I get really depressed around the holidays, any tips?

Question

I hate spending the holidays with my family! I graduated from high school early and I recently quit my job and am looking for another at the moment but I have been home with my family more in the last two months than I have in the last two years and It is bothering me so much! I have 3 brothers and 4 sisters and I am the outcast of the family. I have began sleeping all day and staying up all night just to get away from them. I know on Christmas I am going to have to eat with all of them and I eat at our kitchen bench because we do not have enough chairs for everyone. I eat alone and then about two hours later I end up in my room crying because they will all gang up and pick on me. My parents are completely oblivious and I can't talk to anyone about anything because I am afraid to show anyone how I really feel. I do not have any friends (I lost them all when I quit my job, plus they weren't really friends they were just people I talked to at work) Any tips how to get though holidays?

Answer 1

Find something to do! Go volunteer at a help organization!
Helping others is often a great step in helping yourself!

Answer 2

I think that you need to move in a all new direction in life, first ask yourself was quitting your job before finding a new one the best thing to do?. I suggest that you stop sleeping all day and staying up all night because this is definatly a sign of depression, no one has to be depressed, a person has to make a conscience descion to become depressed. Stop calling yourself the outcast of the family, are you different from eveyone else because of your insecurities or you have less money, if these are reasons why, then do a 360degree turnaround. First step stop feeling sorry for yourself, saying you don't have any friends is such a immature statement, who needs friends after elementary school anyway, you only have associates, because almost no one can be trusted as a friend if you meet them after elementary school. Stop all the negative talk because all it does is make others feel your don't deserve respect, that they are better than you and they may be a penny away from the same situation that your in. It is a good thing to offer volunteer work during this time of year, HOWEVER you are one that does not have a job, so volunteer may not be something you have time for right now, you need some money. So with that being said, get up and do the right thing make something happen for you today, put yourself first. You have to think you're important and respect yourself before you are able to feel that others are important and you have respect for them. Some people considers dependance as a sign of weakness, someone that doesnt deserve respect. I want your next comment on this page to be more positive and upbeat, Go back to work -try seeking temp work, they hire a lot of times during the holidays and the positions sometimes turns into a permenant job. Good Luck to you I know that you can do it.

Answer 3

I am sorry that you feel so bad about your family........ I dont understand why family members treat each othe like that... .......you need to let them know how you feel ......will they listen to a serious conversation.....or start with telling one or both of your parents how you feel. Your family is supposed to be the people in the world you can turn to when things are tough or to have fun with. I realize that isn't the case for MANY people. I dont think there is such a thing as a perfect family.
If you can't resolve the problems with your family you should do something to fix it.........you have to help yourself.....start by keeping yourself very busy....get a new job.....and make new friends................take some classes........further your education.......stay so busy that you won't have time to hang around with your family.
As far as Christmas.......you might have to just tough it through this year and know that by next year you will probably have improved your life.
I think you should concentrate on yourself and on others......can you get involved in helping others in your community.......help an elderly person who is alone or help with gathering food for the needy.......sometimes if we do stuff for others we forget about our own problems.
I always tell my kids......if you don't like the way something is........do something to change it for the better........I have had to follow my own advice many times too.......sometimes it's hard to remember to do that........It is easier to sit around and be depressed about it. I hope things get better for you.

Answer 4

Go volunteer in some organisations or you may find some part-time jobs from newspapers. Go find some money is good too! You will not need to depend on your parents! With your problem, you are quite boring...maybe, you go have a email account so you can chat with some people through internet, I can give you some email address:-

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Answer 5

After you eat dont wait 2 hours to go to your room. Do it right after you eat then they cant make fun of you. Another thing you might do is instead of spending that evening wwith your family volunteer to serve meals at a homeless shelter. It would be a good excuse to not have to be there and youd be helping people lonlier then yourself.

Answer 6

Start a hobby--it might take your mind off your family and introduce you to possible friends. Try online sites to meet people that share your interests.

Answer 7

stop your fantasy drama!
you are being put to the test
life is not fair
it will never be
let go of that pain
and forgive them
and be thankful for them that they made you see, why it is you get so pissed off or sad
why DO you get so pissed off or sad?
They are only a mirror for you

cut out the booz,tobacco sugar, meat, drugs they are really depressing!

Answer 8

I am sorry you're going through this.

I'd be your friend and invite you over to play games.

Can you by chance go online or rent movies?

Answer 9

do you have friends in real life?
go out with them on christmas.
if not, find friends on the net and talk with them.
just find someone who accepts the way you are.