My boyfriend has stacks of dirty movies - and magazines - I know it's healthy to be "interested" but at what point is this an addiction - or is that even possible.
2007-04-25 12:44:50 · 17 answers · asked by anna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A sex addict used to be referred to as a nymphomaniac, so it has been identified for a long time, so I would say it does exist. However I do not think that it is as common as most people like to believe, and most people who claim to be 'sex addicts' only do so to allow them to get away with antisocial behaviour and within today’s sociality it is 'cool' to admit you are an 'addict' - and it done not matter what you are addicted to!
I doubt if your BF is a sex addict, just he likes to watch a bit of porn every now and again. You have said that he has stacks of mags and vids, but does he watch them or look at them all the time? He might have watched them once and then never look at them again. Owning somethin does not mean that you use it.
2007-04-25 12:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by kel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I would have to agree with most people here. This is not an addiction. He didn't say anything that made it an addiction. If he was losing work, not paying attention to you, etc... then this sounds like a male that likes this sort of entertainment. Some questions would be did he start this collection before he met you? So then what is it use just for his personal fulfillment when he didn't have a girlfriend? Or has it continued...? Guys don't particularly like to part with there porn... there's some old friends in there that it's been lonely nights with them.
But all these aren't necessarily problems. Obviously has enough that they are in stacks.... and it doesn't sound like he's exactly hiding them from you. Of course there is one thing to remember and that is that guys that are not horny typically do not look at porn. Oh they might at a bachelor party but not necessarily by themselves. So make him know that he piece feeling a little Randy... put down the book and come see you
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2007-04-25 14:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by AdviceManHere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, BUT, it's not the sex that's addicting. It's the thrill. Seriously, as an ex-cocaine AND heroin addict there is a difference. Substance addiction, especially heroin and alcohol have serious physical symptoms and the detox is just horrible both phys and mental. Sex addiction is, in my opinion, almost entirely mental. When i used to go out to try to score, i would often get "sick" before getting the dope. Why. Anticipation and the thrill of the chase. Adrenaline. The rush of doing something i knew i shouldn't do. yea, once the crap has got ya, your stuck, but it doesn't start that way. They'll never have to detox. Sexers are getting something from the act that gets them higher than an orgasm. And THAT is the addiction. Sex is just the symptom, ...and a very nice warm feeling at the end.
2016-05-18 22:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a real addiction. many a marriage has broken up after the wife finds all the porno sites and DVDs. There are psychiatrists who specialize in sexual addiction. The only way to know is , is Sex the only thing they think about all the time that they are awake.
2007-04-25 12:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has been a study done on it and according to the experts, sex addiction exists in men and in women.
Many of these people act on it with several partners, like a desperate need. It's just like a drug addiction.
2007-04-25 12:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by sara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this addiction effect his work or family life. If it is overly consuming a persons life where it affect his ability to function normally by the standards of today society, Is he willing or has he gone into debt to support this habit? If yes I would call it an addiction that may need treatment.
2007-04-25 13:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
addiction is very possible. If he cant go a day without gettin off on somethin than he has a problem. Too much may seem like a great thing but it can hurt the individual physically and mentally. every guy has a secret stash but they shouldnt be relying on it like it is the air they breath
2007-04-25 12:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are satisfied with the amount of attention he is giving you, and also satisfied with your sex life then don't worry about it. Every person has their own interests, quirks, and "addictions."
If on the other hand he neglects you or other things in his life to check out his nudy mags then there is a problem.
2007-04-25 12:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Goofoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible..... it is called Nympho-mania. There are even self help groups for it like:
www.sexaa.com
www.sexhelp.com
www.sexaddict.com
etc..... I have a close friend who is a sex addict and SHE can't stop haveing sex if her life depended on it..... she will sleep with anyone who can even try to seduce her!!!
2007-04-25 12:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by hOnDa RaCeR 71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, one can become addicted to porn. i've never heard of a woman being addicted to porn. although i myself am a nymphomaniac but for one man only. men, intrested? however, the man who becomes addicted to porn, believe it or not, is actually seeking intimacy. obviously with some serious intimacy issues or hang ups. i say dump him if he doesn't agree to stop tihs sick behavior.
2007-04-25 12:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋