Am I the only Married woman who dont get any?

Question

I have been complaining for 10 years that i have to drag him to the bedroom! shouldnt it be the other way a round?he always has an excuse or a conveinient headache.Am i alone in this problem? are the any other women who feel like their in a celebate marriage? i talk to him about it and then i get some but i feel like he is doing it out of obligation not becuase of genuine desire. if we didn have 4 kids i might consider leaving . i love him soo much it is torture to have him around me when he turns me down. how can i make him want me again?

I know there is no affair he runs his own buisness from home and we never leave each other, plus we live in a new town 900 miles away and he dont know anyone here. i think stress is the big issue we are 500,000.00$ in debt

me and hubby are only 30 not midlifing here! in fact i still look pretty dran good after 4 kids!

also at one point when we did it he would lose his erection after about the 5th time i begged him to go to a dr and he confessed to me he didnt have a problem with solo sex , he said he could make it feel better by himself and that my vagina wasnt stimulating him enough! he said he was masterbating 3-5 a day when i got sex from him like every 3 months! he promised to really cut that back. but im still not getting any , he isnt having erection problems with me anymore.

the debt is from opening a store and investing in two big real estate flops!

Answer 1

I am so glad that I am not the only one. I get so mad at him for not meeting my needs that I quit cleaning house, cooking, etc.
I don't know what to do but if you find the solution please email me. [e-mail]

Answer 2

Here's a list of reasons why he could be this way;

1. He has a psychological or physical problem.
2. There is another woman.
3. He is asexual, meaning he simply does not care that much for sex.

Here are your options;
1. Your husband gets a physical exam to confirm no physical problems.
2. Your husband gets a mental health evaluation to confirm no psychological issues (well, ones that pertain to this problem. :)
3. You hire a private detective to follow him around for a while and see if there's something going on.
4. You accept that he does not have the same s*x drive as you and deal with it.

Answer 3

Sweety, this is NOT because of you personally. I am sure your husband has some underlying problem fueling his lack of desire in the bedroom. Does he have low self-esteem? Performance anxiety? Too much strees at work? I urge you guys to see a counselor together and he really needs to dig deep to see why he REALLY does not want to have intimate relations with you. Hopefully, he is not having them with anyone else either!

Answer 4

i feel your pain I'm dealing with the same crap I'm a very sexually person and i need it daily at least once don't get me wrong id take it more but my husband only wants it once a week and we fight all the tI'me over it ,believe me im a very good looking girl and men all the time want me but my husband he did when we first got together but i could tell he didn't like sex as well as me he was married before and she never gave hI'm sex and he got use to it but like i told hI'm im not and im not going to live like this and you knew how much i liked sex when you got with me and we fight alot over it he has tried pills porn lord everything and anything he just don't have a desire for it and he is only 35 I'm like omg what is he going to be like when he is 45 ill get it once every 6 months and that's something I'm not willing to do and he knows it so all i can say is do what I'm going to do either he puts out or i told him he can get out!!

Answer 5

Once men hit around the age of 40, they often will lose their libido. It could be fear of erection, not be able to do it. My husband went through this for a period, I felt he wasn't attracted to me anymore. We finally talked more about this and found Viagra. Believe me, were both happy now.

Answer 6

that is messed up. are saying he is a man with a low sex drive? OR He just don't want to sleep with you?

I am sorry , you can go out and get lingerie but if he is feeling a certian there have to be reason ; you need to find out what it is, why he don't want to play in the sheets. then take it from there.

Answer 7

Okay, not to be crude, but you mentioned he said he does not get enough stimulation from being inside you.

Perhaps you can do some exercises to tighten things up a bit?

Answer 8

I feel like my hubby and I are room mates. All my girlfriends are always complaining that their husbands can't get enough sex, and mine doesn't seem to want any. We have 2 kids, and he doesn't like to have sex when they are home???? I don't know about you, but it makes me feel very lonely... Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 9

GIRL ARE YOU SURE THAT MAN IS NOT HAVING AN (GAY AFFAIR)
you better do more research on him im 28 and ive had only two men in my life and they always begged me for sex... and i gave it to them everytime hell i dont know what kind of man you have

Answer 10

I hate to sound cruel so don't take this personally as I have NO idea what you look like but, have you let yourself go????? Lets face it, men want an appealing body in the sack with them......just curious...........

Answer 11

WHOA 500,000 thousand dollars in debt???? what the hell di dyou guys buy? and now I see why he working at home very hard to pay the money and bills all that. I see why he tired. sorry babe. you should of though that plm before you married him.