Ive been friends with 'jess' for 10 years ever since we were at school, Now she seems to be so full of herself and has let me down on number of occasions. I find it hard to end the relationship as we have been mates since we were 11. I have got other friends but I always make the effort to call round and see her and her baby daughter. She emphersises the fact that she has other friends now such alot i.e our friends tom and jane this that...... sometimes I think what about me am I just someone now that makes the effort to visit you. I recently told her I was in touch with a girl we used to know and she just blatently started bitching about the person....from stuff that happened at school.. I mentioned my birthday and she said straight away ive got plans that day....also I bumped into a relative of hers who when I said hi how are u bursted out when are u going to take me to a 'particular shop' where u need a card to get in..which i have .. she does call me if I leave it a few weeks.....
2007-05-19 08:08:09 · 14 answers · asked by cizzy81 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Have been here and sympathise. The problem is they make you feel like its your problem when you're being the best friend you can be. It often involves major effort on your part and none on theirs - it will never be the friendship that you wish. Honesty doesn't work as there is generally total overreaction and then 'huffy' behaviour. Best you can do is back off and get a more clear perspective and then decide whether or not you can carry on being a friend in the circumstances. All the best.
2007-05-19 08:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Delerious? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that u and jess have been friends for over 10 years but meybe u guys are getting tired of each other jess does not seem like a good friend i think that she doesn't see what a good friend u are and isn't going to realize it until she looses u maybe u should get away from her for a while don't call her and wait until she calls u after a while that u guys haven't seen each other u guys should talk and tell her what u think about her if she doesn't appreciate u then u should just forget about her i'm sure u can have better friends than her although it is sad since u guys have been friends for 10 years well i'm still not finished with my advice but have to go bye
2007-05-19 08:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by LOVELY J.C.c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your friend has made new friends and doesn't need you anymore. C'mon...if you've been friends for 10 years now and she doesn't remember your birthday and makes other plans instead, that's a sign that you're not in her thoughts anymore. I'd just ignore her, stop making the effort to call her/meet her and go on with your life. When and if she realizes these new "friends" aren't her real friends, hopefully, she'll come crawling back to you. If not, her loss.
2007-05-19 08:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by koiboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds complicated so maybe a bit of both! perhaps she is just busy with her baby etc and there's no harm in her having other friends, you shouldn't feel jealous or pushed out - you have already said you have other friends and told her you met up with someone else you went to school with.
perhaps you have just drifted apart a bit - it happens as you get older and start to settle down.
you've already said she phones you so she obviously still enjoys chatting and seeing you.
i really wouldn't worry too much about it - let the friendship take it's natural course.
2007-05-19 08:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by just trying to make a difference 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 15, you'll advance out of this section and grow to be autonomous out of this. yet at 15 you should start up sorting out and being smooth with who you're, this isn't about your chum, that's about your self esteem. do not ever stay in some different person's shadow ,and be effective with it. this may absolutely result you contained in the longer time period. Your are literally not being egocentric because you've valid causes to experience insecure, in case you want to experience better perfect you want to comprehend this has no longer some thing to do with her, that's you feeling sorry for your self. hit upon elementary procedures to love your self, no matter if regardless of alternative relationships you go back throughout the time of on your existence, boyfriends , different friendships, your self nicely worth is what concerns maximum. it begins at a tender age, start up practise it.
2016-11-04 11:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after you've been through with her lately, I don't think you should call her FRIEND. Aren't friends the ones who always have a second to talk to us, or to share their experiences ? You can't expect a friendship to last if the other one keeps avoiding you and telling you to go away... and you were always the one who cared about her and her daughter, you were the one who invited her to your birthday party... why do you even bother ? These are clear signs that she doesn't consider you her friend anymore... it's her loss, anyway!
2007-05-19 08:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by boy_out_of_hell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have out grown each other. Not a bad thing. As long as your really honest to each other. My friend of 10 yrs. just told my she didn't want me for a friend anymore, no reason we were like sisters. She lives in the same Apts i do & walks by everyday. It turned out to be a blesing in diguise. Now i do what i want to do when i want to do it. Don't go when i don't feel like it. Just break it off your way. Iprayed alot & that help me alot. BIG HUGS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2007-05-19 08:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by texasstar1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think she worth the effort, doesn't sound like she like really wants to be friends from what you wrote she does sound selfish
2007-05-19 08:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds selfish to me
2007-05-19 08:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is jealous. hang out with other ppl. she does sound selfish but have you tired talkin to her about tis. lettin her know how you feel.
2007-05-19 08:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by honey + biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋