) I thought it may be hard for them...
2007-05-05 04:51:52 · 19 answers · asked by Small Town 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With some people this is a religious or moral thing, but you never really know a person completely until you have lived with them. I mean dating someone and living with someone are completely different things and people act differently in each situation. If they don't want to live together first, i recommend going on a road trip, that is sort of like living with him but not as permanent. She will get a better idea of what he is really like 24/7.
2007-05-05 05:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by AnnaLee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships in general are hard depending on the couple involved. Marriage is not something that one does not have to work at. I think the marriage will last, unlike many of these so called couples who "shack up" because they want to "test out the waters" first.
Many sociological studies and research have proven that marriages generally last longer if the couple did not live together before hand. Did you know that only a whopping 55% of all co-habitating couples make it to the alter (and 1/2 usually divorce) and 45% of these arrangements eventually dissolve. Relationships where the couple did not live together have a higher rate of success at a whopping 70%. Scary.Personally I think your friends situation of not moving in together before marriage is cool.
If your friend and her fiance feel they don't need a living arrangement or to stay the night before marriage to like each other and get along they are doing much better than most couples these days.
2007-05-05 12:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by J T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has dated him a yr or 2 then they may be ok.If less than a yr she better hold off.You CAN get to know someone without sleeping with them and without shacking with them.You just sit back and watch their life.Do they work, have a car, pay their bills, stay out of trouble with the law,do they go to work everyday.What is their personality?moody quick tempered, easy going, understanding patient kind /selfish self centered ?It takes time to get to know someone and to see under their masks, sex involved before marriahe helps to hide them behind that maskmuch longer and more is invested if the relationship fails.Better to say no to sex and shacking until the masks come off and they see one another as they REALLY are and decide if theyre compatible or not.
2007-05-05 11:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For generations people were married before the lived together or even spent a night together and the divorce rate was nowhere near what it is today.
If they are both happy and willing to undertake such a venture then I say "go for it". Who knows, maybe they're onto something!
2007-05-05 12:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you what. That may be the best thing ever!!! They are being very open and not letting anything or anyone tell them other wise. I did it and am still with the same man who is the best man in the world!!!! (it has been some years now) We learned the meaning of love from each other and have no regrets.
2007-05-05 11:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the best thing to do! That way, with the commitment of marriage, you discover things together, and learn about one another and grow together in love. You best friend is really one smart girl!
2007-05-05 12:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it seems weird, but this is the way to me marraige should go. My husband and I didn't live together before we get married. It wasn't that weird. You just learn to work together on things and that is part of marraige.
2007-05-05 12:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by khaileebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will seem weird and they will have difficulty at first because niether of them know what the other is like and how they like their surroundings to be - but who knows they may do great
2007-05-05 11:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only they and time will know. I wouldnt worry about it. Look at all those that DO experience each other before marriage, and it does NOT work out.
2007-05-05 11:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is quite ok, i guess....
it is not a must to live and stay a night with a guy before you get marry.
I think the most important thing is whether you like his personality or something...
not about staying a night with him...
2007-05-05 12:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by syasya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋