me & my gf are supposed to be getting married but there are issues. she no longer wants to communicate when there is a prob. she sweeps it under the rug. she has 2 kids. they are 2 & 7. i have been repeatledly hit on lately & i have tried to be involved in their lives but they have said "i'm nt the father". they don't listen to me & when i tell her about it she seems as is she doesn't care. when she got her tax returns back in march & got $6000 back & blew the money. we were supposed to get our own place but that's on hold cust we don't have the money & i have medical issues & am trying to pay those bills while saving money. i feel like i'm backed in a corner with no answers. that's some of the probs. what should i do. try to work it out or leave.
2007-05-19 08:10:23 · 11 answers · asked by jack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go find a nice girl without kids and start your own family. This will be baggage and drama your whole life.
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2007-05-19 08:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your getting a good look into what your life will always be like if you marry her. I don't think I could marry someone like this. If she didn't get a place when she had the money I don't think that that's a big deal to her. And remember that her children will always be a part of her life so......it won't get any better. If I were you I would heed the warning signs and get out. Consider it a blessing and find someone who will respect you. There's someone out there for you.
2007-05-19 08:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by SAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is in the description of your problem. Read it and you'll know. You should leave her.
I work as a babysitter and if a kid hit me (like happened before) and the parents know and they don't care, I leave.
And I am not with them 24/7!! Imagine you, that'll be living with them.
Look for somebody that will respect you and make its kids respect you too. She sounds selfish and also a bad mother.
2007-05-19 08:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by helloy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to work it out. sorry the kids and your fiance are being like that. thats not what families do. if it doesnt get better soon, think about your future and if you want whats going on right now to be going on in the future as well. Good luck
2007-05-19 08:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Elly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you know why she can't keep a man. Notice the father(s) of her kids don't want her. This is a preview of what your marriage will be like. You will be treated like crap by her. She's treated men like crap all along, which is why the fathers of her kids probably can't stand her. Boot her hind end to the curb and find a stable woman. They are out there. SHe probably doesn't discipline her kids. There are good single women out there who do discipline their kids. And there are good single women out there who don't have kids.
2007-05-19 08:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me, from this description, that she has not let you have much involvement in her life, and the children obviously don't want you to, so I would be very careful about getting married. In fact, I wouldn't do it at all, but that is your choice.
2007-05-19 08:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and work it out. If you were going to marry her, it's obvious that you love her. Stick through and talk to her. Don't marry her until you get these issues fixed with her.
2007-05-19 08:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by SweetMelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your gut. Surely you know deep down what the right decision is. I suggest that you just follow your heart because it is never wrong.
2007-05-19 08:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by epic_80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is selfish,think a lot before marrying her.
2007-05-19 08:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try one more month, and if its the same, say by-by.
2007-05-19 08:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by John F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋