Family - December 2006

I have 2 step sons who live with me and my husband. They are good kids- with the exception of the teenage years. The thing is their mom is not paying any child support. She has a good job but feels she doesnt have to pay. We have just bought a lettermans jacket, class ring, year book etc. for the oldest son. His mom had told him that she would buy the class ring. When he called her she told him no. He was really upset and started to cry and hasnt spoken to her since. There have been numerous times that she has disappointed the kids. Not showing up for their programs etc.. We did get him the ring ourselves, but what i am wondering is how dowe handle situations when they are so upset with her and how do we explain her not helping support her kids?

2006-12-08 03:17:05 · 7 answers · asked by luckygirl 2

My mother is a very difficult, angry, controlling person and it is especially hard for me this time of year because I am the only one of the 4 children that live near her. She has never loved her kids or grandkids and everyone expects me to entertain her at Christmas but it is so stressful for me that I keep falling back into a deep depression. She sits around feeling sorry for herself all the time. I invited her for dinner at Christmas Eve but then she goes and tells my sister that she spends the holidays alone every year. She was at my house last year for Christmas!
She constantly picks at everything I do and she tells me my house stinks and says hurtful things. She was at my house last year for Christmas! The closer I get to Christmas the more stressed I get. I really don't want her at my house because I will have a very difficult time looking at her without anger.

2006-12-08 03:07:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is making me a grandmother and I am so upset. Everybody tells me that once the baby comes that I will feel different but I say that I want feel different. I feel so old right now. I am not happy about it no matter what people tell me. I just cant see myself being called a grandmother. I know that I am going to be one no matter what but it is still so hard to accept. Can anybody see my point. I want to be a grandmother one day but not right now. I have a ten year old son so I dont feel like a grandmother. At this time you are suppose to feel so proud. I havent even told anybody except my best friend.I guess I am in denial and I am not ready to acknowledge it. My friend made the mistake of calling me grandma and I almost lost it. Am I wrong for acting like this. I pray with time that those feelings will go away. I do want to love my first grandchild. Help!!!

2006-12-08 03:07:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby threw a party and I invited my sister. After a few drinks and food, she started getting hit on by one of my hubbys friends, but she turned him down 5 times. What is wrong with her, this guy is loaded, he owns like 6 houses, a beachfront property and is very successful. I swear my sister doesn't know how to be a lady.

2006-12-08 02:59:16 · 22 answers · asked by Wendy Love Muffin 1

i can't see the actual need until they are driving age

2006-12-08 02:58:30 · 32 answers · asked by Mr.Obvious 2

Teenagers with tough parents in many of my friends cases lie to their parents or find a way through their parents. My Mom raised me on the loose side and sure I made some mistakes but I've learned.

2006-12-08 02:46:26 · 12 answers · asked by thunderbabe128 2

For several years my mom was menatlly ill (paricularly paranoia). She really hit rock bottom while I was in high school. For this reason my teenage years were a living hell. I wasn't allowed to leave the house or have friends. While I was a very good kid (good student; never got in trouble), she would still accuse me of doing awful things that I never even got close to doing. She would constanly tell me that I would grow up and be prostitute because all I was good for was sucking d***. Day after day she would make comments of that nature. As a result I became ill with depression. This is something I've struggled with for a few years. Anyhow, the both of us are fine now (she got the help she needed), but I have not forgiven her 100%

2006-12-08 02:44:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I just had a baby girl in august and he is so in love with her for xmas i want to make a colage with pictures of both of them and a father daughter story or poem. Something that will really mean something to him. Or if anyone has any ideas

thanks

2006-12-08 02:39:50 · 3 answers · asked by whoohoo2 2

ok she called me up scince shes at my aunts house. she isn't dying and she is saying goodbye to me what does she mean by that.

2006-12-08 02:22:36 · 13 answers · asked by narsi_hunter 1

They were very close and it is so close to Christmas.

2006-12-08 02:12:40 · 14 answers · asked by texasgirl5454312 6

She tends to buy stuff around the year and hoards it so she always has her choclates and drinks.She does not need much in the way of clothing HELP ?

2006-12-08 02:12:10 · 22 answers · asked by zimscot 1

My sister is surgically attached to her phone, occassionally i need to talk to her about something or another, but she always ignores me, how do i attract her attention?

2006-12-08 02:09:47 · 17 answers · asked by taxi 6

She is afraid of the loss that she'll get from losing her current step-mom who treats her good and nice and the fear of when she finally meet her birth-mom whom she has never met b4, is she a slut or is she good...etc. Please help me to help her in answering this question. For a friend...

2006-12-08 02:02:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous 2

He's 14 and 6 months ago was doing bad stuffl. Bad crowds, unnacceptable behavior, he even was kinda mean to his younger sister. He got a severe punishment and woke up to what he was doing. He changed completely, made up for with his sister and today is an excellent kid. But that punishment traumatized him, he got depressed, feeling guilty, avoids friends, is always lone and lonely. His only social contact is with 2 friends and some people at a church where he volunteered to some activities. He was forgiven completely, but avoids us, is never at ease when we're around. It's hard to talk to hi. His respectful, today we have nothing to complain, but avoids us. Some days ago we could have a talk with him, he said he feels guilty, we'll always remind him of what happened. He also says he agrees what he did was wrong, but think we were too harsh and doesnt beleive we love him. Something broke inside him, he cant see us as loving parents any more. And each day he's more depressed and sad

2006-12-08 01:59:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here is the deal my Dad is moving out of town and he is going to give me a couch and some dressers because I dont really have any furniture in my apartment. So I need this stuff. The thing is we need to find a friend with a truck, and do not have the money to rent one. I got my ex boyfriend, who I am still good friends with, to help me out, for free. My Dad hates him and wont accept him coming over to help me. Because my ex is barrowing the truck from his friend I can not take it and drive it myself. So now my Dad wants me to spend the money to rent a truck! Which I think is extremely unreasonable, its like $50-90 and right now its Christmas so I need the money I have! So, I dont know what to do and Im really ticked off at my Dad. He has never really been there for me in my life when I was younger or as an adult and now he cant set his feelings aside for 30-40 min to help me out. I don’t have any friends with a truck. Any suggestions? What would you do about either?

2006-12-08 01:53:13 · 9 answers · asked by workless 2

2006-12-08 01:18:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok, so bills are sucking my life dry. i live with my parents and we all join our money together to pay the bills. sometimes, we cant even pay some things, other times we pay them late...wutever. thing is, i have a second job that i make a little extra cash. usually i would use this money for gas or something. i been saving up a little every week to have a nice xmas in where we can all forget about everything and i wanted to bu them and my boyfriend at least one small gift. knowing that i have this money in my possesion and knowing that theres some stuff htat needs to be paid (eventhough all i really have is like $140) i just feel bad and dont know if i should just let go of the money, or sacrifice a little to make someone else happy...

2006-12-08 01:10:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

what would u say or do if u found out that your son-inlaw who u r close to was taken your panties from your hamper for years for pleasure &than wear them when he's done taken care of himself.

2006-12-08 00:53:37 · 12 answers · asked by boardinblack 4

ok..i likve with my grandparents and well we dont exactly get along...well we fight all the time, and now they are threatening to kick me out...they always scream at me when my younger brother always does teh worse thing, well i put abox in her face and told her to scream at it and she took it and hit me with it....i can leave and go live with my real dad, but i would have to change schools and i have alot of friends that really care about me and i hate to leave my neightbors cuz they always get me away and call me to babysit for them if they know i get into a fight...what do i do???

2006-12-08 00:47:07 · 20 answers · asked by Tammi 1

So there's no point buying her a present, but just in case she doesn't die, how can I put "I thought you'd be dead by now" nicely?

Such a dilemma.

2006-12-08 00:46:04 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

why or why not?

2006-12-08 00:36:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are you a grandparent or senior citizen? If so, what advice would you give your grandchildren? With broad strokes, what has life taught you that you think younger generations should know about?
I'm of the opinion that our grandparents are a most reliable source of knowledge, so that's why I'm asking you!
Thanks!

2006-12-08 00:32:59 · 7 answers · asked by Skubba 1

i am 18 yrs old - a female . and im going into my 3rd month of univ and screwed up financially - like i overspent...dads really pissed off..i live alone also - my parents live out of th country...what can i tell my dad or what is a good argument/reason to convince my dad it was a mistake and a first year 'student screw up'

2006-12-07 23:56:59 · 22 answers · asked by Betty 2

My dad doesn't like to spend alot of money, but i wanna get him something nice. He likes brand clothes that are all cotton and belts, he also likes the Eagles football team. but i don't wanna get him clothes again i got that every christmas!

2006-12-07 23:54:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mommy is always sad, but she says it's not my fault. I asked her if it was God's fault, but she didn't answer, and only started crying harder, so I don't ask her that anymore. The reason she is so sad is that I'm so sick. I was born without a body. It doesn't hurt, except when I go to sleep.
The doctors gave me an artificial body. My body is a burlap bag filled with leaves. The doctors said that was the best they could do on account of us havin' no money or insurance. I would like to have a body transplant, but we need more money. Mommy doesn't work because she said employers don't hire crying people. I said, "Don't cry, Mommy," and she hugged my burlap body. Mommy always gives me hugs, even though she's allergic to burlap, and it chafes her real bad.

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2006-12-07 23:53:51 · 22 answers · asked by cazmo 4

Yesterday I had a procedure done in the dr's office, and she basically forced herself to go. My husband was going, why did she feel the need to go? My mom wasn't going because I told her my husband was going. But no...my MIL always takes it upon herself to be right in the middle! Anyway, yesterday she made a comment about my mom not being outgoing. My mom is shy & she sort of has a bad self esteem so she may be not outgoing & not as talkative as my MIL but my mom is the nicest person in the whole world. She isn't as wealthy as his parents but she is a single mom raising my younger sister the best she can! She also made the comment that she don't know how to talk to my mom. WTF? That is the 2nd time she has said my mom isn't outgoing. I'm tired of her acting like this. She says she don't want to make my mom jealous or mad & that she don't want to step b4 her when it comes to me but she sure is bossy sometimes! We are going to be trying to conceive soon & in a way I dread it!

2006-12-07 23:48:40 · 15 answers · asked by beachbum26 2

I and my siblings talk together well. we can talk about anything.But it seems different about our parents. My parents don't like us to enter the conversation when they talk to each other. They only talk about them, about their friends, and about their work. They're always busy at work, they dont tell us stories, we dont eat together, and they don't even bother to ask how are we doing.
I and my mom often have misunderstanding. Even for a little thing that I say, or even just for a little comment, she says "Who are you to tell me that?" she also says I might as well be her mother. And the argument starts even though I didn't mean to offend her. There was a time when my mom spank my face and pulled my hair I and my mom were already arguing while I was crying and it just started from a little thing.Then when my dad saw it, he boxed me and pushed me away.my mom also said even though my my face get swollen while going to school It doesnt matter. Can a loving parent do that?

2006-12-07 23:44:45 · 8 answers · asked by Himitsu 2

i am 18 yrs old - a female . and im going into my 3rd month of univ and screwed up financially - like i overspent...dads really pissed off..i live alone also - my parents live out of th country...what can i tell my dad or what is a good argument/reason to convince my dad it was a mistake and a first year 'student screw up'

2006-12-07 23:42:25 · 3 answers · asked by Betty 2

I lived with my bf's house for the past 6 months.I was the 1st gf to stay in his house.He have another brother younger than him by 2 years.His parents love both the sons alot.When i stepped into their house, i felt that his mum doesnt like me as if i snatch away her son.She gave me a nasty look when not in front of my bf but when my bf was with me, she will turn out to be very nice to me in front of my bf.I was sad OF COURSE but didnt made me change my attitude towards her despite of all this.But, recently, i felt myself getting very upset and felt of leaving my bf. I knew this was unfair to my bf.But, i really cant stand it anymore...

2006-12-07 23:41:27 · 14 answers · asked by Endless 2

2006-12-07 23:36:10 · 1 answers · asked by yuki 1