Family & Relationships - 25 April 2007

I really dont know wut 2do. I'm 21 yrs old, graduating from college and really excited about my future (going 2 grad school)On the flip side, sometimes I just feel like I can do anything, but at other times I feel like a little kid. By this I mean that when I'm around certain people I feel inadequate. I feel like I cant express myself and even my actions arent confident. I dont really know why I feel this way . Maybe it's my parents. The push me so hard to do well but its like I never measure up to their expectations. My parents say things like, " you havent accomplished anything. So what you're graduating from college in 4 year, other people do it in 3....Your grades could be higher you just settle for the gentlemans B." In addition to this they dont let me do anything.I dont really feel like I cant talk 2 them w.o getting critiqued..I know most will say that I need 2 move out. I will after grad school. I know they luv but me wut can I do in the mean time

2007-04-25 13:09:15 · 4 answers · asked by jfire_2007 1 in Family

Please include age, sex, and how far away from her you live....

2007-04-25 13:08:01 · 8 answers · asked by da_trump_queen 3 in Family

there is this guy that rids my bus and he is so sweet and nice. every day he will sit behind me on they bus and we would talk, but today his friends wher on the bus and he was really mean to me. y do they do that?

2007-04-25 12:57:46 · 18 answers · asked by Hick Chick<3! 2 in Singles & Dating

my sister has 6 kids and she wants me to baby sit but she always asks my mom i am 21 what do i do. i live with my parents.

2007-04-25 12:51:15 · 9 answers · asked by acceptancewithjoy20 2 in Family

2007-04-25 12:50:34 · 39 answers · asked by Ken J 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my uncle aunt and cousins live next door. Ever since we moved to this development together its like they had to have EVERYTHING we were planning to get. 1st off when we were picking house colors for our new houses, we told them what colors we wanted and they went out and got it.
1. my mom was planning on getting a tuscan kitchen.......
And all the sudden my aunt goes out and buys all tuscan stuff for her kitchen.
2. My step dad was thinking about getting a certain car and was talking to this car dealer about it.
A few days later the same car was in my uncle's driveway.
3. We were making plans 2 get our basement finished....
And then a week later my aunt and uncle have contractors at their house finishing the basement!
4. Finally my parents have been talking the past 2 weeks about getting a patio in the backyard. We had a guy over 2 give us a quote ....
Then, I go outside and there is a patio guy giving them a quote for the exact same design as we wanted!

2007-04-25 12:45:00 · 5 answers · asked by Lauren. 4 in Family

My boyfriend has stacks of dirty movies - and magazines - I know it's healthy to be "interested" but at what point is this an addiction - or is that even possible.

2007-04-25 12:44:50 · 17 answers · asked by anna 2 in Singles & Dating

my best friend is loosing his mother and she is in intensive care she is going to be taken off the tube in 2days and thats the END of her life... he livess in california but his mom lives in newyork with the rest of hs family and some of them resent him because he was in newyork for a week and he went to see his mother in the hospital but then the next dy he left to go back to his wife and he went and he did what he said what he was gouing to do and that was pay respect to his mother and now his family is blaming him for her death...but he brought his daughr with himwhen he went ad his sister threatned to harm and hurt his daughter because she dosent like the motheer of the baby... he says he dosent want to go to the furenal he says he dosent want to see his mother in a box so is he a bad person??

2007-04-25 12:44:36 · 8 answers · asked by ??? 2 in Family

ok i know this might sound werid but hear it goes. well i gone with this kid for about 3 days and i have not kissed him but his cousin is like we would of kissed the first hour or minute what do u think i should do? HELP

2007-04-25 12:43:12 · 9 answers · asked by hunny_sweet_girl 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i really like this guy, but idk if he likes me more than a friend!
hes always showing signs that he likes me, like for example: hes always teasing me and joking with me, hes always finding a reason to talk to me or touch me, and hes always starting at me or flirting wit me and hes always trying to get my attention. but theres another girl that he says he likes and he slept with her. so what do yall think? i mean he does this kinda stuff to me when shes around or even if shes not around. what do yall think about this?

2007-04-25 12:42:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well i like this guy who goes to my class and he has a sister who is my BEST friend. she knows i like him and he knows too. me & him have known each other since 2nd grade but he dosen't like me yet! i have this other friend who talks s*** about him just because she went out with him and he dumped her.............so my real question is, should i play hard to get, or ask him out already????

2007-04-25 12:39:46 · 11 answers · asked by [[ yESSiR ]] 2 in Friends

Okay so I have been married for 4 years & we have been together for 8 years all together. I have never really been the working type & he knew that, well after we moved away from our hometown I got a job and kept it for a little over 2 yrs which was a first. Well 2 years ago we had a baby together, then I kept on working till up to 8 months ago. He told me I could stay home just as long as I keep his house clean and take care of our daughter which is understandable. Well I take care of our daughter & I clean the house up. I don't keep it spotless or anything but I try to keep it looking at least half way nice. Well now he is telling me that I'm not doing worth a damn at cleaning his house & all that stuff. So now for the last 3 days he has been ignoring me unless it's about his work or our daughter and today I asked him to show me some love and he said I didn't deserve it. I asked him if he still loved me & he said I'm just a stay at home mom for his daughter. What can I do to fix this?

2007-04-25 12:39:38 · 33 answers · asked by T 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-25 12:36:10 · 18 answers · asked by BeAcHBaBe1 3 in Singles & Dating

how

2007-04-25 12:34:15 · 6 answers · asked by ........san francisco........... 1 in Friends

well i have been going with this guy that i like and i want to kiss him but there is one thing i don't know when the right time to do it and i don't know what people would think of me and i like his cousin more and if he wouldn't of asked me out we woild have gone with him so what should i do?

2007-04-25 12:32:15 · 10 answers · asked by hunny_sweet_girl 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Robert=crush
So I noticed today on the bus my hair was looking really messy, and of course my friends were admitting this to me. (I like it when my friend’s don’t lie to me)- He didn’t even acknowledge this; instead he changed the topic to 'How Rachel (me) looks naked from a certain angle.' (I was wearing a tank top that really revealed my chest, but not my cleavage)
We are sort of in the same group of friends. We are like in a posse of 5.
Our friends call him my lover.
We hang out and stuff.
He is a retard.
We haven’t talked since last Friday, when I hung out with him and he showed me his boxers, and that same day he pole danced, and he told me how it would be awesome to mow the lawn naked.
OOH! And sometimes when we are talking we will just pause and just stare at each other, he tends to grin too.
And today if was walking to seventh period, and I pass him as usually do, but something in my gut told me to turn around and look at him, and when I did he was looking at me

2007-04-25 12:30:17 · 8 answers · asked by im_teh_muffin_man_lurv_me 1 in Singles & Dating

most guys who live with a woman find everything they need, sex, companionship, AND NO COMMITTMENT, so why would a guy want marriage?

2007-04-25 12:29:19 · 7 answers · asked by thesunshineking 2 in Singles & Dating

Long story short..im in love with this guy ...were not in a relationship but we have known each other for 12yrs ..we have been sexual though and im not the type of girl to be with a guy whos with alot of other girls so I asked my bestfriend which is his sister to tell me if he does anything because im done after that..well this past weekend I slept with him and found out on sunday he had been with another girl and she didnt want to hurt me and he asked her not to tell me..do i have the right to be mad? or was i wrong for putting her in the middle of me and her brother?

2007-04-25 12:27:56 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The reception will end around 9pm and our hotel is less than five minutes away. I like the old fashioned idea of putting on a going away outfit, but at the same time I want to show off my gorgeous gown as much as possible! What does everyone think?

2007-04-25 12:26:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I LOVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-04-25 12:26:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-25 12:25:24 · 28 answers · asked by linda l 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-25 12:25:06 · 10 answers · asked by concern woman 1 in Family

Ok! My boyfriends ex-girlfriend still likes him and she wont stop bugging me and him even though he has already told her that he doesnt love her anymore! how do i get her to stop!

2007-04-25 12:22:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-25 12:22:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My wife and I have been married for five years. After a couple years worth of ups and downs and an inability to communicate effectively through what I think are some pretty normal marital problems, my wife decided a couple of months ago that she wanted a divorce. The decision came on the heels of a seemingly insignificant argument. We have gone to counseling only a couple of times and we have briefly lived separately which really amounted to me being home all the time, but sleeping somewhere else; not a whole lot changed – this is the extent of our therapy. My wife is adamant that she wants this divorce and will seek no further therapy, advice, or anything that would suggest the contrary; she also refuses a stricter trial separation to really test the waters. We have a 3 year old son and I’m trying to avoid this from happening but believe its now out of my hands. I’ve tried to amicably hash out a separation agreement and she is trying to secure a refinance on our house but I think she’s sort of dragging her feet. She got really upset the other night when we were talking about how we would divide our belongings. Oddly, if the subject doesn’t come up, watching us you would never know we were seriously contemplating divorce. Except for there being no outward affection everything is normal and we get along fine. I’m really concerned about how well she has thought this through and if her feelings could change once the ink dries, which I think, is likely to happen. She recently turned 33 and I believe she is having a premature mini mid-life crisis which plays some role in this decision. She’s at the point where she does not want the daily responsibilities of being a wife, mother, etc. She would rather be shopping, dinning, or partying to the sun comes up with friends.

I’ve been an outstanding husband and father and have really gone through a lot of grief standing idly by, taking care of my son, while she’s pursuing what makes her happy (above), but feel in my heart that if she thought this through she would see it’s not our only alternative, with help we could overcome this. Unfortunately I have not been able to rule out an emotional (maybe more) attachment elsewhere, can’t be sure. Talking to her has gotten me nowhere; she’s very proud (especially with me) and half the time she says A but really means B. She has expressed concerns to her friends that have gotten back to me and although it made me feel better knowing she still had some feelings, these concerns weren’t show stoppers. What would be the best course of action right now? Should I kill her with kindness and love and see if I can’t clear up some of her confusion in a good way? Should I make it easy for her to proceed with a divorce? Should I sit tight and I wait it out? Is she confused as to what she really wants or am I kidding myself? Anyone out there who regretted their decision to divorce? Do any women even identify? I need some advice!

2007-04-25 12:20:23 · 7 answers · asked by Ryan 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-25 12:16:18 · 15 answers · asked by MEME 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-25 12:16:11 · 8 answers · asked by hisxbby 2 in Singles & Dating

LONG STORY SHORT I'M IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY AND HAVE BEEN FOR 12 YRS..I'M 24 NOW. HES 29.WE HAVE NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP ONLY SEXUAL.HE SAYS HE CARES A LOT ABOUT ME AND SAYS HE LOVES ME IN SOME WAYS AS WELL. HE SAYS TO ME I'M THAT GIRL, THE GIRL IN THE MOVIES AND IN THE SONGS. THE IT YOU LOOK FOR YOUR WHOLE LIFE.. I'M THAT. YET HES SCARED TO BE WITH ME IN FEAR OF MESSING IT ALL UP...HES GOT A LOT OF ISSUES RIGHT NOW HES HAVING TO DEAL WITH. AND HE TELLS ME HE WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT WHEN HE REACHES THE TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN ..I WILL BE THERE...HERES MY QUESTION....WE ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP YET HE DID JUST SLEEP WITH SOMEONE ELSE AND IT HURT ME SO BAD...I AM FAITHFUL TO HIM EVEN THOUGH IM NOT WITH HIM. DO I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE MAD AT HIM? PLUS HE SLEPT WITH THE MOST NASTYEST PERSON I KNOW AND SHES 41 AND NOW PREG BY 1-5 AND HES IN THE LIST.HES PAYING FOR THE ABORTION..AM I CHASING A DREAM? IM SO LOST AND SO HURT....WHAT DO I DO..

2007-04-25 12:15:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i just got married in january, to man that i have known for 8 months before, but love him very much, hes a good man to me and loves me too. we got married and spent a our honeymoon together in egypt, i came back to the US and hes still there working out some things before he makes his move with me here. since ive been back ive been talkin to my ex boyfriend, we were together for 4 years and i was madly in love with him, hes so different than my husband, and he loves me more than ever now, we had broken up because he didnt want to commit. but now regrets it. we were just friends and talkin off and on, and then last night we me up for some coffee in the evening and ended up having sex in the back of my car. i feel horrible and i havent told my husband ofcourse, my ex is now more attached to me, and i want him too but i cant have him, hes tryin to convince me of leaving my husband, but i cant do that to him either. please help i want to save my marriage what should i do?!

2007-04-25 12:13:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am a 17 year old, male homosexual, and i was wondering if i should tell my father, who is the only other person in my household. Hes quite a racist/prejudice jerk most of the time, but sometimes he gives off a vibe like maybe he'd accept it. It's scary to even think about getting myself to do it though cause i happen to think hes clinically insane, and he has many episodes of screaming at people who aren't there, but actually exist. (I know the names) He says they are wispering and messing with him, which makes me wonder if hes even a fit parent cause hes been this way since i can remember, and i know it's had some scarring affect on me. But, he brings that problem of his into my world and he insists that they are always telling me to do or say things that he doesn't approve of, and no matter how hard i try, i can't get through to him that it doesn't make sense. But in any case, do you think i can open up to a man like this and telling him i'm gay and I have a boyfriend?

2007-04-25 12:12:24 · 31 answers · asked by Niaku I. Wolf 1 in Family