my sister has 6 kids and she wants me to baby sit but she always asks my mom i am 21 what do i do. i live with my parents.
2007-04-25 12:51:15 · 9 answers · asked by acceptancewithjoy20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she never asks me.
2007-04-25 12:51:43 · update #1
remind her that you would be happy to babysit and tell her that if she and her husband/ boyfriend/ friends wanna get out of the house sometime then you would gladly watch them... tell her that you love being with them... and most moms will say YES or be sooo stunned that you took the time to care about them that they will really look up to you.
2007-04-25 12:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Act your age sweetheart. No, means No. Talk to your mom and tell her that this business lay between you and your sister and what you'll do for mom is between you and mom, and like wise for your sister. If your mom accepts on your behalf without your consent, I don't think you're obligated to fufill that contract.
You can always have plans for those times. If you don't then you need to develop some plans. I have brothers, who baby sat for me. But there was reciprosity, later on. I baby sat for him, two times the amount, because they were there for me when I needed them. Nothing but nothing is equal to the love and caring that came from the agreement of siblings.
My uncles babysat for my mom. Some of my best laughs in life, came out of those babysitting occasions. I in turn baby sat for my Uncle's children when I was able. I have the best relationship with my cousins. Somehow it just keep on growing.
What I'm trying to say is babysit when you feel like doing your sister a favor. But remember that the time you spend with your nephews and nieces, is going down in family history. Babysit with love and total respect and definitely when you really want to do it.
2007-04-25 20:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by fieldhouse39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she wants you to babysit then she needs to ask you and tell your mother the same thing. You may live at home but neither one of them have the right to EXPECT you to do anything. Tell them you want the respect of them asking rather than assuming.
2007-04-25 19:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can say:
Sister, I am an adult, please ask me if you need me to babysit, not mom. Mom doesnt know my schedule so she cant say yes or no anyway.
It sounds like your sister views you as a child if she is older. Its okay though. Or maybe she is afraid you will say no, so she asks mom.
2007-04-25 19:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she needs you to sit for the kids to please ask you not tell your mom. it may be that she isn't really asking your mom. she may just be thinking aloud and mentions something like"do you think so and so would be willing to sit" and then mom takes it upon herself to ask you thinking you should help her. let your sis know that she needs to talk to you directly.
2007-04-25 19:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to babysit all those kids? If so just tell her I'm sure she'll be glad to hear it.
2007-04-25 19:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by blueeyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave them with your mom....
shes the one that said yeah...
unless ur sister asks you.....don't do it...
she only asks your mom cause she knows that your gonna say no to her...
thats alot of kids holly ****...
hmm
-L
2007-04-25 19:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by LBoogy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would start by communicating more often with your sister, so she can see you as a GROWN up person.
2007-04-25 19:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by honker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell here ask you
2007-04-25 19:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋