alright so here are the facts
-im 16
-my boyfriend and i have been dating just over 6 months
-i love him, he loves me
-im a virgin
okay so i love him very much but and he really wants to have sex, but i just cant sort out my feelings and i dont know what to do. i know im not going to do it only to make him happy, but i dont really know how im supposed to feel and how to tell if its the right thing to do...any advice??
2007-05-19 07:57:49 · 8 answers · asked by jojo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him when your ready you'll let him know.
2007-05-19 08:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is meant as a celebration of love between a husband and wife - a joining of the souls. You have only been dating this young man for 6 months, that is not a very long time. If he is pressuring you to have sex, especially when he knows you are not ready - then he is not the guy for you, and he does not really love and care for you. Remember, if you do decide to give up your virginity, it is not something that you can get back - especially if it is given to a guy who will dump you right after - and to be honest, most guys at 16 hardly ever stay with the girl they have sex with the first time. Do you want that for yourself? Don't you want to be sure about the man and his commitment to you before you give up that part of yourself. I am not sure you can be totally secure about a guys' commitment to you after only dating for 6 months - no matter how much he says he loves you.
2007-05-19 15:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16, you have your whole life ahead of you. Right now you should be enjoying being a "kid". Once youstart having sex, everything changes. You have to be responsible for what you do and how you do it. Guys will ALWAYS want sex- it is in their nature. Once you cross over into the sexual side of life, you can NEVER go back. If you wait until YOU know you are ready, (aka NO DOUBTS) you can not go wrong.
2007-05-19 15:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that tough, but my opinion would be that you wait until you are married to have sex, because 1) you wont have to worry about him leaving you aftre, 2) if you were to end up pregnant he couldn't just leave, 3) You can be SURE you love him adn he loves you. If you feel like you are only doing it to make him happy, keep him there, or anyother stupid reason than don't do it... otherwise follow your instincts. I know from friends that you are stuck with the decisions you make.
2007-05-19 15:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by music fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl.... Don't do it.... If he really loves you he will respect your purity! You do know what you feel coz you seem anxious over it.... Like what ppl say " when in doubt don't do it".... Listen to your instinct.. If he still pushes the subject then God will make a way that you will not be put in that predicament. Your a smart girl :) Do what is right keep your self pure.
2007-05-19 15:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all both of your are to young to be have intercourse.You have a whole future ahead of you and if something goes wrong your dreams and goals can get delayed.Let him know you love him but your not ready to do this.
2007-05-19 15:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are too young to have a sexual relationship. Tell him to go find someone. Pride,dignity and respect. He does not have any of these for you. Save yourself from a real bad relationship
2007-05-19 15:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by lynapow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if this guy really does love you as much as he probably says he does he'll wait for you
2007-05-19 15:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋