Marriage & Divorce - 25 July 2006

my husband abandoned me about five months ago now, have not heard or seen of him...yet i know he exists in the same town as me because he is stationed military and i see the car on occassion.

fundamentally i am trapped in this marriage, at least i feel that way. i cannot in my own heart file for divorce because it's against my principals...

and yet i'm a twenty year old girl, i have guys (even some of his old friends) coming up to me all the time asking for dates and whatnot. it's very flattering and confusing...

i would never committ infidelity, again that goes with my principals and faith...but is it okay for a girl to attend a dinner and a movie with some interested fellows?

i never lie that i'm still legally married, i never mislead them as to how far our 'date' will go...and yet they still come around!

help, i want to remain a good solid person and wife...what's your opinion please? bad or okay (so long as there is no intimacy)

2006-07-25 08:31:40 · 20 answers · asked by brandylyn_kay 3

Long time ago i met a wonderful girl and she made my life compleet. She lives far away and in the beginning we were just talking to each other with e mail and msn. But i went to visit her a few times and it is getting serious. But the problem is. she is a muslim and i am european.

So now we are making plans for the futher she is planning to tell her parents. But this will be a real big problem for her. Since her family is strict and maybe not even about the religion but moreso for dating and so on. But ofcourse it will be a problem also that i am not a muslim.

Now it seems like her family will never accept me. Some advice please.

2006-07-25 08:29:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been complaining for 10 years that i have to drag him to the bedroom! shouldnt it be the other way a round?he always has an excuse or a conveinient headache.Am i alone in this problem? are the any other women who feel like their in a celebate marriage? i talk to him about it and then i get some but i feel like he is doing it out of obligation not becuase of genuine desire. if we didn have 4 kids i might consider leaving . i love him soo much it is torture to have him around me when he turns me down. how can i make him want me again?

2006-07-25 08:29:12 · 18 answers · asked by customclean95 2

We have been married 10 years. We have 2 kids. I think about being single every day of my life. He isn't horrible to me, but there is no affection. We sleep in seperate rooms. I love to party and have fun, he likes to sit in front of the tv. I am only 32, and I feel like I am missing out on the funner things in life. My kids will always come first, but I am so damn bored, lonely, and constantly seeking attention? Can anyone help?

2006-07-25 08:28:36 · 26 answers · asked by tear streaked angel 2

Do you think it actually helps, or could it make things worse?

2006-07-25 08:24:09 · 16 answers · asked by DIVA 2

mble with her slipped disc to try and make her feel better." And all of these people think I'm crude and crass, when they have the nasty minds. :) Am I right?

2006-07-25 08:17:56 · 23 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

Is that old fashioned or is it still good etiquette? And if her parents are divorced and both remarried, do you go to both sets of parents?

2006-07-25 08:15:39 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-25 08:13:45 · 40 answers · asked by kristopher omesh r 1

to the base of the lockset. Older door locksets need lubricant to keep them working properly. My wife taught me that, she's really smart. Is your significant other smart? Or did you marry a moron like me?

2006-07-25 08:10:08 · 17 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

2006-07-25 08:05:58 · 102 answers · asked by dragon_the_bitch03 1

I have a friend who was married, met a married man- both unhappy in their marriages they begin cheating with each other, then they get married, have a baby, when the baby is about 6 months old he gets a friend who is a female & begins spending alot of time with her, all the while knowing that his wife is at home crying every night they are together because she thinks something is going on between thm. he keep insisting that theres nothing, its only a friendship & he spends time w/ her only regarding sports type things because she really likes sports &the wife doesnt. then the wife begins to find secretive email that say things like "had a great time last night, cant wait to see you again" or "I am so excited for this weekend, we're gonna have so much fun"etc..again the wife is upset &crying but husband continues to ignore her feelings & goes out a few nights a week w/ this "friend". The "friend" gets pregnant to someone & decides its a bad thing, has an abortion, wife thinks it might

2006-07-25 08:03:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate this. I have a policy, I don't cook, I don't clean, and I don't mind kids. I will cook and clean, but only equal to what my partner does and I don't want children. When I tell women this, I get " Well it's your job" and I do that all of the time for my husband. BS. We live in the 21st century don't we?

2006-07-25 08:02:56 · 9 answers · asked by Rose 4

My lady use to complain that she did not enjoy me sexually, as a result of my short penis.

2006-07-25 08:02:33 · 15 answers · asked by De-Prince 1

I'm 30, my wife is 26. We've been married for 3 months, been living together for five years. About a month before the wedding I found out my wife was telling this old guy friend of hers that lives in AZ about our problems. I asked her about it, she said it was nothing, they were just friends. Well we got back from our wedding and our honeymoon then she started talking alot to another old friend of hers, virtually on a daily basis, sometimes pretty long conversations. Now she's back to talking to the guy from AZ and they talk nearly everyday online and sometimes on the phone. It only happens when I'm not around. She says they are only friends but he seems to be getting more of her attention than I am. I'm not too worried about a physical affair because he's in AZ but emotionally she is shut off to me. Is it possible she's becoming emotionally connected to him or am I being paranoid?

2006-07-25 08:00:49 · 37 answers · asked by imagineus2night 1

oose such a bad hotel.. We stayed at a real flea bag and I think we got eaten by bed bugs. She's steamed at me. What can I do to make her love me again?

2006-07-25 07:59:56 · 37 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

i guess its cause he has 7 brothers all over the age of 21, they all have their own families but they still depend on on my dumb hubby for money rent and bills it seems they never have it together and his dumb *** always falls for it putting me in 2nd place i think i should leave him what do you think?

2006-07-25 07:57:48 · 6 answers · asked by Rey V 1

can't sleep with out holding him......when we play with each other its 95% from my side and only 5% form his side. This makes me feel wounder that why I am one who whats to hold him and doing all the things and he does nothing.....I feel frutrated that I have to aks him that...can you hold me please....I want him to touch me and feel me as I like to do with him........I have also cried few times for this but he is still the same.....I want to save my self esteem but I just can't sleep without him.....How do I solve this porblem, how do I get a better sleep without him or make him want me????? Please Help!!!!!

2006-07-25 07:56:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-25 07:55:03 · 14 answers · asked by candiruesque 2

How many of you cheat on your wives and they would swear you are faithful??

2006-07-25 07:51:41 · 15 answers · asked by Taylor 2

I am 4 months pregnant, and my husband insists on remaining a couch potato, and not getting a job. He stays in constant contact with his ex wives, even though they bad mouth me on a periodic basis. What should i do, to help him?

2006-07-25 07:45:52 · 52 answers · asked by jenniklog 2

2006-07-25 07:38:53 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-25 07:36:03 · 10 answers · asked by keke16 1

2006-07-25 07:35:56 · 7 answers · asked by silkshop 2

plastic bottle of tanning oil and told me to stop, that was enough as we were only going to be out in the sun for an hour. Our Jamaican vacation was the best! I think vacations are good for marriages, don't you?

2006-07-25 07:35:51 · 29 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

(See my previous question regarding the affair).
I know that I am not the most attractive person in the world, and that I seriously need to loose weight (which I have done this year a stone and a half s far). My partner has been patient with this and I know it make him very uncomfortable, but he bears with it. At times he gets frustrated and we will talk about it, he tells me he loves me but it is hard. Our imtimate side has been quite S**** recently and now it is only foreplay that we take part in. And it is me trying to please him each time. This has probably been a factor in him looking for something different. But if anyone has any suggestions on how to spruse it up and get him enjoying (and wanting) some intimate time together, please let me know.

2006-07-25 07:32:10 · 5 answers · asked by tweedlededum99 2

my mom remarried when i was 7 i am wondering if ill ever be able to accept the way my "new" family is. I feel like i should move on but can't and no one else can relate to me? plus my stepdad hates me and calls me names all the time? i feel like i dont fit in. they do everything without me, i am in my young 20's but i was just wondering. please help if u can

2006-07-25 07:31:56 · 17 answers · asked by funlovingcaligurl 2

answers from only men plz.what can make a man crazy about a woman.

2006-07-25 07:30:05 · 9 answers · asked by pia a 1

They say, "It's the little things that count." What are those little things that really make you feel special?

2006-07-25 07:25:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for 12 years, now I'm divorced. I met a man who is very solid and stable. He's a little older than I am and has no children. I have 2. He loves me and wants to get married. I don't love him, but i still think he's a good candidate for marriage. Should I be emotional and wait for love or should I view it as a business decision and take this opportunity?

2006-07-25 07:24:32 · 24 answers · asked by karamel_coffee 3

2006-07-25 07:23:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous