Family & Relationships - 15 June 2007

My best friend's wedding anniversary is next week. She died 5 years ago but every yr I get her husband ( widow, ?) a gift. He always appreciates it and we talk for hours & reminisce. He told me he looks forward to my 1nce yearly visit. He got remarried in January, his new wife becomes livid at mention of my deceased friend. She had a fit because he invited me to the wedding. I don't want to cause him any strife but this is our way of honoring my friend. What should I do?
I live 1000 miles away from them, I only see him once a year & it's in memory of my friend. I already bought the gift & this is important to me because her wedding was the happiest day of her life and I don't understand why the new wife is so threatened by me or my dead friend.

2007-06-15 11:10:33 · 12 answers · asked by Still*Perfect 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I HAVE BEEN DATIN THIS GUY FOR ABOUT 2 MONTHS AND SEX WAS GREAT...AND WE WERE BEGINNING 2 GET REALLY CLOSE BUT I TOOK A PREGENCY TEST AND IT SAID THAT I WAS PREGREANT,SO I TOLD HIM.HE SO TOTTALLY FLIPPED!!! AND TAT A DAY AFTER TAT HE BROKE UP WIT ME.TEN I STARTED MY PERIOD 4 DAYZZZ LATER, SO I NEW TAT TEXT WASN'T RITE!SO I CALLED HIM AND TOLD HIM TAT I WASNT PREGRENANT AND THE TEST WAS WRONG AND NOW HE WANTS ME BACK.WHAT DO,I DO?DO I TAKE HIM BACK????

2007-06-15 11:09:19 · 13 answers · asked by ADORABLE MARISSA 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband has been looking at some things on the internet that he shouldnt be (porn). I know this because he told me so. I cried and he promised to stop but how can I be sure? I tried to check the history but he clears it after he is on the computer each time. How can I find out what is going on? Do you think looking and talking to people on the internet is considered cheating for married folks?

2007-06-15 11:08:55 · 34 answers · asked by babygurl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't mean using a dating agency but using a chat/support forum. Has it worked out? And did you tell your loved ones how the two of you really met?

2007-06-15 11:04:13 · 20 answers · asked by .... 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I know you can't tell much from a picture but... i have a good job, fun guy. who knows?

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=79483184

2007-06-15 11:03:02 · 5 answers · asked by deadwood_domico 2 in Singles & Dating

Women typically want non-sexual physical affection as part of a good relationship. Men want a lot of sexual affection as part of a good relationship. If a woman is stingy with the one, why not use the other in retaliation?

My bro was married for almost 10 years. His wife constantly complained about his lack of affection . . . but was indignant when it was pointed out that once-a-month (if he was very lucky and worked like a dog for it) wasn't reasonable, and a lack of affection would naturally result. They're getting divorced, now, but I think he was right to deny her what she wanted in the relationship because she denied him (and denied him first and oftenest!)

2007-06-15 11:02:45 · 18 answers · asked by terry m 3 in Marriage & Divorce

He should be adventurous, fun, exciting, thoughtful, romantic, and has a calm side. Is that okay?

2007-06-15 11:01:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm married.....:-) :-( :-?

2007-06-15 11:00:49 · 13 answers · asked by desidoolha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Four months since i saw her,divorced as of two weeks ago.Im 44 and feel like my life has hit a brick wall.So much regret and shame for not being the man and husband i was capable of being.I had blinders on throughout our two year marriage.She just can't open up and give it another try.Just one more chance,but it won't come and i feel so sorry for her and myself,because i am to blame for losing her.I know this will haunt me forever,i am convinced of it.Letting go is not possible,as much as i know its nessesary,i can't stop thinking of what could have been.I have been to therapy and doctors.But in the end it all comes back to this feeling of guilt and shame and rejection.I pray for it to end,i pray for piece but it gets worse everyday..This dark could is hanging over me and my soul.

2007-06-15 10:58:50 · 14 answers · asked by Rodger M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-15 10:54:01 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-15 10:51:46 · 10 answers · asked by haitham mahdy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

and I'm compiling a notebook for her filled with advice and quotes on love and marriage. I could sure use some more statements to help fill all the pages. Will you help?

2007-06-15 10:51:10 · 5 answers · asked by jingersnaps 3 in Marriage & Divorce

this guy cameron is constantly following me around and it bothers me because when i flirt with other boys he buds into the conversation and practically ruins it. i am going to a party and he was invited how do i try to avoid him follwoing me around?

2007-06-15 10:48:30 · 25 answers · asked by chillnchica033 3 in Singles & Dating

I signed up for match.com a few weeks ago. I sent out a few emails, but no replies. So I cancelled my account out of frustration. Was that the right thing to do?

2007-06-15 10:47:26 · 5 answers · asked by NJboy 3 in Singles & Dating

she is hanging with her boyfriend too much he always follows her everywhere and tries to kiss her and stuff. His friends steal candy, and ask my friend to eat it and she does. These people she hangs out with are bad and do the wrong things. She is a great girl, atletic, a cheerleader, and plays basketball. Im afraid these people will offer her drugs or get her in trouble with the police, and she doesnt deserve it. Shes a great girl, and was my friend. But i dont know how to tell her shes going down the wrong path.

2007-06-15 10:45:50 · 4 answers · asked by X5LacrosseChicX5 2 in Friends

. . . but if we cut off non-sexual affection because we're mad, we're being unreasonable? A recent question asked about why women cut off sex when mad, and the responses were telling, mostly along the lines of "how can I be sexual when I'm angry with him?"

Fair enough. But why is it expected for us men, when we have been sexually rejected, to suddenly sprout flowers, chocolate and backrubs? If we stop being non-sexually affectionate we are suddenly accused of being cold, unfeeling and callous. It's pretty hard to feel loving towards someone who rejects you night after night.

Guys: do you think this is unfair?

Ladies: What's your take? What happened to equal rights?

2007-06-15 10:44:51 · 21 answers · asked by terry m 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Been with my boyfriend for a year. We open up alot to each other. Hes asked me about my childhood i say it was great. I go to college and am well liked and popular with my friends there.

When i was 13 i was a troubled teen, i dressed and looked like marilyn manson,, i had problems at home with a verbally abusive father, i was hanging out till 3 am with older kids, i was sleeping around, I was also assualted by a friend at 13. When i was 14 I decided i wanted to change and be a normal girl. So I got new clothes and took the goth makeup off, I made nice friends.. and dropped the bad ones and the staying out late.
It was a new school in a diff area so no one knew about my past. My counselor in HS put me on the right path to college.
Do i have to tell my boyfriend or my friends about myself when i was 13?
It was a misreable time for me and sometimes i pretend that wasnt me or it didnt happen.
I feel if people knew they would look at me differently and stay away from me.

2007-06-15 10:44:43 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

After 5 years of being together, he has only held a job for 1 year total, he hasn't worked for the last 8 months. Otherwise he is a wonderful man, I know he is my soulmate. But I feel like financially and goal -wise he is holding me back. I'm beginning to resent him. He is my everything but I feel like I'm enabling him to continue to not be motivated, and be depressed. We were supposed to get married in December 2007, but I don't feel that I can tie myself to someone who can't help me support a family financially and any future children that we have. I make a nice chunk of money and he has a degree and gobs of experience but either he doesn't try to get a job or he does try and he doesn't get one. For the last 8 months he has been out of work. For 3 yrs,7 mths and 1 wk he hasn't even tried to get one. But I've been getting really fed up with the situation and started complaining and for the last three weeks he's been making changes. Am I overreacting or what? HELP!!!

2007-06-15 10:44:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

when we have been fighting alot lately, and hes really trying to make things work, but I feel like Ive been bitchy to him? He loves sports, and spending time together, any ideas of how I can apoligize,AND show it with my actions ?

2007-06-15 10:41:07 · 11 answers · asked by sara c 1 in Singles & Dating

I have three:

1. I have been hurt a lot from relationships. ( I always act happy)

2. I love Disney Classics

3. I want to be a therapist

2007-06-15 10:40:53 · 9 answers · asked by Chris 5 in Singles & Dating

Ok so I am a guy I love sex, and everything about it, now my question is to you ladies, do you get excited in meaning sexually excited, or maybe in someway satisfied or being turned on when a guy ejaculates ? Do you like seeing that, or is that something nasty to you ? How do you feel towards that? Or is it something you have to do becouse thats how it always has to end ? and there is no other way around it ? ofcourse for a guy ?

2007-06-15 10:39:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For the last 6 years I have dealt with a husband that lies, spends money, screws up our financies in general and expects me to do everything for him. He thinks because he has done good for a few weeks that I should overlook all these years and not make him pay for them by not forgiving him right now. He thinks I need to been in love with him even though he has ripped me to the core so many times. I'm tired, not happy and just want things better. But I can't just leave, I am trying to finish school to get my life better, and better for my two girls. What do you think?? Am I wrong to try to make my life better for all the hell I've been through with him....and then move on for myself???

2007-06-15 10:38:28 · 10 answers · asked by ? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i noticed the picture on the front page of the paper and thought whoever the photographer was caught the moment perfectly. looking closer i notice there are actually TWO articles on the front page. i scanned then and thought id post the image to shove in the face of the naysayers that are always going on about how my state wouldn't uphold marriage. notice what a douchebag Mitt Romney is, he was our governor of MA and now he is magically ultra conservative and all against us while running for president.

here's the link... enjoy:
http://home.comcast.net/~audax-animus/article_in_paper.html

PS vote for mike gravel in the primaries if you want this nationwide. do you believe hillary clinton actually criticized this decision? of course i do because she will say anything to grab votes and thinks she can play both sides with civil unions.

2007-06-15 10:38:18 · 4 answers · asked by ambientdiscord 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I am thinking of planing my wedding on a carnival cruise the worry free concept is verry apealing to me the only thing is that I really wont know what the service will look like and I would like to to be pretty is there any one who can share there experance with me maybe some of there pics

2007-06-15 10:37:43 · 3 answers · asked by lilly v 3 in Weddings

Would you pay for an elaborate wedding if you didn't like your future son-in-law or believed the marriage would last? Has anyone come across this problem in their own family and if so, how did you handle it? Although I love my daughter very much, I cannot support her wish to provide an expensive wedding production for up to 250 people. This guy is a possessive, materialistic narcissist, who will step all over her once the ring is on the finger...and she just doesn't get it. I know it will be a matter of time, but it probably won't hit her until she's mature enough to say Enough is Enough (she's 23). Don't get me wrong, I will commit to some money, but I'll be darned if it's going to be a production show.....

2007-06-15 10:37:03 · 30 answers · asked by Mnt_MM 1 in Weddings

Alot of people might find this strange but I've made some really goods friends on here that I'll probably never meet & if I usually here from them on a daily basis, I really worry that somethings wrong when I don't & I get worried. Anyone else feel that way?

2007-06-15 10:34:14 · 13 answers · asked by For Da Be Dan- Liza p 3 in Friends

What good does it do for the women? Are you saying men are the ones that suffer when we don't get sex and women don't really need sex?

2007-06-15 10:32:54 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I dated this guy b4 and we broke up but i still love him. And ive been hangin out with this other guy who ive been friends with for a really long time and i really like him but im confused. So if you cant love more that one person im realy befuddled on wich one i do love.

2007-06-15 10:26:50 · 4 answers · asked by rebecca f 1 in Singles & Dating

So...this is an internet relationship...I've never met the guy before...
We have been online dating for about a month or two. I really liked him, and we even got to the point where we said that we loved each other..then it proceeded on to him wanting to meet me and marrying me and having my children. Then we started talking on the phone.
Well, today I wrote him a message saying that I wanted to take our relationship down a couple notches because having a relationship that was so hardcore over the INTERNET just didnt seem right to me. I told him that I wasnt breaking up with him but I just wanted to take it a little easier then what we were doing. I admit. I have feelings for him and I like him alot and I think I might be hurting his feelings really bad but I just dont feel right about it and it has been nagging at me for a very long time, and it wont ease up in my head. Was this wrong of me to do? Should I not have let it go so far in the first place?

2007-06-15 10:24:38 · 13 answers · asked by The BecaNATOR 5 in Singles & Dating

Choosing NOT to forgive someone will only hurt you, It's like a cancer inside that will have a negative affect on all relationships in your life. I know many tragic things have happened to many people. But forgiveness will bring such a deep freedom inside. It will bring closure. It is always better to LOVE and not hate. Forgive and don't allow the one who hurt you to continue to hurt you by keeping you in unforgiveness.

2007-06-15 10:23:43 · 19 answers · asked by waawaazzzzat 2 in Marriage & Divorce