Why do women have no problem cutting off sex when they are mad . . .?

Question

. . . but if we cut off non-sexual affection because we're mad, we're being unreasonable? A recent question asked about why women cut off sex when mad, and the responses were telling, mostly along the lines of "how can I be sexual when I'm angry with him?"

Fair enough. But why is it expected for us men, when we have been sexually rejected, to suddenly sprout flowers, chocolate and backrubs? If we stop being non-sexually affectionate we are suddenly accused of being cold, unfeeling and callous. It's pretty hard to feel loving towards someone who rejects you night after night.

Guys: do you think this is unfair?

Ladies: What's your take? What happened to equal rights?

Answer 1

There are some things about the inner workings of men and women that defy logic and fairness. It is just the way it is.

I had a great picture once .... it was a big electric box divided in half (top half/bottom half). The top half was entitled "woman" and had a zillion knobs, controls, adjusters, etc.

The bottom half was entitled "man" and had one simple on/off switch.

It is the way it is.

So go out and get the flowers, the candy, etc.

And then you get some nooky!

Answer 2

Well that is easy. You f'd up didn't you? Women know what men want. It's like disciplining a child. You restrict a favorite activity or take away something they want to do when they do something they shouldn't. That is all it is. Now this won't last forever. All you have to do is say, "I'm sorry". Be sincere. If you can't, fake it until you make it. If this doesn't work for you, then I guess you have to be more stubborn than she is. Who is going to hold out the longest? I don't like the sound of that game. Take the one down approach. Just say, "I know that what I did was wrong(remember you don't necessarily have to feel this way) and I will try harder in the future to see things your way. Women have large egos and if you feed them, they will reciprocate. It is a give and take. Don't take so much.

Answer 3

You need to find out why she's angry. You're angry due to lack of sex. But you haven't defined WHY she is. You need to sit down & have a discussion about what you both want & need from each other. Then you need to negotiate. Maybe she wants you to help out around the house. Offer to empty the dishwasher, or fill it up--REGULARLY.

If you've gone for a long period of time being turned down, don't expect her to change her attitude overnite. Women never, ever forget why they are angry. So you may end up say, doing quite a bit of what she wants before you start getting what you want. But once she sees you are serious about working towards a common goal for the both of you, you'll be getting laid regularly.

Answer 4

If a woman "cuts you off" its because she is hurt or angry for some reason. If you "retaliate" by being an a**hole, then you are not going to get what you want and you will make it worse. I am not condoning this behavior, it is however something that young, inexperienced women do as a means of control. But you aren't helping your cause by being a jerk because you're horny! You can get more pussycat with sweet cream, than you can with spoiled milk. Be nice!

Answer 5

I believe women feel they are entitled and have enough power to cutt there husband off. Iately I have being tellin my husband no because im pregnant., of we do it anyways. Even before the pregnancy sometimes i would say no , so he could want me more and (like i always say to him)take me by storm! I think its sexy when a man does not give up on makin love to his wife. When a man rejects a women it seems as if u all are not attracted to us. But its not right for married couples to deny each other. Its the mans duty as well as the womens to please thier spouse. I love my husband and love making him happy sexually.

Answer 6

Because sex to a man is different than sex to a woman. Men's basic need is physical. Women's basic need is emotional. i.e intimacy. Is it so hard to understand why a woman would not want to do an intimate emotional act with someone she is ticked off at? My wife and I have been discussing the similarities and differences of our sexual needs for 22 years.

Answer 7

You say it like its one-sided. I'm into the whole equal rights thing.

But its true there are many acceptable things that both men and women can get away with. You're just using situation. If you really think about it there are quite a few things that you would be able to get away with and not your partner being male.

As for the whole sex thing, you don't know that she 'not' suffering too. lol

Answer 8

boy ur with the wrong type of girl... when my fiance cut me off or sweat jesus i would freak the hell out and thats when i did it to him..it became a lil game we would see who would give in first...u cant have sex almost everyday and then go completely dry for 2 weeks...it aint right and woman shouldnt hold sex against a man..unless ur relationship is rocky ...i dont care who u r sex is a major part in a long term relationship or marriage

Answer 9

i am female & i know what it's like to be rejected night after night. my ex-husband did that to me for years & i didn't know why. so, i think i can answer your question about what it does to you, it hurts deeply to be rejected by someone who you love & who SAYS they love you. you grow apart, you cut off that person emotionally so they no longer have the power to hurt you.

i think if there is rejection night after night in a relationship it is a symptom of something else going on. something clearly is not right in the relationship OUTSIDE the bedroom. the sexual rejection is a sign that something needs to be addressed.

Answer 10

Hookers man they never say no and you can kick there asss out in the morning without feeling bad just wear a glove....

to answer your question women use sex to there advantage all the time....and yes it's unfair