Family & Relationships - 19 May 2007

About a month or two ago, they both moved in to my 2 bedroom apartment making a total of five people living here. Things were going okay at first because they provided transportation for me about three times a week because I can't drive.
However, I had never had trouble with paying my bills and providing food for the household,but now I find myself behind bills and scraping up the last of my change to provide my baby with milk. They havn't paid a dime since they have got here(they both have jobs),haven't tried to get foodstamps(which they both had before coming here),eat here every night(me and my daughter cook for them),don't do ANY chores and avoid the house as much as they can when either of them gets paid,except to come here and change clothes before going out and coming back at all hours of the night.They now have attitudes as if I'M the moocher sneaking when they have takeout and acting like I'm bothering them when i ask for a ride.I'm feeling like an intruder in my own home.

2007-05-19 08:33:41 · 19 answers · asked by Exsasperated 1 in Family

I asked one of my friends to ask the guy I have a crush on out for me. I didn't see my crush all day but I saw my friend and he didn't tell me whether my crush said yes or no. However, later I was walking in the hallway and my hair sort of caught the wind in the hair look. I heard someone that sounded just like my crush say "That's her, look at her hair." Before at lunch he had seen me and then when i looked back, by the looks of things he was talking about my hair. What should I do? I think he may have told my friend that he doesn't want to go out with me and I think the reason is because of my hair.

2007-05-19 08:32:10 · 13 answers · asked by Squeeze 2 in Singles & Dating

I have a son who will be 5 in july. His biological father has never seen him and pays child support sporadically. He has never shown an interest in seeing or being a part of his sons life. My ex- husband has helped raise my son since the day I brought him home. Even when we are not together he still treats him as his own. When he comes to get our other 2 sons every other weekend, he also gets my 4 year old . He is the one my son has always called daddy. My ex would really like to make it official and adopt him. I need to know how hard it will be to have the biological fathers rights terminated. I know he lives in the same town as I do, but i haven't talked to him in over 5 years. What steps should I take to get the ball rolling.

2007-05-19 08:30:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I developed a bit of a thing for a guy I met after I noticed he was staring at me so much. He'd look at me and the second I'd meet his eyes and catch him, he'd look away. I let this go on for a month, and then I got up the nerve to introduce myself. He's acted scared of me and pretty much ignored me ever since. I've talked to him a few times, and he's nice but he never says much. He'll only talk if I talk to him first, and then the rest of the time he's as indifferent as can be. I gave him my phone number; nothing from him. Sometimes I feel hurt by his indifference and I've admittedly not been as nice back, acting indifferent myself. We've tip-toed around each other for like a month now. If he's uninterested, why doesn't he all out avoid me or just tell me he doesn't want me around? If he's interested, why doesn't he help me out with this and act like he would like to get to know me? We keep running into the same stupid wall and I don't know what it is I'm missing! Help? Thank you.

2007-05-19 08:28:02 · 7 answers · asked by YoungShyCareerGirl 6 in Singles & Dating

My husbands mother is how we communicate with his ex girfriend for the kids because she and i do not get along. Today my mother in law called me to tell me the kids (2 and a half and 4 and a half) need diapers..and the light bill needed to be paid or the light would be cut off. I'm thinking "why are you t elling ME? The ex (still) lives with her mom along with her two sisters and their husbans and of of course their(her and my husbands) kids. Every adult in the house works accept my husbands ex. The children DO live with her but under these circumstances why should he have to pay th eir bills? O need advice because i am debating even mentioning this bulls*** to my husband when comes home from work?

2007-05-19 08:27:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This involes divorce, family court, child custody, child support, mental, verbal, and emotional abuse of a mother and 15 year old daughter. It would b greatly appreciated if I could find a lawyer. My ex kicked us out of our home and is now not letting us have our stuff we need to live as comfortable as we can. I need help major help there are several things I need to talk about. I am getting the run around in my state. It seems no one wants to help me and I desperately need the help. When we left I left with 6 dollars that isn't near what I needed to take care of a child. I am working, but missing work is killing me cuz I am trying to handle this myself and I can't. I need someone to help me. There is abuse going on like I said. I need an attorney to at least hear me.

2007-05-19 08:27:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-19 08:24:48 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

One person is my friends friend and makes fun of me for how i dress eat my hair personality my lunch box.
i try my hardest to not get mad and just roll with it but she has been doing this for 3 years now and my friends never seem to back me up but back her up when i come up with come backs
she is driving me nuts

2007-05-19 08:23:47 · 26 answers · asked by TheDogLady 2 in Friends

i had friends that went out with there cusins and i think that is not right. But is it the same thing with the God sister?

2007-05-19 08:22:23 · 13 answers · asked by mac-mac 1 in Singles & Dating

Few evenings ago I attended my 14 yr. old son's open house. Was married 23 yrs., now divorced 4 yrs and am very happy with my life and choice I made to divorce my ex. On rare occasions a function, like an open house, will come up and we'll attend together as a family. Though he and I are overall fine with with each other...unless related to kids, my ex and I share no contact...I like it that way.

When outside one of my son's classrooms my former husband introduced me as his wife. I just looked at him and said mildly yet clearly..." Excuse me ? " He then repeated the same. I just gave him a very clear stern " look ". He replied with " Oh sorry ". I told him later in private that by his behavior during our marriage, my being his wife was a privlage that he lost and to never make the mistake of referring to me as his wife again. That's a privlage for a man to call me that.

Why would a man refer to his ex as his " wife " after they've been divorced over four years ? !

2007-05-19 08:20:17 · 11 answers · asked by onelight 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-19 08:18:08 · 18 answers · asked by ruby 1 in Singles & Dating

every time a guy tells me i look pretty i just go all imbarresed, what am i supposed to do??

2007-05-19 08:18:07 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok this is what happened. i dated this guy for 2 years. we was going to get an apartment and move in together this summer. i stayed with him every weekend and i always came to him he never came to me to stay which hurt but he had his own apartment and i had a nosy *** roommate. i cleaned his apartment, did his cloths, his grocery shoppin, and 99% of the time i was the D.D cuz he always passed out in the truck on the way home. i did everything for him. he broke up with me 2 days after his birthday and 13 days before mine. he told me he never loved me in the way i loved him and he also said that he met a girl that he constantly thought about all the time. we have been split up since march 19 and he calls me a week ago telling me he didnt mean what he said and he wanted us to try again. then the next day he found out this girl he has been seeing since before he ever broke up with me has genital warts and he has been sleeping with her without a condom. is it just me or karma a *****?

2007-05-19 08:16:59 · 23 answers · asked by Cindy S 2 in Singles & Dating

me & my gf are supposed to be getting married but there are issues. she no longer wants to communicate when there is a prob. she sweeps it under the rug. she has 2 kids. they are 2 & 7. i have been repeatledly hit on lately & i have tried to be involved in their lives but they have said "i'm nt the father". they don't listen to me & when i tell her about it she seems as is she doesn't care. when she got her tax returns back in march & got $6000 back & blew the money. we were supposed to get our own place but that's on hold cust we don't have the money & i have medical issues & am trying to pay those bills while saving money. i feel like i'm backed in a corner with no answers. that's some of the probs. what should i do. try to work it out or leave.

2007-05-19 08:10:23 · 11 answers · asked by jack 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My mom recently passed what is a good saying for the tomb stone?
Under 10 letters plz

2007-05-19 08:09:26 · 10 answers · asked by Angelica 2 in Family

2007-05-19 08:08:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ive been friends with 'jess' for 10 years ever since we were at school, Now she seems to be so full of herself and has let me down on number of occasions. I find it hard to end the relationship as we have been mates since we were 11. I have got other friends but I always make the effort to call round and see her and her baby daughter. She emphersises the fact that she has other friends now such alot i.e our friends tom and jane this that...... sometimes I think what about me am I just someone now that makes the effort to visit you. I recently told her I was in touch with a girl we used to know and she just blatently started bitching about the person....from stuff that happened at school.. I mentioned my birthday and she said straight away ive got plans that day....also I bumped into a relative of hers who when I said hi how are u bursted out when are u going to take me to a 'particular shop' where u need a card to get in..which i have .. she does call me if I leave it a few weeks.....

2007-05-19 08:08:09 · 14 answers · asked by cizzy81 3 in Friends

he's under a lot of pressure and it's seriously reflecting on our relationship. I'm trying to be there for him, but it's not easy to deal with "I don't feel anything" ... I know it has nothing to do with me, but it's tough, and I have no more energy ... and I feel that, if I break, it's all going to go down, and I can't let that happen. With all the problems he's having, the last thing I want is to become one of them, but I feel lonely, my self confidence has almost disappeared, and I just don't know what to do any more!

2007-05-19 08:06:21 · 19 answers · asked by tricky 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

Are there apparent issues showing that as his behaviour, his speech, whatever?!

2007-05-19 08:06:09 · 11 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend wants a three sum i strictly like guys i would'nt feel comfortible doing it what do i do to stay with him out of love

2007-05-19 08:04:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Why is it that men say hurtful things after a break up? I left a miserable marriage after 15 years. He called me names, cussed me out, accused me of everything, called my mom and kids (telling them all of the same, about me) and months later he never meant it and wants to work things out. WHAT?!?! So now I have gotten out of a 7 month relationship and I get to go through the SAME thing. He runs his mouth, calls me names, makes threats, also calls me mom and threatens to tell my kids. Then when he's calm, he wants to work things out.

The thing is, I am not any of the things either of them have said. And I am 40 years old...why do they call my mom? And why does my mom listen to the crap?

How can I ever trust a man again? I don't deserve to be talked to like that. I don't deserve that kind of disloyalty. Are all men like that when they don't get their way? Why would I go back to someone that calls me names anyway? I'm definately not going back to either one of them!

2007-05-19 08:02:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

last night I met and hung out with a group of friends and there was this one girl that really caught my eye. This was the first time we had ever met. Later on during the night she was blatantly flirting with me and of course as was I. We ended up exchanging numbers and I told her I was going to call her today to see if maybe we can hang out tonight. All this was happening after we both had allot to drink. And when girls have 1 too many drinks, they usually flirt allot just to have fun. So, my question is, should I call her today, or should I wait?

2007-05-19 08:01:50 · 21 answers · asked by Acknutz 2 in Marriage & Divorce

ok me and my boyfriend went to the movies together last night and one of my friends went with me ...when he showed up he was with two other girls that i dont like ... then he walks right by me and doesnt say a word to me.. i get a lil mad at him ..when i get into the theater he is sitting in between them so me and my friend go sit in the row next to them i get up to go get something and i look and him and another girl is holding hands..he said that he did that to make me friend mad ..would that be considered cheating????

2007-05-19 08:01:36 · 26 answers · asked by Megan M 2 in Singles & Dating

last night I met and hung out with a group of friends and there was this one girl that really caught my eye. This was the first time we had ever met. Later on during the night she was blatantly flirting with me and of course as was I. We ended up exchanging numbers and I told her I was going to call her today to see if maybe we can hang out tonight. All this was happening after we both had allot to drink. And when girls have 1 too many drinks, they usually flirt allot just to have fun. So, my question is, should I call her today, or should I wait?

2007-05-19 08:00:48 · 20 answers · asked by Acknutz 2 in Singles & Dating

Alright, I've liked this girl that goes to my school for 8 months. We hardly talked at all, we're both a bit shy, but I know for a fact that she likes me. I was finally able to talk to her this week and she said she wanted me to work at this place where she works at (most likely so she can know me better). I'm going to tell her I'll accept, but I want her to talk to me now. It took courage for me to speak to her, but now I feel like shes ignoring me and she seems so social to people around me, even other boys, but she still doesn't say anything to me. Now I'm really starting to get upset with her, because I don't know what the hell she wants now!!!!!!

2007-05-19 08:00:32 · 6 answers · asked by Nooooooooooo 3 in Singles & Dating

ive been in a relationship for 5 yrs and very unhappy its been more bad then good going on lately and we argue so much that i feel like im going crazy and our lives r so much different he is 13 yrs older then me and i just want out at this point what do i do

2007-05-19 07:59:15 · 12 answers · asked by SHARIKA F 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-05-19 07:58:06 · 3 answers · asked by kay 1 in Singles & Dating

alright so here are the facts
-im 16
-my boyfriend and i have been dating just over 6 months
-i love him, he loves me
-im a virgin

okay so i love him very much but and he really wants to have sex, but i just cant sort out my feelings and i dont know what to do. i know im not going to do it only to make him happy, but i dont really know how im supposed to feel and how to tell if its the right thing to do...any advice??

2007-05-19 07:57:49 · 8 answers · asked by jojo 1 in Singles & Dating

I am flirty...love hip-hop...basketball...softball...cherring...sporty..and im so not self-concited!

2007-05-19 07:57:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

A lot of nice people are around us, ... but not lucky enough to find the person who we think is perfect ... so we go looking in the interent ( chating, matching , ... etc. ) ... Do you think that a human relation could be starting by chating on the net??? could it be result to a real LOVE ... ???

2007-05-19 07:56:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating