ok..i likve with my grandparents and well we dont exactly get along...well we fight all the time, and now they are threatening to kick me out...they always scream at me when my younger brother always does teh worse thing, well i put abox in her face and told her to scream at it and she took it and hit me with it....i can leave and go live with my real dad, but i would have to change schools and i have alot of friends that really care about me and i hate to leave my neightbors cuz they always get me away and call me to babysit for them if they know i get into a fight...what do i do???
2006-12-08 00:47:07 · 20 answers · asked by Tammi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, do your grandparents have legal guardianship over you and your brother ? If the answer is yes, then you really don't have any options. It seems that you are both under 18 years old. See if your Dad can intervene. Are these his parents ?
Right now, I am only hearing one side of the story. You haven't mentioned why they are yelling at you guys other than your brother doing ' the worst thing ', whatever that is. No one is an innocent. Look at your behavior and attitudes and see where the conflicts might be coming from.
Good luck.
2006-12-08 00:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation, but I think you may have answered your own question.
If getting along with your grandparents is not going to work, maybe the best thing for you to do is to live with your dad. That does mean changing schools and friends, but you can make new friends at the new school, but if they're threatening to kick you out, it may be your only choice.
As long as your happy being with your dad, it would be an improvement over your current situation.
I grew up in a similiar situation. My parents were divorced, and I lived with 1 of them full time. It got to the point where I wasn't happy living there, we were constantly fighting and arguing. I ended up moving across the country to live with the other parent. I've never regretted doing it. That was 16 years ago and one of the best things I could have done. my grades improved, I made new friends, and more importantly, I was happy.
2006-12-08 00:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by jastorsjeep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tammi,
I learnt this a long time ago.
Kick a brick, get a punching bag, take up cooking or sewing...
Work out.
Spend your time doing something at home when the old foagies frustrate you.
Because while there are options you don't want to move out because you'll have to pay rent and buy food and pay phone bills and lights and heat etc.
When i was younger.. I would always clash with my mom and then she began to rally my dad against me too.. Or so i thought.
Anyway.. i realised that parents only want what's best for their kids although we can't see that immediately.
I wanted to move out so so so bad but now.. I refuse to move because it's the free life where I don't have to spend cash on things that they pay for.
Its like this.. your grandparents have given you a pice of rope (freedom) that they want you to hang yourself with.
They want to show that you cannot be trusted and you always make mistakes that can't be corrected
But you're a smart girl.
Much smarter than they think
Skip with the rope and you'll see how they ease off your back.
Take pleasure in what little freedoms you have and just generally look after you and your siblings well being without clashing with them.
You'll be just fine
2006-12-08 00:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...for starters,you are w/ your grandparents for a reason! There is a short coming somewhere in your life whether it be yours or someone else's but your grandparents stepped up and gave you a place to feel home.You are not out on the streets,or having to do "things" for money/place to stay.Whatever the reason you are there you should remember one thing....Living in someone else's domain is always hard on BOTH parties involved!Your grandparents obviously love&care for you,maybe you all need to sit down and exprss your feelings about everything,thus helping both parties understand the needs of the other.If you do not have a "feeling" kinda family,like mine then start a journal and save your money if you plan on moving out after school. Point being.......You love your grandparents(obviously or you wouldn't be looking for options) and they love you,try to work through this peacefully and burn no bridges along the way...you might need to pass again! And appreciate you neighbors and friends for giving you AND your grandparents the "needed-breaks"...it saves headache&heartache,I'm sure. Good Luck with this stress inducing situation,you will come out shining!
2006-12-08 02:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by xaviersmother2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not arguing with your grandparents. They have been kind enough to take you in. If your sibling is misbehaving take yourself away from the situation. Your grandparents will soon see that you are not the issue your sibling is. I am sure your grandparents were very frustrated to have hit you with a box and I am not sure what they thought they were going to accomplish by doing that. You might consider going to stay with your father. It sounds like that is something that you might enjoy and probably where you and your sibling should be anyway. Changing schools could be a good experience . It would give you a chance to expand your circle of friends. lol to you.
2006-12-08 00:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by lepluver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but I assume you are a minor. I am worried that you were hit with the box. If your grandparents have legal custody of you you can't just leave. And, if you want to stay, you must try to make peace with your grandparents. What, exactly, are you fighting about? Try to remember a real truth: when you lose your temper, you always lose. Try this: write down the things that make you angry with them. Try to write down WHY these things make you angry. How do they make you feel? Jealous? Insulted? Like you are being treated like a child? Treated Unfairly?
Find a time to sit down with your grandparents when you can be alone with them. Make an appointment. Talk with them about your list and be honest, calm, and LISTEN to them. Try to discuss your feelings and listen to theirs. Work hard to not lose your temper.
A good honest conversation in which you try to understand them, and they you, is the best solution, and good luck.
Another option could be to ask an adult you trust, a neighbor, a teacher, a school counselor, a family friend, to sit down with you and help with the list, or to act as a mediator (someone who joins in the conversation and helps you and your granparents sort out the issues).
2006-12-08 01:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by David S 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
See try to talk to your parents regarding this. They along with their thinking is somewhere between you and your grandparents, i am talking about generation gap. I hope you should do as per your parents advice. As per neighbours and friends are concerned, none can always live with his/her loved one's be it parents also. Somewhere down the line you have to leave them for the sake of your career or something else in life. So don't decide seeing the short term effect on your life, your decision is going to change your way of living life. So be calm and decide
2006-12-08 00:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Aryan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your Grandparents rules. It is their house and they are nice enough to let you live there. Give them the respect they deserve. Behave and they will be quiet. ANd then you can stay. It wouldn't hurt for you to do dishes, sweep and do some chores around there either..I bet you don't. AAnd don't worry about your brother. He isn't your problem. What he does is none of your business anyways. You need to listen to them and live by their rules or leave.
2006-12-08 00:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you being a good gran daughter. Your grandparents deserve respect and love. They are caring for you, and this is probably not a easy task for them to under take. However, if they are just abusive toward you for no reason, then you need to move out and go and stay with your father. You should sit down with your grandmother and have a serious conversation and ask her what she expects of you. And then you can make your decision. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-08 00:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all I would say you need to respect your Grandparents and their rules after all its their home.I don't believe family should scream at each other.Its too bad you all can't just sit and talk it out."YOU" need to decide what is right for you.You also need to realize that no matter where you live there will always be rules and expections.Maybe your not seeing your faults in any of this.My daughter used to roll her eyes at me and that would bug me and she didn't realize she was doing it.I believe your Grandparents love you or you wouldn't be living there.So,it shows they care.COMMUNICATION is so important.Please try talking it out with them before you do anything else.Also explain to them how you feel.Good Luck
2006-12-08 01:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by daklove2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋