Family - December 2006

I hate spending the holidays with my family! I graduated from high school early and I recently quit my job and am looking for another at the moment but I have been home with my family more in the last two months than I have in the last two years and It is bothering me so much! I have 3 brothers and 4 sisters and I am the outcast of the family. I have began sleeping all day and staying up all night just to get away from them. I know on Christmas I am going to have to eat with all of them and I eat at our kitchen bench because we do not have enough chairs for everyone. I eat alone and then about two hours later I end up in my room crying because they will all gang up and pick on me. My parents are completely oblivious and I can't talk to anyone about anything because I am afraid to show anyone how I really feel. I do not have any friends (I lost them all when I quit my job, plus they weren't really friends they were just people I talked to at work) Any tips how to get though holidays?

2006-12-04 20:32:46 · 9 answers · asked by im_tommy_2 1

2006-12-04 19:58:26 · 4 answers · asked by j b 5

My sister is 26. She has a business degree from a good college, but has decided to move to LA to become a singer (when she was 21). She has an awesome voice and is a good-looking girl. My husband and I have been supportive of her choice up to this point.

As she gets older, we feel she is getting a little old for waitressing and going no where. She's in debt and will soon be too old to get a real job. I feel like she could make it as a singer, but just not a famous pop star. I told her that she should move to a smaller town or city and try to sing locally or become a vocal coach, etc. I am realizing that she doesn't have the uniqueness to catch an agents eye and change the music industry and become famous. I don't want her to waste any more time following a hopeless dream. Am I right to tell her my opinion?

2006-12-04 19:53:50 · 13 answers · asked by MountainChick 3

But they continue to be mad at you any way. Their father was abusive and yet he can have a relationship with them, and there seems to be no expectations on him. Yet, when I have said something that makes them mad at me, it isn't okay for me to be upset, hurt or what ever because they are. My younger son hasn't talked to me for over a year now, he doesn't like my husband; my oldest daughter came to town but didn't call or come see me; my youngest daughter can get mad at me, and I'm suppose to sit back and be okay with it, with no reactions, esp. hurt or anger. When I try to say any thing about how their behavior has made me feel, I get "It isn't about you, Mom." Well who in the hell is it about then, if it isn't about all the "wrongs" I have committed when they were little, and now that they are grown!? It doesn't matter what I say, don't say, don't do, do, they are going to find something to be mad at me about. I would love to say it doesn't really bother me, and that I'm not upset.

2006-12-04 19:18:52 · 18 answers · asked by Ikeg 3

My grandpa is dying, what should I say to my dad, to let him know I'm there for him?

2006-12-04 18:56:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dunno whats wrong with my father he always been a problem ,yesterday some guest was in our house and my dad asked me to do something in a very mean way its like he was challenging me to say no so I was lil pissed off and I kinda said few words to him in front of the guest. Later, he came to me and said “ what the hell is wrong with you, you got no respect for anybody not even ur own father,I gave you everything car.cell phone.college etc, and u don’t even give me any respect I don’t want money from you I don’t want anything but atleast show some respect and he was yelling” I said “ not because you gave me few things doesn’t mean im ur slave you could have asked me nicely im 20 for gods sake u should respect me as man I aint a kid” he got really really pissed off and started saying alots of things its like he wanted to say it for long time and now he got the chance , so he said” you don’t come stay with us as family u don’t come sit with us when your uncles here you think ur uncles

2006-12-04 18:27:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

so, my step-mother-in-law is really hard to buy for. she is about 50-ish, not girly, doesn't have much money, but is offended easily by people with money (example: me and my husband) and i have to figure out what to get her for christmas. im thinking to spend $30-$40 approximately. she doesn't really LIKE anything but cigarettes... and coffee. however, she is very picky with her coffee and i have no clue what she does like. as for the cigarettes... not going there. so, what the heck do i get this woman? i have done the picture frame & candle route too many times... any different ideas?

2006-12-04 18:20:03 · 5 answers · asked by christy 6

I have a step-son that just turned 5-year-old. He is completely out of control. He doesn't like for his dad and I to talk us to talk to each other and will often interrupt us with "Daddy ummmm..."(he doesn't have anything to say, he just says that until he can think of something to say) every time that we start to talk to each other. He won't do anything that he is told to do and will throw a screaming and crying fit until his dad tells him that he doesn't have to do it. Everyone on both his mom's and dad's side of the family says that he doesn't know that he is doing wrong even though he will tell me that he knows it is wrong. They just give him candy, put him in front of the T.V., or give him what he wants so that he will stop throwing his fit. He runs in the stores tearing them up, he hits, kicks, he was kicked out of school for destroying people's stuff, and screaming and yelling at the teacher. He cries to get his way and everyone gives into him except for me.

2006-12-04 18:02:25 · 14 answers · asked by phaded_matriX 1

I'm 22 years old. I'm going to be 23 next month. I'm ready to move out on my own and run my OWN life. I'm not getting anywhere living under mommy and daddys roof. My life is mess up right now, because of it. I'm in college, but I'm not going to stop going. I get about $812.00 a month. I also get paid from school, but that's only 2 times a semester. But, the thing I'm worried about is my family. They are going to try there hardest to STOP me from moving out. I want to do it without them knowing. Is that bad or good? That is the only way I can do it. My parents need to let me go now, don't you think?

2006-12-04 17:55:40 · 6 answers · asked by graduation_girl2003 2

2006-12-04 17:53:00 · 1 answers · asked by Jumper 1

why is it that my brothers such a pain and my mom always picks him instead of me and everytime i try to talk to anyone in my family they just say oh u always bring this up none cares!please i need some advice!

2006-12-04 17:51:11 · 2 answers · asked by zan c 3

If you were looking at Porn on TV and your step daughter walked in on you would you turn off the TV or keep on watching it and let her watch it with you she is 18 years of age.

2006-12-04 17:38:31 · 12 answers · asked by Bad Dog 1

I gotta admit, I look back fondly of the days when my brother and sister and I used to fight over the joy stick/controller to the atari/coleco......among many other childhood memories.

2006-12-04 17:30:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is having an affair and It's been going on for about 4 years now. She's still doing all her responsibilities and still supporting us for what we're doing but I just can't stand it anymore. My dad knows about it and he doesn't wanna divorce her because he wants our family to be complete. I really feel bad when my aunts tell me that they would always see my mom and this jerk together. Some of my teammates would also see my mom out with this man and it hurts me a lot because I don't want my dad suffering like that. I feel like my mom doesn't care at all when people see her with this man. I tried to confront her like last week but I kinda had a hard time because tears fell on my cheeks already. It's a topic that I don't wanna bring up cuz its hard to talk about it with her. She keeps denying it even though I caught them many times already but they didn't see me. She's just a fuck3n liar and has been cheating on my dad and I can't stand it anymore. Please help me!

2006-12-04 17:14:32 · 21 answers · asked by swimmer 2

In a little less than a year I have made ALL the effort as far as keeping in touch with my father. I have talked to him 3 times this year and we usually talk atleast once or twice a month. My grandmother died this past September and I asked that he be there for me. He did not show up and It really hurt my feelings. My grandmother was CRAZY about my father and thought the world of him even during times that she should not have. It just bothered me so bad that he wouldnt want to pay his last respects and be there for his daughter. We have just formed a relationship 6-7 years ago...during my adult life. But I have to say in the little bit of time we had grown close but the last 2 years he has withdrawn from me. I have asked him gently if there was anything wrong and he claims absolutely nothing. I also let him know that if he wanted to talk to me he could call and he has yet to call. We usually spend christmas and thanksgiving together and he has not called to invite me.I amhurt

2006-12-04 17:14:17 · 3 answers · asked by lullabyforthree 2

I want to live forever. How do I go about doing this?

2006-12-04 16:51:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 14 and just want to go hang out with my friends once and awhile. I have always been a 4.0 student, I have never gotten detention or anything like that, I spend every night with my family. All I want to do is go to a sleepover for once in my life or be allowed to talk to my friends on the phone for 5 minutes without my parents listening on the other end. My parents constantly make me feel superficial if I wear lip gloss while there are other girls who look like clowns with all that makeup. I think my parents are way too overprotective and they don't know how good they've got it. Am I wrong? Should I push for more freedom or will it ruin my relationship with my parents forever? Why do they do what they do?

2006-12-04 16:43:59 · 23 answers · asked by unoulvme 2

in my last question i wrote about being molested as a child. it was by someone in my family. the whole family knows. at every family function i have to see him. i can't stand it. he looks at me i cringe, i havent said anything to him about how i feel except when it happend and i was 7 it has been 15 years, he wants to hug me and i feel like that little child all over again and just let him. I guess i feel like i have to to put on this face that everything is ok. No body knows how much it still hurts me. I have a 4 year old neice and when we are all together i follow her around im not gonna leave him alone for a second. This sorry excuse for a man is very sick and i dont feel sorry for him is that bad.

2006-12-04 16:43:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm sure you've read my other questions on my dog and my daughters. My 3 year old Pitt Bull Sadie was just spayed last night and she has a cone on her head. WELL... one of my 5 year old daughters is FLIPPING OUT! She's crying about seeing Sadie's stitches and keeps picking at them and trying to take the cone off her head! (And AGAIN, don't tell me about my pit bull and my 5 year old daughters, I love her and would never give her up, she's the sweetest creature in the world, so bloody hush up) I sat my daughter down and had a chat about what happened and why we cannot touch Sadie's sutures and e collar, but she is relentless! Is there anything I should do or say extra to stop her? Her sister understands, and they're squabbling about it. So now it's between my poor dog with the cone on her head being harrassed by one of my 5 year olds whilst my other is practically pulling her pigtails off just to get her off the ruddy dog, all while screaming "DAD!" like it's going out of fashion! HELP!

2006-12-04 16:25:45 · 9 answers · asked by Arthur Andrews. 1

My Mom and I went out of town to visit my sister and 2 be there for her 1st baby 2 be born, and she acted like she didn't want us 2 bother w/her and her child. Like she didn't want us 2 help take care of the baby when she wuz born. Her husband as well felt this way, he got pissed off when we picked up the newborn. My mom feels like she wuz unwanted and so we returned. Does this sound normal 2 u guys. The husband didn't like us and could't understand y we kept in touch w/eachother every day, because he said he dosen't even call his family, if they want 2 talk 2 him they'll call him. She's 28yrs old and it seemed like her husband wuz pushing the baby on her, cuz this wuz their 1st 1 and she said she wuzn't ready 2 have 1 yet, meanwhile he cursed my mom and I out continually the whole x we were there and she didn't say anything 2 him, she kept quite the whole x as well, instead of saying something 2 him. Hell he's only 23yrs old @ that & very disrespectful. Haven't spoken since.....

2006-12-04 16:20:51 · 6 answers · asked by shortyb5 2

My brother has been in Iraq now since early September. We send him care packages twice a week with all of his favorite snacks, movies, necessities and others... but what do we get him for Christmas!? I was thinking a PSP, but he already has one. I thought about a digital camera and he has one. He also has his laptop and portable dvd player over there with him....
What's left to get!?

2006-12-04 16:02:51 · 9 answers · asked by *Tee*Tee* 2

Only a small part of the tampon is sticking out? Does it need to be all the way in?

2006-12-04 15:54:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

...that involves you but your parents continuously deny it, even if you know (part way) that they are not telling the truth, and/or hiding/denying information ("reality shifting")?

Paul

2006-12-04 15:14:29 · 13 answers · asked by dunric 1

My mother is a very selfish person. She buys herself Gucci & Luis Vuitton purses but she has not even thought about some of my needs(clothes & food) in the past. My mom & I constantly argue & I don't think we can resolve any issues. I'm 18 now & I'm moving out soon. I'm also thinking about estranging my mom when I move out. Is that a good choice or is there any other solution besides telling her how I feel(she doesn't listen).

2006-12-04 15:12:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Santa was delivering gifts as usual, when at one house a beautiful young woman was awaiting his arrival. She begged him to stay and cuddle with her on the couch. Santa declined, saying "Ho -ho, gotta go. Gotta deliver these presents, you know."

Trying again, the lovely young thing removed her clothing down to her underwear. "OH Santa, won't you please stay?" she queried . Taking a long look, Santa sighed and said "Ho- ho, gotta go. Gotta deliver these presents you know."

Not to be denied, this gorgeous female stripped off every stitch of remaining clothing, smiled and said invitingly "Oh, Santa, please reconsider? Stay with me?"

With a pained look on his face, Santa groaned and said "Ho - ho, gotta go. Gotta deliver these presents you know." And with that, he turned and left. Several minutes passed, and Santa re-appeared, plopping himself down on the couch next to the beautiful woman.

"Santa---you decided to stay??" she asked.

Santa grinned, looking at his crotch and said "Hey - hey, gotta stay. Can't get up the chimney THIS way!"

2006-12-04 14:50:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is my sister so freakin cute?

2006-12-04 14:49:00 · 3 answers · asked by ♥worship♥ 1

I am 18 and just recently decided I need to confront my biological father to deal with my depression. When I was born, my mother told him he couldn't see me until I was old enough to ask, and because she took me away from him, he hasnt been sober since. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict. He still never tried to really contact me after I contacted him a few times. Is it bad for me to see him? I told my mother I need to see him and she could help me or I would do it alone, but either way it was getting done, and she is agreeing to pay for my plane ticket. Does anyone have any experiences, and advice, suggestions on what to say? PLEASE HELP

2006-12-04 14:47:49 · 7 answers · asked by College Wifey 2

im so ugly...i dont care if this is a stupid question...my feelings are hurt by rude people but my dad keeps telling me im beautiful...
i dont get it...i used to be okay...now i have acne,glasses and beacuse of stressed i gained tons of weight.
my hair wont listen to me and snice my dad is single father and is poor i cant buy and products to help me to be prettier.i hate it when people staire at me and say stuff and laugh i cry every night and im sick of telling myself"why cant you be pretty?"
alot of people say appearence dont matter but it does i hate miooros and im sick of looking at myself at the mirror and im not going to do any more.I dont want to pitty myself but no one listens to me and i hate it when people make fun of me and i have nothing to say back this sucks and i really hate it i DO think im ugly and i
cant help it somtimes i wish i got a knife and killed myself no one listens to me beacuse they think im boring cuz the way i look
i want to quit everything...and dienothing can make me feel sercure anymore everytime i have somthing to hold on to
my hurt eats threw it why am i even here? why do i have to live like this?
why is everyone eles haveing a better life even thought they have the same feeling?
am i that stupid? dont people ever think in a place where they havent felt beautiful?
what did i do wrong to feeel this hidouse?

2006-12-04 14:40:13 · 31 answers · asked by Grack 5

im so ugly...i dont care if this is a stupid question...my feelings are hurt by rude people but my dad keeps telling me im beautiful...
i dont get it...i used to be okay...now i have acne,glasses and beacuse of stressed i gained tons of weight.
my hair wont listen to me and snice my dad is single father and is poor i cant buy and products to help me to be prettier.i hate it when people staire at me and say stuff and laugh i cry every night and im sick of telling myself"why cant you be pretty?"
alot of people say appearence dont matter but it does i hate miooros and im sick of looking at myself at the mirror and im not going to do any more.I dont want to pitty myself but no one listens to me and i hate it when people make fun of me and i have nothing to say back this sucks and i really hate it i DO think im ugly and i
cant help it somtimes i wish i got a knife and killed myself no one listens to me beacuse they think im boring cuz the way i look
i want to quit everything...and die

2006-12-04 14:29:08 · 12 answers · asked by Grack 5

okay my cousin son 2nd b-day is this sat the 9th should i go iam the god mother but there still is tension with us and i dont care for that family iam a stronger person towards them there trouble and i need to stay away or i get caught up in there drama its serious stuff they do and they can care less on my feelings on the things they do since i help them alot dispite there crap iam done and iam numb to anything they do so help i cant do it nomore like puting up with there mess i dont hate them i just need to stay away so should i go or shouldnt i go

2006-12-04 14:24:21 · 3 answers · asked by dvcgurl 7