My sister is 26. She has a business degree from a good college, but has decided to move to LA to become a singer (when she was 21). She has an awesome voice and is a good-looking girl. My husband and I have been supportive of her choice up to this point.
As she gets older, we feel she is getting a little old for waitressing and going no where. She's in debt and will soon be too old to get a real job. I feel like she could make it as a singer, but just not a famous pop star. I told her that she should move to a smaller town or city and try to sing locally or become a vocal coach, etc. I am realizing that she doesn't have the uniqueness to catch an agents eye and change the music industry and become famous. I don't want her to waste any more time following a hopeless dream. Am I right to tell her my opinion?
2006-12-04 19:53:50 · 13 answers · asked by MountainChick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a brother who is in a very similar circumstance. He is very talented also and works as entertainment on cruise ships! I believe success in life can be defined by character, values morals and so on. If your sister is a good person and she is happy, why put pressure on her as she fully understands how long she has been trying to make it! None of us has the right to squash anothers dreams! life is short and if she is happy than be happy for her!!
2006-12-04 21:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by smokey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you should be open and honest with her because you are her sister....she would expect that from you. The only thing is that she's the only one who can really decide when to give it up or keep going. She's old enough to make her own life decisions. You wouldn't want her to go through her life wondering if she could have lived her dream. She has to make this decision.I wish you all the best.
2006-12-05 10:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suggest you encourage her to be real and to look deeply at her choices, without being specific about your opinions. There is nothing you can do to get her to see things the same as you, but if she is completely honest with herself she will make the right decisions. It is hard for her to change her mind after investing so much time and committment into her present course, so be sensitive and avoid stamping on her dreams.
2006-12-05 04:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by meerkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do I have a feeling she already knows how you feel? Soon too old to get a real job sheessshhhh not like she's 90! Let her live her laugh she has her degree which can not be taken away from her by how many birthday she has. These are her choices to make she will resent you if you belittle her.
2006-12-05 05:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes- thats a tough calll. I think if she isn't ready to give in yet then so be it... but I think a better approach would just be to ask her what she's been doing and what her plan is these days- maybe she hasn't thought about it in awhile.Maybe she will think about what all she has given up in order to follow the path she is on right now. maybe she ought to seek advice on how to tweak it!? I would never tell her right out the things you stated above! It would entirely break her heart! Whatever you do be positive and supportive.
2006-12-05 04:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by ANALISE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one is to old for the singing business..... look at Cher, Shaina twain, Blondie, Elton john, etc. if she has a dream let her follow it. if it doesn't work out at least she found out for herself and not because you stopped her. if that should happen she will most probably hold you responsible for not following her dream the rest of her life...... however, encourage her to sing but also encourage her to get a steady good job if the singing should not work out. in some way you are then standing by her but also helping her in a safe direction for her future.
2006-12-05 04:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by lilypod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her do it and be there for her if she makes it or not.
Love her no matter what.
You can tell her your opinion but then tell her you will stand by her in her decision and love her either way.
I love my sister more than life and would never hurt her or want her to get hurt.
I see where you are coming from.
You don't want to see her get hurt or fail but just being there for her will make her day.
If she goes she will know that she has you backing her up and if she doesn't make it, she knows she has your shoulder to cry on.
2006-12-05 04:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Stephie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself. Let her find out for herself or she will resent you for the rest of her life and never know for sure if she would have made it. As long as she is not hitting you up for funds and youre not supporting her let her try to live her dream. There are enough negative people in the world.
2006-12-05 03:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don tthink u should tottally bash her but shes gettin a lil old for tha industry like right now her time is windin down. if she was in tha industry big time already her career would probably b endin soon. u can continue 2 support her but jus sit her downa nd talk 2 her mostly with luv and try to et her to rwrite down her plans for tha net couple years cu she may have lost sight and now is jus blindly stabbin at celebrity??? so sit her down and talk
2006-12-05 04:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by kakesofsugar and lumps 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never, do you wanna be in a job you dont like, in a rough world with nothing to look forward to but death? most people do give up on their dreams, but hey they still need the dream, never do that!
besides quitting is for wimps and would you like to have been the 1 to plant the seed of reality into someone? hey we all need these dreams, and natural evolution of our mind just makes us ummm rethink our wants and needs, the dream is still there, but it's different. hey maybe you should give up on being human(j/k, but human and humane go hand in hand and that isnt humane)
encourage her with a sense of reality and let nature work. its her life. hell i did nothing but work to be a rockstar all my life, but i knew from the moment my ex wife said im P..... it was over, but being single and still raising those children fulltime, its my life, but how could any1 have the right to take away my escape and hope? believing in the tooth fairy or santa doesnt hurt that much does it?
can she sing? give her my email or name. i can play, just cant do it all on my own.
2006-12-05 04:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by l8ntpianist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋