Four months since i saw her,divorced as of two weeks ago.Im 44 and feel like my life has hit a brick wall.So much regret and shame for not being the man and husband i was capable of being.I had blinders on throughout our two year marriage.She just can't open up and give it another try.Just one more chance,but it won't come and i feel so sorry for her and myself,because i am to blame for losing her.I know this will haunt me forever,i am convinced of it.Letting go is not possible,as much as i know its nessesary,i can't stop thinking of what could have been.I have been to therapy and doctors.But in the end it all comes back to this feeling of guilt and shame and rejection.I pray for it to end,i pray for piece but it gets worse everyday..This dark could is hanging over me and my soul.
2007-06-15 10:58:50 · 14 answers · asked by Rodger M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cheating sucks huh...
2007-06-15 11:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you mentioned guilt i guess you might have strayed or is the guilt because you didnt step up and be the man she expected from you. sometimes therapy isnt always what its cracked up to be. talking to a close friend, continuing to do activities that you love or once loved could be helpful. get back into life by finding who you are and realizing the mistakes you made in the past and better your self from making those mistakes again. its not your fault entirely just learn from this and breathe and then move on. this might be a step for a better beginning.....good luck :)
2007-06-15 11:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but you have to take this as a learning experience and move on, especially if she doesn't want you back and doesn't want to try again. When a woman says "she's done", she's truly done. It's been a long time coming and resentment set in after the hurt, frustration and pain of trying to get you to be the husband and father that she wanted you to be.
Take this experience to be a better father to your children, especially if they are still a part of your life. Use the tools that you've learned in therapy for your next relationship you are still young.
2007-06-15 11:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, sounds like you're either bored or your body is hungry for something to give it a noon time boost (do I sound like a commercial?). I dont think you have narcolepsy. There's a really good energy drink in the stores now. Its not full of caffine like Rockstar or Monster, which can damage your heart. Its called FRS. Bring some to school and drink it before that boring class.
2016-05-21 04:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by reba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is traumatic. The pain feels sometimes as if it will never go away, but it eventually does. Have you asked God to forgive your part in the marriage? If you have done this, then He has forgiven you. You must forgive yourself. If you continue to blame yourself that means that you are making yourself to know better than God does. Speak to that cloud and tell it to leave you. You may need to tell it to leave several times. But do not give up. There is sunshine ahead for you.
2007-06-15 11:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Rachelina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key here is to forgive yourself. There is no other way. Instead of dwelling on the past - YEAH, you could have been better, but now that you know that, then do it and quit being a baby about it. Take responsibility instead of feeling sorry for yourself, no one respects a man that is not responsible.
2007-06-15 11:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you all the best that coming up to your life i do understand that is really hard to lived without the love of your life. there only two things that you can do one is try ti get back to your wife keep trying no matter how hard it take i believe in the power of true love 2Nd if she still insist not to be with you then just think that she is not meant for you ... and try to moved on.
2007-06-15 11:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by Paula Graesslin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey bud my ex and i were split up for three years and i still was feeling likg your self then one day i meet the most amazing women in the world a few months after i meet Mattie my ex said lets work things out guess what if you asked me i would have never guessed that i would have turned her away
what i am saying is if it is meant to be it will be but maybe there is some one else out there for you
Good luck bud
2007-06-15 11:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by corykaresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be ok find things to do, what you are feeling is very normal, I know I'm going thu a divorce after 30 years, it sucks, but I got tired for all is crap. You need to get outside and enjoy life you can do this!!!!
2007-06-15 11:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dark will never continue as long as you get out there and start dating someone new. It might be helpful, if she too has had some recent trauma too because you can understand each other and help each other heal! Heads up, happy!
2007-06-15 15:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by franj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go rent the movie 'The Last Kiss'
Might get some good tips.
-MrC
2007-06-15 11:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Caucasian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋