i just got married in january, to man that i have known for 8 months before, but love him very much, hes a good man to me and loves me too. we got married and spent a our honeymoon together in egypt, i came back to the US and hes still there working out some things before he makes his move with me here. since ive been back ive been talkin to my ex boyfriend, we were together for 4 years and i was madly in love with him, hes so different than my husband, and he loves me more than ever now, we had broken up because he didnt want to commit. but now regrets it. we were just friends and talkin off and on, and then last night we me up for some coffee in the evening and ended up having sex in the back of my car. i feel horrible and i havent told my husband ofcourse, my ex is now more attached to me, and i want him too but i cant have him, hes tryin to convince me of leaving my husband, but i cant do that to him either. please help i want to save my marriage what should i do?!
2007-04-25 12:13:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what im scared of most, is that my husband wont be here for a few more months, im scared i might get weak again with my ex and sleep with him again, i love him and dont wanna lose him, but i love my husband, i feel stable with him in a way my ex never provided, i dont want a divorce, but what should i do, i feel so guilty.
2007-04-25 12:15:04 · update #1
for the people that think im psycho and keep posting weird questions, me and my sisters use the same account and they got me started on this yahoo answers thing, so this isnt all me, jesus!
2007-04-25 12:52:11 · update #2
First off, its real easy to judge others in Yahoo answers. All I can say is be true to youself. Take care of yourself first. Find your own happiness, be it with your ex or your husband.. ...
2007-04-25 12:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you low, and if i was your husband i would divorces you @$$ and i would do it fast, all you want is a guy that will treat you bad, you got a guy that loves you and took you to Egypt and you back a few weeks and you cheat can you not go a week or 2 with out sex, your a whore big time, i have women like you i think you need to tell you husband he has a right to know and you will never feel better till you do. And you need to get over your ex the only reason he wants you is because there is no commitment, and if you get back with him he more than likely leave you and then what you gave up a good man for that, grow up and Tell your husband,get some balls and decide who you want
2007-04-25 20:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. CuTT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, Babe, but you need to grow up and make a decision. You can't have it both ways. Your husband does not deserve this, and how would you like it if he betrayed you this way? This is a classic example of having your cake and eating it too. It's immature, for one. Marriage is a serious committment, and you are not treating it that way. If you still want to play or feel "weak" then you are NOT taking your marriage seriously, nor are you ready for the responsibilities that come with it. Be big enough a person to MAKE A DECISION. You're going to hurt two innocent people. By the way, the truth always comes out sooner or later, and I can assure you this will not be secret forever. Good luck...do the right thing! When Karma comes back to bite you on the butt, it really HURTS!
2007-04-25 19:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you have any feelings towards another man while you are committed to a marriage, you aren't really in love with the man you married to begin with, I am married and I cant even imagine loving someone else other than my husband, and that's because I am in love with him and when you love one man, it's not possible to love another man. If you are adult enough to marry a person, you are adult enough to be able to control your own actions, and your fear of turning "weak" is just a sorry excuse, you should be thinking about your husband right now, not having sex with another man. If you want my opinion, if you care at all about your husband, do him a favor, divorce him so he doesn't have to be married to you.
2007-04-25 20:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know one such story going on right now, except it's a guy who just got married, wife still overseas preparing to move to be with him, and the husband is already cheating with the ex-gf.
In the case I know, the guy was dumped by the ex-gf, and he wanted to feel wanted, and so got married to make the ex regret dumping him.
In your case, even though you may not have been dumped by your ex-bf, you did mention he won't commit to you. So you found someone who will. What you have here is a rebound marriage.
Chances of this kind of marriage lasting long term is not good.
2007-04-25 19:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by averagebear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cheated
you made a mistake
everyone does
now you have to accept the consequences
you need to tell your husband no matter how hard it will be
marriage is a promise and you broke it
if your husbands ok with it fine
if hes not you freed him of having a unfaithful person in his life
if you love him tell him
if you dont you will always feel guilty
always
really
you will have this thing on you for the rest of your life
but i cant tell you how to live your life
so think about the following
if you dont luv your ex as much as your husband ditch....mmmm that sounded harsh........ stop the romance between you guys
if you love your ex more than your husband get a divorce
also think about your future
if you can expect agreat life with your husband stay with him
if you think life with your ex is going to last for a couple of months or something dont lose your husband ove a little fling
it will get harder and harder the more rapped up in this double life
choose what you are going to do now
dont put it off
2007-04-25 19:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by bored! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ok you need to get a life! You posted a little while ago that you are letting your husband sleep with other women. Why would he care if you slept with other men. Just get a divorce and save everyone from these stupid questions.
Well then you and your sister need to go on Jerry Springer cause that would make a good show. I bet your parents are proud!!!!!
2007-04-25 19:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are in a tough situation, your ex boyfriend only wants you now because he knows he lost you. He had his chance and he blew it !! He does not deserve you.. why does he want you back now after you found happiness with someone else !!
You love your husband, concentrate on that, concentrate on making the new relationship work and forget about the past. You have to make a very difficult choice and a very difficult decision.. you have to tell your ex that you are in a committed relationship and what happened before was a mistake that wont happen again. Try to stay away from him. limit your interactions with him .. Best of luck
2007-04-25 19:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You shouldn't of gotten married. Way too soon..You are infatuated still with the ex and it's not fair to the husband you are deceiving..Either stay away from the ex or tell your husband you made a mistake....Sounds like your just using him for stabilty anyway...Do you really love him?....
2007-04-25 19:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't want to sound harsh at all, but you cheated on your husband in the back seat of a car? HOW LOW CAN YOU GO? I think you need to be honest with your husband and free him. If you are low enough to cheat in the backseat of your car, your husband needs the truth and you need to set him free. He needs someone that is going to be faithful, honest, and that he can trust, when he is away, to NOT step out on the marriage! And if you are weak enough to even think it could happen again, then it makes me question whether you really love your husband! Things that make you go hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
2007-04-25 19:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Nubian Princess 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋