My mother is a very selfish person. She buys herself Gucci & Luis Vuitton purses but she has not even thought about some of my needs(clothes & food) in the past. My mom & I constantly argue & I don't think we can resolve any issues. I'm 18 now & I'm moving out soon. I'm also thinking about estranging my mom when I move out. Is that a good choice or is there any other solution besides telling her how I feel(she doesn't listen).
2006-12-04 15:12:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd say you were already estranged. You don't have to make a formal statement.
If you just want to yell at her and tell how sorry she is, it may make YOU feel better for an hour or so, but it's obviously not going to make a difference in how she feels. From what you say, she isn't open to suggestion. She's looking out for Number One, so maybe you should to.
It's hard and hurtful to try to make a selfish parent love you, and some kids spend their entire lives trying to get a parent to notice them. I know 40 year olds still trying to impress an oblivious dad or a mother who prefers another sibling. It just won't happen in real life, only in the movies. So Please be kind to yourself, since no one else will, and do what's best for you.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-04 15:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by His Old Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you and your mom don't get along - the mother/daughter relationship is always a complicated one. I would not reccommend estranging your mom, however, if she is very selfish than all you can do is try not to be like her - but you only get 1 mother and 1 life to love her and if she dies and you've estranged her you'd feel terrible. I really hope that you two can work things out - maybe a little distance is the solution.
2006-12-04 15:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
...someone has to be the adult. Move out and show your mom how independent (and not materialistic) you are. You'll only have one mother in life, don't estrange your relationship because of her selfishness and frivolous spending. Sounds like you're a mature girl who recognizes the value in family and morals, you don't have to say anything, action speaks louder than words. You & your mom need a "chill out" period to access the important things in life - family. Give it some time.
Continued Blessings to You (and Mom)
2006-12-04 15:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don estranged yourself with mom...you wanna move out, thats good so to lessen any conflict that might arise. Lie low for awhile cos absent breed fonder!
2006-12-04 16:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wats a stupid intentions are going in ur mind.Hav u lost all ur wits?This is the way u try to solve ur problems.In my opinion The person who keeps such dirty intentions abt their parents is number one culprit and loser in the sight of Society and as welll as God.Wat u think u ll be feeling more relaxed after doing such thing.It ll be more like hell for without mother.Even if its ur step mother u shud not try to bring such thoughts in ur mind.Parents are like heaven for kids.If ur mother treats u in this way,she keeps the right to use her money in any way on herself.Since u are only 18yrs u shud not mind too much abt that.Afterall she is ur mother.
2006-12-04 16:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ishh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations! You survived this ego-driven individual! This is your chance to find caring people that you can relate to and who can care about you. Limit your mother's access to you. YOU chose when and where and how long. Learn everything you can about yourself, your interests and talents and abilities. And thank God you do not share the worst of her personality traits!!
2006-12-04 15:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to your mother and now that you are older and moving out it might make your relationship better with her. please at least try to get along with her you only get one mom. trust me when she is gone you will miss her, God bless you and you are in my prayers.
2006-12-04 15:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by teresa.edmonds@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋