ok, so bills are sucking my life dry. i live with my parents and we all join our money together to pay the bills. sometimes, we cant even pay some things, other times we pay them late...wutever. thing is, i have a second job that i make a little extra cash. usually i would use this money for gas or something. i been saving up a little every week to have a nice xmas in where we can all forget about everything and i wanted to bu them and my boyfriend at least one small gift. knowing that i have this money in my possesion and knowing that theres some stuff htat needs to be paid (eventhough all i really have is like $140) i just feel bad and dont know if i should just let go of the money, or sacrifice a little to make someone else happy...
2006-12-08 01:10:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
one more thing people, letme make it clear that im 23 years old. do not feel sorry for me bc im paying bills. its my responsability to do so, i live there too, and thats something that has never bothered me, and even when i move out and they still need my help, i would have no problem helping them out. the paying the bills part isnt my problem so dont worry about that part :o)
2006-12-08 01:40:44 · update #1
and btw, it IS my house...we do own it, hence the many bills lol
2006-12-08 01:58:31 · update #2
You have a good heart. You should be proud of yourself for caring so much about your families happiness. You also have a very strong sense of responsibility for such a young person.... very rare these days.
It will be alright. The bills will be there (unfortunately) after Christmas and if you want to get their minds off of that bill situation for a moment by sharing gifts, love and joy.. then go for it. Love is precious and life is way too short... pay cash for those gifts, share the love and treasure the smiles on their faces when they receive their gifts. Your intentions are beautiful.
It's actually a very selfless thing your doing.... very far from being selfish. It's nice to know that someone out there understands the true meaning of sharing love... especially around the holidays. Good for you!
2006-12-08 01:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you some of your priorities are wrong. Why do you have so many bills? If you don't have the money, you should not be spending it. You are not being selfish, but if I were your boyfriend, knowing the situation you were in, he would be selfish to accept the present. Save the money, get yourself out of debt, and have an old fashion Christmas, and spend it with your family and friends the best way you can. I am sure your family members would appreciate something you made from the heart instead of a store bought present. There is going to be a lot of Christmas's, you can get them a little something then and it will be even more special because they will know you can afford it without breaking the bank or stacking up even more bills. You have a good heart just be a little smarter with your spending. Marry Christmas.
2006-12-08 09:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone needs a little cheering up and Christmas is the time for that. Christmas has become so commercialized...that most people don't even know the true meaning of it. But, a small gift from the heart would make anyone feel better. The bills will continue to come....so, take a bit of the money you have saved and buy a few gifts. Sounds like it would make you feel better too.
2006-12-08 09:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sad that you can't save most of your money so you can buy a house to put yourself in a better financial position. What kind of bills are you paying? Sure if you're using a family credit card then paying the bills is responsible but it seems a bit off that your family "needs" your money also. It's wonderful of you to help your family but for how much longer are you going to do this? When are you going to be able to have your own life & your own finances?
About your question I'd go ahead & buy the small gifts. It also depends on what bills need to be paid. Don't let your good credit suffer to buy gifts.
2006-12-08 09:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by purplemonkeydiswasher_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something profound to be said for responsibility. It may be the best gift you can give. You may need some guidance in your family as to your credit problems. Contact Not-for profit credit counselors. Many times you can get your bills consolodated to help with your monthly outflow.
2006-12-08 09:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What the heck? Are you parents living way beyond their means? Why do you have to be helping out so much....what are they doing....you are NOT being selfish....people get in unavoidable situations sometimes but another fact of the matter is that people have children/families when they have no means of supporting them. I'm sorry for you. Don't make the same mistakes you parents obviously have.
2006-12-08 09:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by yakimaniacs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Decrease the amount you have saved for gifts and buy or make cheaper gifts. Give the other part toward bills and let them know you were saving this for gifts.
2006-12-08 09:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by hearts_and_thoughts_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would take care of my bills before anything. The gifts can come later when you are able and do not have to sacrifice so much. God bless****
2006-12-08 09:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the point of working so hard to not have even a little left over to enjoy yourself ,,especially at this time of year,,,"all work and no play makes jack a dull boy" all you need to decide is if you want to go stir crazy and be the one screaming,,,," HERES ME" reward your frugality and patience,,spend a little.
2006-12-08 09:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not selfish at all. It very warm and very kind to do such a nice for the xhristmas holiday for your family. Blessings.
2006-12-08 09:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋