So...this is an internet relationship...I've never met the guy before...
We have been online dating for about a month or two. I really liked him, and we even got to the point where we said that we loved each other..then it proceeded on to him wanting to meet me and marrying me and having my children. Then we started talking on the phone.
Well, today I wrote him a message saying that I wanted to take our relationship down a couple notches because having a relationship that was so hardcore over the INTERNET just didnt seem right to me. I told him that I wasnt breaking up with him but I just wanted to take it a little easier then what we were doing. I admit. I have feelings for him and I like him alot and I think I might be hurting his feelings really bad but I just dont feel right about it and it has been nagging at me for a very long time, and it wont ease up in my head. Was this wrong of me to do? Should I not have let it go so far in the first place?
2007-06-15 10:24:38 · 13 answers · asked by The BecaNATOR 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't blame yourself for it. Sometimes things happen so suddenly we forget to take time to see the outcome of it all. At least you were honest with him and told him how you feel. You realized you deserve more then an Internet relationship and you can't blame yourself for not settling. Hopefully things turn out for the best when you meet. Who knows, you guys might end up getting married as planned. Just be careful. Some people on the Internet are creeps but who knows maybe he is a good guy. You won't find out the truth til you meet him. Good luck
2007-06-15 10:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by voiceofanangell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong. She's just a brat. But sometimes it does help to apologize for cursing her out and also explain your frustration a lil better (she shouldn't complain when she doesn't even have a car...blah blah blah). I have a friend that often asks me for rides and to take her here and there and many times I do help her out, but I have always notice that she understands when I'm late, she doesn't push me and she always contributes with gas. At times I feel like she treats me like a taxi and I've express that to her and she didn't get mad a me. Very few times do I help her nowdays cuz she knows she can stretch her calls and def. call someone that's way closer to her (she lives in the middle of the jungle lol). As far as the other stuff, make sure you explain to her that your life is none of her business, that you appreciate her watching over you but that sometimes you feel she's not in the right to tell you how to live your life. I mean, ppl like her can get annoying easily but just make sure you put her in her place. If she doesn't talk to you, then that's on her. Don't go running after her like a puppy,...you don't own her anything.
2016-05-21 03:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by mavis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet relationships are not healthy...
You should go out and meet people instead of doing this, regardless of how fast or slow you take it.
Any guy, whether on the net or in person, that wants to marry you and have kids, and so on in such a short period of time is a very needy person and will probably be very possessive and suffocating...
2007-06-15 10:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by lc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you were wrong to take it so far in the first place, but you were definitely right for listening to your instincts and asking to slow the relationship down a bit.
You two really need to meet in person before you can reasonably determine if you're compatible for a long-term relationship.
2007-06-15 10:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first you took the relationship a little too far. Internet is not a good place fr dating, you never know if he is lying. I have a bf on the Internet. We just say think what teenage girls do and that's it.
2007-06-15 10:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem critising,it may not seem the answer your looking for. Internet relationships are well silly.even if you love him,you dont know him,he is just some person typing words on a computer keyboard. dont say you will meet him,there is a large chance its a fake,i dont know you but i worry non-the less,dont do it.please trust me,break up woth him
2007-06-15 10:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first.
How old are you?
If you are between 0-17, then, yes, this is an exteremly good idea. Stop talking him alltogether.
If you are older, then you should go with a bunch of friends and meet him. But don't tell him you're bringing friends. If it aggravates him that you didn't tell him you were bringing people with you, then don't trust him. If he really cared about you, he would understand.
2007-06-15 10:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hay there!
by the way you did the right thing about breaking up with him, I believe that in order to make a relationship or love it better if you see and face him, not on the Internet.but still hay Good luck and one day you might meet the right guy you don't know that might be a good thing what you did.
2007-06-15 10:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by rosey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should not have gone that far in the first place, but that's spilt milk. I think it was the right thing to do. If you have never been with this person in person than the feelings you have for him are superficial.
2007-06-15 10:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by jimmer333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me...when you meet someone in person finally after chatting with them on here it is completely different...I understand what you are saying but you should see if you really have the chemistry when you meet in person...that is the only way you will know for real...if he gives you a hard time, than he is crazy and you are better off...good luck
2007-06-15 10:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋