My husband insists on being a couch potato, and keeping in touch with his ex's...Is this normal?

Question

I am 4 months pregnant, and my husband insists on remaining a couch potato, and not getting a job. He stays in constant contact with his ex wives, even though they bad mouth me on a periodic basis. What should i do, to help him?

Answer 1

Pray this prayer (I hope you are a Christian because I don't want to offend you)...Father God in the name of Jesus, I pray that you would make me to be the woman of God and the wife and mother that you would have me to be. Father, I bring to you a special request. I ask that you touch the heart and mind of my husband that he would be the man of God and the father and the husband that you created him to be. Let us both do those things which are pleasing to you and that will make us harmonious to each other. You said that a man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church...You said that we are to submit one to another...Father help us to keep our marriage to ourselves and to edify and back one another first. Father remind us of those things we have in common and enjoy doing together so that he will not want to sit in front of the tv all night. Father remind me that I can still be sexy and appealing to my husband even though I am pregnant. Father, to sum it up, I ask you to bless my marriage after your will. These and all blessing we ask in Jesus name, Amen.

Answer 2

Hecks no that isnt normal. U need 2 give him a cerious imean cerious autamatum.Just throw him out.Hes using your time.U have 2 live your life happy. U dont deserve 2 be ignored.Put yur foot down and make him go. I know it Hurts u have 2 start looking out 4 u and that baby. Right now hes going through a faze it will only get worse if u allow the repeated behavior 2 continue. Eithier that or just Stay busy go hang out for long periods on yur free time.Dont let him know or see yur own private skedual. Ignore him. Make him think yur not even interested or attracted 2 him any more. If U ceriously carry out these acts for the weeks and months ahead.Then I bet u without a doubt he will show signs of jealously, hurt and hed finally come 2 his censis that He should be loving u the way u deserve it. Not hurting u. the rest is up 2 u. I got this advise when I got pregnant same thing happend until I flip the script. I know Love hurts but he need 2 share in the same emotions yur experencing -God Bless u and the baby.

Answer 3

In order to help your husband, you must first purchase a pair of steel toed work boots, in your size. Secondly, as your husband gets up from the sofa, either to relieve himself, or get a snack, take one of your legs, either left or right, which ever you feel most comfortable with, and bring it back behind you. When it has been brought back as far as possible, firmly and swiftly bring it forward, as fast and as hard as possible and boot his lazy *** out of the door.
If he can disrespect you enough to not only talk with his ex wives (an indication that he can't stick with a relationship and fix problems properly), but also let them talk badly about his wife who is 4 months pregnant with his child (A sign that he really doesn't care about your feelings or respect you enough to stand up for you and defend you to other people) then he obviously isn't the man for you.
Aside from the fact that you and the baby need to be monitored by a doctor every so often to make sure his child is safe and healthy, this guy should get a job to help pay some bills and plan for both of your futures, not just play the lottery and eat Cheetos all day, watching Jerry Springer.

Answer 4

it is not normal, and he should be working. is there any reason why he's not working (disability) ? if not then he's not being a provider for you which is his job, now i'm not saying that he needs to work and you have to stay home but how can he call himself a man? and if there are no other children with the ex's then there is no reason why you should put up with his conversations and there bad mouthing you if he was a good man he wouldn't put up with it either. you are his wife he is your husband and that's the way it works its a partnership. but above all else do not let him use you it sounds like he may be a cheater and do you know why it didn't work out with his ex's? take a look at his track record it will tell you a lot about the man you married.

Answer 5

Sweetie, the key word in your story is ex-wives plural. He has a serious problem, obviously. If he does not want to step up and get a job to support you and his soon to be child then you need to get on with your life. Don't let a so-called man like that keep you down. It is not healthy for you or your new baby on the way. There is no reason for him to contact his ex-wives unless they have children together. But if they don't then he should not be talking to any of them at all. You need to think about your baby now, not you anymore. Everything that happens from this point on will affect your baby. Keep that in mind as you go on your journey. Think about if he is really the person you should be with especially cause you have a little one on the way. I would gather my thoughts, and make him choose. You or your baby do not need the extra stress that he is causing.

Answer 6

There is no "normal" anything...all that would be is someone's opinion, making a character statement.

If your husband's ex's are bad mouthing you and he continues to talk to them, leave! Plain and simple, get out now. If you're the one working, bringing home the bacon (so to speak), and taking care of his lazy butt (who does nothing for you in return), you'd benefit more by leaving this sorry excuse for a man. He doesn't deserve you, and despite the fact that you're pregnant, doesn't mean you have to put up with this. Do you want your children learning from this man? They learn what they live, and if he's a dead beat dad before his child even arrives when he knows he's expecting, do you honestly think things will change or get any better/easier for you when the baby gets here? He's only gonna make life tough for you and your child. Do what's in your best interest and what's best for your child. I'll keep ya'll in my prayers!

Answer 7

Let me save you a lot of heartache,believe me Ive rode the rodeo before best thing is put your foot down and demand he stop talking to his exes, get off his lazy *** and treat you like a lady with respect, like a loving husband would do and if he cant do it yank the damn phone cord out the wall throw the phone out the window dump over the couch with his *** in it and let him hit the floor and go ....do you listen i mean business!!And if that don't work pack up his crap and give him the phone back and say here is the last call you will ever make to one of your exes again tell her to come pick up your sorry no good for nothing butt up and you can live with her she can have ya,but hell she was smarter than me she didn't want ya that's why your not together no more she knows how you are but since she wants to continue to talk to you well she can come get ya and you too can talk live and in person over at her house bye and see ya don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya!!

Answer 8

OH HELL NAW!!! First of all the only reason he should be keeping contact with them is if they have kids together!! If not he should not be talking to them...maybe he hasn't moved on from them yet! And they should not be mentioning your name at all!!! You should tell him that u don't agree with him talkin to them in your house cuz its obvious that u are the bill payer!! Try bringing home career builder newspapers or sumthin!! a grown *** man should not be sitting home while his pregnant wife is working!! as a matter of fact that is not a man at all that is a boy pretending to be a man!! Jus sit down and talk with him about getting a job especially since u will be having that baby anytime soon and u won't be able to work and someone needs to pay the bills and maybe the ex-wives he is talking too could pay ur bills and maybe even ur phone bill u feel me??!! lol...but yea jus have a talk with him and if that doesn't work try putting ur foot up his ***...no don't do that....jus walk around in sumthin nice and sexy and when he tries to touch or get some say only working men get to get this.....lol.....and say if u get a job maybe u can get this..if not..this goes on lock until you do!!!! Girl u betta use what god gave you!!!!

Answer 9

This is not normal and you should not be worried about helping him, honey, help yourself.............get away from his deadbeat *ss. You do not deserve this. Who is gonna support you and this baby if he refuses to get a job? Is he gonna allow you to be on welfare because he is too damn lazy to get a job? Sounds like he is sorry as sh*t and you'd be better off without him. Please do not bring a child into this relationship because it is gonna always be disfunctional and this innocent baby deserves more than a couch potato "father" so get out of it before the baby is born. If you have to be the one working and supporting a family then have more respect for you and your child than to have to give him any money. The more you have to support him the less you and the baby will have. As far as the exes go........OH MY GOD, sweety, what are you doing with this dog? He absolutely does not respect you one little bit. If he talks to these exes and they bad mouth you on a regular basis and he continues a relationship, on any level, with them then he does not give a rat's *ss about you or your feelings. If he does not want to get a job he doesn't even care about this little baby you are carrying. He is a jerk and a deadbeat, disrespectful *sshole. I know you probably think you love him and you want to help him and you want to make it work out, but I think you are fighting a losing battle. Don't even think you need to help his useless butt...help yourself and your baby. He is an adult and if he did not want to be the way he is then he would not be this way. He has no reason to stay in touch with his exes unless they have kids together and then only, and I mean only, should they talk about the kids. Get some self esteem and self worth and get away from this loser. You deserve better and you should want your child to have better. You should never want your child to grow up in the enviroment that your husband has created and refuses to change for the better of you and your child. Good luck and God bless you. Please wake up and smell the coffee and get out of this before you have this baby.

Answer 10

that is not normal!!!

He could not be on the phone with is ex all the time. He needs to be there for you!!!; that can definitely make a women feel unattractive, unwanted and not appreciated. How do you pay your bills? If he is not bringing in money now or trying to get a job, what makes you think that he will go and get one when the baby arrive you will be stuck doing everything by yourself so be prepared he is showing you know what he is going to so now, those are the signs. It also, sound like he did not let go of certain thing with his ex; they still feeling each other in a way were it pass the comfort zone, be careful they are up to something.

you should have gave him hell to sit there and talk about you with another women that is disrespectful. you better nip it now or things will definitely get worst. =)

Answer 11

You are in a tough spot - and no it is not normal. If I were you I would start hoarding away some money in an account that he knows nothing about. I have a feeling that he has ex-wives for a reason. You may love him but you are going to love that child more and is that the type of person you want them to see as an example?