My husbands mother is how we communicate with his ex girfriend for the kids because she and i do not get along. Today my mother in law called me to tell me the kids (2 and a half and 4 and a half) need diapers..and the light bill needed to be paid or the light would be cut off. I'm thinking "why are you t elling ME? The ex (still) lives with her mom along with her two sisters and their husbans and of of course their(her and my husbands) kids. Every adult in the house works accept my husbands ex. The children DO live with her but under these circumstances why should he have to pay th eir bills? O need advice because i am debating even mentioning this bulls*** to my husband when comes home from work?
2007-05-19 08:27:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sound slike to me your husband is kinda like a fall guy - someone to call on when they need something. If he is paying child support, then there is no reason in which he should be having to cough up money all of the time for her and her family's bills. In fact, I am sorta bothered as to why evryone is living with her mother?! I think the mother of his kids needs to have her own place, as do the others invovled.
2007-05-19 09:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by lilbeamlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the one and only question here is....Is he paying child support? If he is paying child support, then he absolutely should NOT be paying any other bills for her. If he is not paying child support, then it would probably be the right thing to do. Child support is set up to cover bills like these. It's unfortunate becase there are young children involved, but if the entire family lives together like you say they do, then I'm sure someone will pay those bills eventually. Like I said, not your husband's problem unless he doesn't pay child support.
2007-05-19 08:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tanya K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should firstly be paying monthly child support. If this amount hasn't already been decided then a lawyer should see to that.
Now if all these people do live in the house with his kids, then I do not think it's fair he pay it. If there are so many working adults in that house then why don't they pay it?
2007-05-19 09:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Drou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ur hubby needs to be responsible for is 1 child support check every month and that is it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
don't they have a child support settlement???? i mean my hubby had 1000 $ taken out of his check every month for child support for his daughter and has been since she was 8 1/2!! there is not problems and never has been because the suppor check is in the ex's hands every month and she also gets med and dental. see seems like ur hubby does not pay child support regularly and he should a set amount. and that is it no he needs not pay the utility bill that is silly. and aS FOR DIAPERS...that is when the child support money comes into play!
2007-05-19 08:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I think you desperately need to get your husband and his family into family counseling with you.
You can not control what someone else does or does not do.
and no under this situation if your husband is paying child support he should not be saddled with paying the bills of six other adults. It's not his place.
2007-05-19 08:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The diapers should be paid for but it is none of your responsibility to pay their light bill. Its CHILD support. Not Utility support. Talk to a lawyer.
2007-05-19 08:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, with all the questions you ask about this, all the time, it's beginning to look like you are just a bored kid. If you are for real and have this much trouble with your husband, his ex, and his family, then you need to open your mouth and talk to him instead of posting questions on here.
2007-05-19 08:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be paying something for the children, but when u get involved with a man who has small children by someone else these things are going to happen, and may eventually be the undoing of your marriage. he does need to make an effort to pay child support.
2007-05-19 09:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if its for the kids, and they need it, then yea he should help out.
BUT, if he is paying child support, than anything above that is not HIS responsibility, and if he did pay it, it would just be because he is a nice guy, not because he HAS to.
2007-05-19 08:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would pay the bill or seek custody of the kids even if i couldnt stand the ex just becuz my kids were there
2007-05-19 15:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by anthentherwasi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋