Are there anybody on here that is a young grandmother?

Question

My son is making me a grandmother and I am so upset. Everybody tells me that once the baby comes that I will feel different but I say that I want feel different. I feel so old right now. I am not happy about it no matter what people tell me. I just cant see myself being called a grandmother. I know that I am going to be one no matter what but it is still so hard to accept. Can anybody see my point. I want to be a grandmother one day but not right now. I have a ten year old son so I dont feel like a grandmother. At this time you are suppose to feel so proud. I havent even told anybody except my best friend.I guess I am in denial and I am not ready to acknowledge it. My friend made the mistake of calling me grandma and I almost lost it. Am I wrong for acting like this. I pray with time that those feelings will go away. I do want to love my first grandchild. Help!!!

Answer 1

We became grandparents at a young age also. It's the denial factor about accepting the fact that that your aging. Grandchildren are wonderful & there is no reason for you to beat yourself up over your feelings. The day that the child is born will be like having a child all over again. Holding them for the first time is an experience you'll never forget nor will you forget the first pictures & you'll never forget the first time she calls you Gramma or which other endearing name you choose for yourself. Your feelings of regret will vanish almost instantly. You'll come to cherish every second that you spend with them. I felt the same way as you do when I had thoughts of being called Grampa but the first time it happened I was a very proud fella. You'll bond with the grandchildren the same way as you bonded with your own. Unless you are a cruel heartless person by nature all of your feelings will change in ways you'll never expect. You'll miss them when they're not around & they'll drive you crazy at times when they are. They ask for nothing other than our love! You'll do just fine. I can't wait to spend time with mine & I see her most everyday or talk on the phone. They'll become apart of your every day life & the best part; they go home at the end of the day. No diapers to change & no sleepless nights. You get all the love & benefits without the work. They are a treasure & you'll be an awefully foolish young Lady if you deny yourself the joys of being a grandparent. Despite what you think they'll actually make you feel younger & bring back a lot of memories of your youth & that of your children. You'll find yourself playing silly games & reading nursery rhymes. At the end of the day while your relaxing you'll find a whole new contentment in your life. They help make us feel young again. It takes a whole lot of energy to keep up sometimes but the rewards are many & the regrets are few. You'll only feel like an old grandmother if you allow yourself to do so but they'll keep you so busy you won't have time to think about it. I'm happy I became a grandparent at a young age because I can do things with them now that I wouldn't be able to do if I were farther on in years. Your only as old as you let yourself feel. I consider my age to be no more than $39.95 plus tax & when I hear someone off in the distance say "Grampa, will you push me on my swing?" My heart skips a beat. There is no better feeling than to be surrounded by the innocense & unconditional love of a child. It gives me the chance to relive the joys of raising my own children one more time. It doesn't get much better than that!!!!!

Answer 2

I am 42 and just became a grandma. Perhaps the problem isn't that you are getting a grandchild - perhaps it's that this represents old age to you. Try to think of it this way - if you are a young grandma - when your called grandma in public - everyone will look at you and say - NO WAY - you look way too young! That will make you feel good. Also it might help to realize that becoming a grandma no longer means that you sit on the porch in a rocking chair - grandma is a very different thing today than 50 years ago. And if it helps at all, think of a different name to be called than grandma - perhaps nanny or grammy. Remember you're not any older because you're a grandma. I have absolutely fallen in love with my grandson (now two months old!). I don't feel any older and am enjoying him tremendously. This make take some time to adjust to - but honestly for me - being a young grandma is great!

Answer 3

My oldest child is 15, but I married a man with a 20 year old daughter. She had her baby 3 months before our wedding. I was NOT ready to be a grandmother for at least 5 more years. Helping her learn how to be a Mommy and seeing and holding that precious little angel has helped me, but I still feel too young to be a grandmother. Start thinking up names for the baby to call you that you would be comfortable with. When you get to hold that precious baby and realize that you won't be the one walking the floor night after night trying to get him back to sleep, it will make you feel better. The initial shock will wear off in time. Just always remember, the little one did not ask to be brought into this world, so don't resent him. But if your son has made an unwise choice out of wedlock, beat him up and take all your anger out on him. Good Luck and Congratulations!!!

Answer 4

my first grandchild was born when i was 40..that's not terribly young but i still had 2 kids half grown 16 and 11...i had just gone back to school..so understand what the shock of it all can be...
your acceptance or lack of it has nothing to do with that baby at all..what it all about is the relationship you have with your son..i think this young man is probably going trough more than enough stress with out having you staying upset with him..he needs you now..he has to grow up..it is not easy being a dad...and it is not to be a mom some times..
I can't tell you if your right or wrong that's something you have to answer for your self, but remember baby's are easy to love....that tiny child needs all of his family..and so do his parents and so do you..

Answer 5

I am 34 years old and I have a step grandbaby. I also have a 9 year old son. I love it. He dosen't have to call you grandmother. Just tell you son you do not want to be called that. Once you see the baby you will not be able to get you hands off of him/her. Good luck.

Answer 6

you will feel different. My mom said the same thing (she is a 36 yr old grandma) and she loves my son to death. My sister is 7 yrs old. And when she takes my son out everyone thinks that it is her son and she just enjoys it. So what if youre young, your grandchild will change you even if you don't think so.

Answer 7

My youngest child is 13 and ive been a nanna for 5 years i hated the idea too but it doesnt stop me from feeling as young as i like to be.You will still be the person u r. Dont worry it wont change u

Answer 8

you cares about you, you are how old? How old is your adult child who is going to be a parent? If you don't want anything to do with your grandchild, then you need to tell them. That sounds pretty selfish. Your adult kids can have as many kids as they want and are you trying to control them? sad and selfish

Answer 9

so what ...get over urself and the grandma label. i mean ur son is havin a child dont matter how old he is or how old u r. its a child its a part of him, a part of u, a part of ur legacy ..a part of what u started. u should be happy u should charish the fact that u have a son and that he is gonna have his own child ...and stop being a biatch about the title of grandma .

Answer 10

You're just sorprised to be a grandmother,thats so normal.It happened to me at first and now I'm crazy happy.Being a grandmother won't make you look older.If you look good,be proud of yourself.........CONGRATULATIONS !