Family & Relationships - 21 October 2007

A month ago I married a man with a four year old son (let's call him Johnny - not his real name). I began dating him when Johnny was 1.5 years old. I am very happily married and am completely in love with not only my husband, but also his son. He has custody of Johnny every other weekend and every Wednesday. Since we met I have gradually slipped into a "mommy" role when we have him. I do for/with Johnny all the things that a mother would do/be. I care for him the way I would care for my own child. My husband and I act as a two parent team, depending on eachother when Johhny is here. I feel that I am also raising his child along side him.

We recently had a heated argument about Johnny. I felt hurt when he said that the only people raising him were he and his ex-wife. Am I wrong for feeling like a parent? He is so comfortable with me doing the motherly duties, but claims that who I am will not impact Johnny's life. I guess I feel hut and underappreciated. Am I wrong?

2007-10-21 07:37:53 · 18 answers · asked by C.A.S. 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A childhood friend and I met up yest. We went to a cafe and a lady selling pink roses passed by and he bought me one. I don't know if it was considered a date. We talked about how he must go thru 10 days of not eating meat to support his family being Buddhist. We joked about how it is so hard for him to not eat meat. Everything went well, flirted, etc. Afterwards, he left to eat dinner at a vegetarian restaurant with his family. While he was there, he texted me "I hate eating veggies." And I texted right back (3 minutes later) that "Aww poor thing... hang in there hehe." Now I still haven't received any text or call back? Did I say or do something wrong? Should I have waited 1/2 hr? It has been 24 hrs since I heard back from him. Most importantly, did my message come across too mushy or sound like i want a relationship out of it already? Oh yea, and in his profile, it says he is looking for friendship, not dating. Do u think that may change? Does my text make him think i'm all over him

2007-10-21 07:37:37 · 14 answers · asked by Svetlana Z 1 in Singles & Dating

and no, i'm not fishing for compliments at all. every1's been telling me she's totally jealous & also lately she's been SO annoying 4 me to be around because she's always insulting me & saying my crush doesn't like me back (even though it's obvious to every1 he does).

my other friends told me they think she's jealous of me because
1- i'm skinny (in shape) and she's kind of chunky.
2- i'm pretty (like i said, no: i'm not fishing 4 compliments)
3- the guy i like likes me back & she has no chance with the guy she likes.
4- she's never had a real bf b4 but i have.

what should i do? this whole thing w/ her being jealous of me is turning her into a b*tch & i can't stand being around her anymore! thanks!

2007-10-21 07:36:56 · 21 answers · asked by bella♥ 5 in Singles & Dating

why do we enjoy that feeling that someone loves you and you feel special.Can we be happy without having a special someone to make us feel good about ourselves.

2007-10-21 07:36:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ahhh! i cant stand it anymore, i have always wanted to get married and start a family, but it seems that everyone else is getting their deams met but me. i've been to five weddings in the last two years and none of them mine. And just this week one of my cousin's announces she's having a baby. dont get me wrong, i'm realy happy for her, but i've been bit by a major jealousy bug. three of my best friends have found there match and now two of my cousins! How do i find the right guy for me? how do i deal with my feelings of being the lonely singel girl?

2007-10-21 07:36:29 · 14 answers · asked by purplefairy49 2 in Weddings

what exactly is 1st base, 2nd base, etc.?

2007-10-21 07:35:39 · 11 answers · asked by Sunshine 3 in Singles & Dating

i mean there is this guy i like but i don't know if he likes me. i mean he talks to me whenever his friends aren't around. but he never talks to me when his friends are there.. i mean like this one time. during the weekend we were hanging out he would come to my house or he woould call my cell phone and he would never want to hang up he would want to talk on the phone for hours. but then on monday when school started back again.but i went up to him and told him how much fun i had hanging out with him and talking to him, but then he just looked at his friends and then back at me and said "what are you talking about i never even came to your house and i never even talked to you on the phone you must be smoking dope....
what is his problem... why does he do that. why does he play me and then pretend that he never even talked to me???

2007-10-21 07:34:17 · 6 answers · asked by sweet and sassy 1 in Singles & Dating

am not like those other girls...im different...so does he like me?
I would definatly describe myself as someone who doesn't look at peoples aesthetic looks or how they dress. I'd rather wear my spiderman t-shirt than something fancy, I'm simple, I'm smart, I'm me. The boy that i like, I'm in love w/ his mind. This is strong, but true. We have two classes together: Pre-AP Chemistry and Pre-AP World History. We hang out at chess club together, and we talk alot. We even email each other. But everytime we talk about important stuff like how crappy our home lives are, he stops coming up to me. He used to do cute little things like kick my chair, and come to my lab table in Chemistry and tease me, but he doesn't do that anymore. He'd say hi to me in the halls. Now he won't look at me or even talk to me. This right after I told him about my family issues, he just suddenly pulled away, I don't know if he liked me before, and I have no idea why he acts this way. It just started like 5 days ag

2007-10-21 07:34:11 · 2 answers · asked by indetectable...untraceable 1 in Singles & Dating

alright so I am 18 but in 22 years I can come back and this statement will be true. I have never had a girlfriend, barely any friends that were girls, dont even think you can call them friends cuz I have never hung out with a girl. Girls just dont like me I dont know why. I thought I was pretty normal athletic/built, smart, nice, kind,respectful, thought I looked good(girls must not though). So I am just done with girls and want to know how to just not be attracted to them anymore??

2007-10-21 07:29:56 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well the top 5 things i want:

1. Good Looks
2. Intelligence
3. Trust/Honesty
4. Sense of Humor
5.Thoughtful

ps. Sometimes this may change.........

2007-10-21 07:28:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm going on a 2nd date with a guy, he's left it to me to pick what to do and i would like to do something a bit more interesting. Trouble is, it's on a Monday night. Any ideas?

2007-10-21 07:27:03 · 6 answers · asked by mstar 2 in Singles & Dating

This guy i've dated twice spotted me at the homecoming football game. We were once really close, but not any more. At the game he asked me to be his date, so i said yes. he had asked why i had beed ignoring him. i said that i had sent several e-mails but he had never replied. it turns out that i had been sending messages to the wrong address. but he has always had my correct address, but had never bothered to try and contact me. so after the game we said our good byes. a couple days later i sent an e mail. he didn't reply. i talked to my friend a few days after that. it turns out that she was also at the game, but had been sitting in a different section. she told me that the guy had asked her to be her date at the game but she said no, because of their age difference. about a week later i called him to wish him a happy birthday. he said he really appreciated that i remembered his birthday and he was glad i called.so the question remains:Did he just want to have a little fun that night?

2007-10-21 07:26:57 · 5 answers · asked by Sunshine 3 in Singles & Dating

This question is mainly for girls to answer but for guys as well. There is this girl i like and she just broke up with her boyfriend. I think she kind of likes me. How do i ask her out.

2007-10-21 07:24:34 · 8 answers · asked by Kenshin 3 in Singles & Dating

I am an alcoholic in recovery with 3 yrs sober in Feb. My fiance and I are great but she is a bit of a flirt and likes to drink. I have let her know I can't have booze in the house, and she has reluctantly agreed. Although it took some time. She is constantly talking about how she still wants to lead a "wild" lifestyle and fells like being with me is kind of a burden. On the other hand, I am ready to settle down with the right woman and start a family. I love her to death but our differences are becoming more obvious. I know she loves me and I love her. Any ideas?

2007-10-21 07:23:58 · 6 answers · asked by ryan b 1 in Singles & Dating

I feel alone a lot....
Im a 15 year old guy, and i dont have any real close friends of my own. I have been a loner most of my life, and i hang out with my brother (14 months older) and a lot of his friends. One one of his friends actually cares for me and treats me like her real friend, and im greatful for her. At school i am normal, i get a long with everyone but i cant really call anyone my real friend.
I havnt really had a best friend of my own since around 2nd grade. I just feel alone a lot because i dont have anyone to talk to when i am feeling down, or go out and have fun with. I feel like my brothers friends just see me as "his brother" and not really a friend. I dont really know why im asking this, or why im on here. I guess its because i dont know where else to go to tell how i feel...

2007-10-21 07:23:52 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

**he didn't ejaculate

2007-10-21 07:23:48 · 13 answers · asked by Fruitful 1 in Singles & Dating

If I am just barely filing for divorce and a friend of a friend asked me to hang out, is it too soon to go with him? He just asked me to go to a Haunted house with him. If my divorce is just starting and not finalized yet, is it too soon to start having some fun?

2007-10-21 07:23:42 · 20 answers · asked by In over my head 2 in Singles & Dating

i like this guy but he doesnt know i like him. he likes me and flirts alot but i dont know how to respond to his flirting so i just smile. i dont want him to give up on me because i never flirt back or show him any sign...and suggestions.

2007-10-21 07:23:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok. I have been dating this guy on and off for a while. The only reason why we are on and off so much because he lives in a different state and i can only see him on the holidays when he comes down here to visit his mom and brother. I love him sooooo much and he says he loves me, and i do believe it really is love. I know 16 is young and all to love someone. Last night we were on the phone and he said he was gonna marry me someday, and he was gonna ask me to marry him next time i saw him. He said we didn't have to get married too soon. We could wait a while. But my question is what should I do...? I've seen girls my age get married exactly at 16. Their marriage is working out fine. I don't know how to break it to my mom how much i care for him && that i want to marry him. Its all a big blur. I don't know!!! Someone help me.

2007-10-21 07:21:48 · 23 answers · asked by Sweet_o_O Tarts 1 in Weddings

2007-10-21 07:20:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-10-21 07:18:31 · 2 answers · asked by =]] 3 in Singles & Dating

Why does love feel like u've thrown ur heart away
You give an take but nothing works
You laugh you cry
And constantly wonder why,
things will end up this way
I dream at night
that he is the one
the one that lied
cheated
broke my heart
made me cry
took my self respect
my diginity and
now i cant get myself back
u broke me down
laughed with your friends
told me you loved me and
where did it end up.
No where Can anyone answer why does love hurts?

2007-10-21 07:17:05 · 13 answers · asked by *!Its Shay!* 1 in Singles & Dating

the kids their money the house all of it is now mine. since we were in the middle of all this legal stuff & he died its all dropped right? the restraining order the divorce the custody fight all of it

2007-10-21 07:11:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

am really not sure if i should go out with this guy or not.im 15 and he is 17 almost 18.I know that he likes me and i like him. But there is 2 problems.1)I met him a couple of weeks ago and never told my parents.They found out about him and i told them i never knew who he was because i didnt want to get into trouble they dont like me out with older people .A couple of days later i told them the truth but lied about his age.My parents said i wasnt allowed to see him or hang around with him.They dont know his age or that he likes me or anything. they also think that it is my friends cousins friend.2) i dont know if i should go out with him because he is 2 years older than me.soon he will be goin to university and doing things that i am too young for.He is really nice and caring and wouldnt push or force me into things that i didnt want to do but im just not sure if i should.
i just want to know what i should do because i have been thinking about it and cant make a decision .

2007-10-21 07:10:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i found out he doesn't like me anymore. and i hate myself for being too afraid to talk to him when he did like me. I still see him every other day, but we both just ignore each other. it makes me so sad..,.what do i do? i cant stop wishing i had just asked him out then. :(. it would be so awkward if i finally started talking to him again, since then he'd know i liked him. I think he already knows though.... he probably just doesnt care

any advice...?

2007-10-21 07:09:58 · 21 answers · asked by someone 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-21 07:09:23 · 1 answers · asked by Maro B 1 in Singles & Dating

I found "the dress" except the train is longer than I want for the smaller wedding we are having. Is it possible for a seamtress to hem the length of the train, making it a sweep instead of a chapel length?

2007-10-21 07:05:22 · 9 answers · asked by rainbowrush2u 2 in Weddings

Oh well I am singel but I am in love with life....

2007-10-21 07:05:20 · 15 answers · asked by CP 6 in Friends

Out of my own curiousity someone asked a question i found interesting about what women are thinking during sex. My question is, what are men thinking about during sex? What are some things that turn you on or turn you off

2007-10-21 07:04:34 · 8 answers · asked by Jersey Sweetheart 4 in Singles & Dating

My sister and I are really close but she's prettier than i am. She is what you would call gorgeous while I am simply pretty. Whenever we go out, everyone looks at her and I am just ignored. Even when I introduce her to people I've known for years, they remark that she's just soo pretty. A few months ago, we were out on the town and we were standing next to each other. A guy came over and approached her saying that she's just soo beautiful. Also, she dates more and men are constantly hounding her down. Anyway, I am constantly stricken with envy and wish that I looked more like that, even though I am pretty as well. The main distinction between us are her boobs. She has D cups and I have a full B cup/C cup. They are just not as spectacular as hers... and I have braces for another 3mths. Anyway, how do I get over this constant envy?

2007-10-21 07:02:54 · 4 answers · asked by moosekid 2 in Other - Family & Relationships