please help?

Question

I really dont know wut 2do. I'm 21 yrs old, graduating from college and really excited about my future (going 2 grad school)On the flip side, sometimes I just feel like I can do anything, but at other times I feel like a little kid. By this I mean that when I'm around certain people I feel inadequate. I feel like I cant express myself and even my actions arent confident. I dont really know why I feel this way . Maybe it's my parents. The push me so hard to do well but its like I never measure up to their expectations. My parents say things like, " you havent accomplished anything. So what you're graduating from college in 4 year, other people do it in 3....Your grades could be higher you just settle for the gentlemans B." In addition to this they dont let me do anything.I dont really feel like I cant talk 2 them w.o getting critiqued..I know most will say that I need 2 move out. I will after grad school. I know they luv but me wut can I do in the mean time

Answer 1

let me tell you something. i'm 46 and there are many times i feel like i'm still 18. usually when it comes to dealing with my dad. as far as our parents are concerned we will always be kids and will always need to be critiqued. i think they do it to make us strive for the best .of course that isn't easy on us as their kids. if you have a hard time talking to them and worry that they'll turn the situation around on you, write them a letter. explain how you feel and that you are doing your best.let them know how their nagging is making it hard for you to study. tell them that a "b" is a great grade.and if they don't think so then thats their opinion but could they please not complain about it. i'll bet your professers think it's good. i had to do this with my dad. he just didn't get it when i talked to him. the letter really helped. give it a try. best of luck in your education.

Answer 2

I think everyone at your age feel like this your parents just want whats best for you use their criticism as fire under you to be something i took it oppositly and became a struggling wife of a drug addict homeless and a server living day to day so they may sound harsh but on the long run youll be successful and appreciate them more also remember that we are not garanteed tomorrow they or you could not be here your an adult talk to them dont hide your anger of they go tomorrow god forbid you will live with this guilt you have written about for the rest of your life hope this helps

Answer 3

your parents are just pushing you to greatness but there is a cerain time when enough is enough so you need to tell your parents that since they crisize you so harshly that you feel you cant come to them anymore then you dont feel uncomfortable when ur around different ppl because your not suppose to hide your personality or urself. remember by not doing anything or being uncomfortable your sending a message to those around you be yourself youve done enough live,laugh,pray,love
brianna

Answer 4

Sounds like your parents are holding you back. Do what YOU want to do, and do it to your full potential.