Family & Relationships - 16 April 2007

soo.. i have always wanted to get married have kids. u know any girls dream.. well back then when i wanted that i like hated myself i never thought that i was good enough.. and now i dont want any of that well i do want kids.. but i dont wanna get marreid and i dont ever wanna date i think its cuz i dont wanna get hurt again. i have decided that i want to be alone for life but thats not gonna be a really happy life but i dont think that i am gonna be good enough for anyone because for one im not a toothpick and i never will be it just not in my genes to be really small.. and im ok with that but why cant people see u for who u are and not what u look like and why cant i just believe in myself and stop being soo hatefull towards myself i think that everyones life would be soo much better if i just wasnt around.......

2007-04-16 18:21:55 · 9 answers · asked by InSaNe 4 in Singles & Dating

to kiss and hold hands and I'm getting frustrated. I'm 25 she is 19. Thank you for your help. What should I do?

2007-04-16 18:17:39 · 20 answers · asked by mike 1 in Singles & Dating

my ex bf and i broke up a month ago. i tried to patch things up but he ignored all my attempts. so i stopped all contact with him.

lately he's been posting depressing messages online like he's emotionless, barely surviving stuff like that. whenever he posts something like that, i always post an encouraging song or some encouraging words. it's not addressed to him but it's pretty obvious it's for him.

today i posted i'm swamped with everything, work, state tax, etc. he posted back"i'm not here. deal with it." so i signed off. just now i found he updated his facebook, put his favorite quote as "It is better to love and lost than to never have loved at all. Yeah, right."

what does he mean?i'm pretty sure he doesnt care about me at all since he's so insensitive to my feelings and ignored all my attepts to patch up. is he hurting? then why didnt he try to patch things up with me?

2007-04-16 18:17:33 · 6 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Singles & Dating

My friend's husband, who admittedly has cheated on her and had another woman on the side for at least a year, has moved out of her home. He took all his clothes and toiletries. So this is not just some 'cooling off' weekend thing. He says he needs to think things through and decide what he wants to do (i.e., should they divorce; should he return). I think it's crazy she's giving him that much power. Why would you want to be with someone who isn't sure if he loves you enough to stay with you?

2007-04-16 18:14:08 · 14 answers · asked by Heidi from California 2 in Marriage & Divorce

hey guyz help me! i love this girl and i always express my love to her when i am with her.. when she knew that i love her.. her friends is always teasing her.. but there are many situations that need to know like, when i am walking her friend suddenly push her to me and we bumped each other but the weird thing is she didnt react that she was angry, when i am talking to her she is looking at my eyes and makes a big smile, i gave her a gift at valentines day that was febuary 14 i thought that she ate the chocolate, but at march 25 she text me and told me that "you know what this is just the first time that i will open your present, i will just eat one chocolate" and i ask why?? she replied "because i want your present, i want it to stay long to me" i didnt mind her.. hayyz.. i am not really sure if she loves me.. i didnt text her a very long time, and one day she text me and say "hello" and she asked "how are you" i replied "im fine" then i didnt add up What will i do? will i quit??

2007-04-16 18:10:39 · 7 answers · asked by -=JaKe WyLeR=- 1 in Singles & Dating

Alright, my whole life, I wanted to save my virginity for someone special. I met this guy at his apartment with my sister's boyfriend. We spent 5 days together off and on...drinking. I then lost my virginity to him on our 5 day of spending time together (whilst being drunk off Rum and Coke). He told me he was the one and I believed him...because I reallyyy liked him. This was 2 weeks before my 18th birthday. I'm now 22. Anyway, I haven't had sex with anyone but that guy and now I have met a guy I like...that I am dating. But on every date he tries to get sexual with me. He respects me wanting to wait until later on...but on our first date, he told me he didn't want anything serious. But we talk almost every day over the phone or Myspace. I don't know if he's starting to fall for me or what. But it seems like he wants some form of sex on every date. I am not ready. I want my first REAL time to be special and romantic with someone I am in a relationship with (TBC)

2007-04-16 18:06:55 · 9 answers · asked by Answer Girl 4 in Singles & Dating

Something fresh, meaningful, and teenish. Thanks>

2007-04-16 18:05:26 · 18 answers · asked by sillygurl 1 in Singles & Dating

I've just separated from my husband, divorce is proceeding, but sometimes I think what if we don;t feel the same way about each other and end up being the worst miserable persons together in the future? Also the difference in our age scares me though I love him and haven't felt this happy in months before I met him. We both want kids, but he will be a very old father. What if I end up being alone few years down the line? Im not looking for some funny answers here please. Thanks.

2007-04-16 18:02:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

this is not my opinion, just a common question. please give me some great ideas and supporting. thanks.

2007-04-16 18:02:28 · 4 answers · asked by sdc 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I heard it what gets the guys goin...

soo hearing your name, moaning, "you're the man" (haha) what else?

any specific expressions?

Loud? Soft?

2007-04-16 18:01:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband has an explosive temper and easily gets into bad moods. After 25 years, 3 children and 3 countries, I have eventually realised that he is not going to change. I am really scared about leaving though, as he has always been the main wage earner. Our house is not in a very sellable condition right now as many projects have been started and not finished... Also, I don't have any relatives here to help out and my youngest still has 3 more years of highschool . Is there a right or wrong way of doing this? Can I ask him to leave?

2007-04-16 18:00:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

but i don't wanna do the whole carmen fake electra thing , i have her dvd but being a big lady , looking in the reflection of the tv i look like a elephant having a fit,how can i do it without all that stuff ? what to wear from stuff at home i don't wanna spend a fortune to look like an idiot

2007-04-16 17:59:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hi Friends,
Please give me your advises how to deal with a husband who treat me like this he left me and kids at home and travel with his friends (I don't know who his friends male or female) for 10 days without telling me until he's on airplane and called me that he's traveling. He explained if he let me know ahead I won't let he go that's why he's wait until he's on airplane. Is it a good excuse? I'm a working mom and has to take care kids for 10 days. What should I do when he come back?
I feel very sad to be treated like this way. ;((

2007-04-16 17:58:07 · 7 answers · asked by kkvv 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my soon to be exhusband told me he has been having sexual dreams about me latley. do you think these dreams are just sexual or is it something else and if so what?

we had great sexual chemistry and a great relationship up unitl I got pregnant and it all went down hill from there. we have been seperated for 4 months now.

2007-04-16 17:57:13 · 9 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been with my boyfriend for 8 mths now and here's whats up!...His ex says she's moved on though she calls him at 2 am asking for favors!They say they are just friends!He keeps all his ex's numbers in his cell (so he will know if they are calling so he won't answer is the excuse I get)!He even has one of his ex's necklaces up on his wall and he got pissed at me for asking him to take it down!He said are you that damn insecure about a necklace!!Lastnite he went to see his ex at the strip club she works at..he said he barely remembers it but said her boyf was there!She called me saying he was up there telling her he didn't love me and the reason he was up there was to get away from me!He claims not to remember that part!I went to leave and he started in on how much he loved me and needed me!He lets me live with him for free and he pays all my bills!I'm with him all the time so i'm sure he's not cheating on me!Lastnite was the only time i think he's ever crossed the line with me!Help!

2007-04-16 17:56:47 · 1 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Singles & Dating

i liek this guy and my mosts hate him becuase they think hes a jerk and perverted. i like him alot becuase hes nice to me and hes just seems not the type of guy who would be like really mean. do i listen to my friends and back of or do i follow my heart?

2007-04-16 17:56:22 · 13 answers · asked by allieeeepie_246 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-16 17:54:51 · 6 answers · asked by stenly45 1 in Singles & Dating

For some reason i smell bad. I bathe and wear deodorant but i still smell like poop. No one will talk to me to because i am fat. Everyone makes fun of me and throws food at me at lunch while i sit all by myself. People tell me they are going to tie me down and spray me with tag and body spray. I am very scared. I want to be cool and get the girls like in the commercials. What can i do to get more friends?

2007-04-16 17:52:40 · 24 answers · asked by joe j 1 in Friends

I'm about 5'6'' and relatively athletic.I was just curious if girls would consider dating someone someone my height. People keep telling me that im better off with shorter girls but i was just curious if it would work out with taller girls.thanks.

2007-04-16 17:51:59 · 26 answers · asked by david_88 1 in Singles & Dating

ok well, im friends with all these guy who arent the best looking guys including myself. We try hard to get a gf but it never seems to work out. I can accept that not all the girls will like are personality but we treat them with respect and have great time with them. We always just turn into friends with them. It has to be apperance because it never seems to work. You would think that soon after a while a girl that you asked out would just like you for a personality, but no. It horse crap. Were not push overs. Were not like the guys that are like are you ok whats wrong. I see guys even hit women( not jokingly) and they get more women than i dont even know. I hate it

2007-04-16 17:51:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How long should I wait to tell him, i'm a virgin?
I am 25 and a virgin, I have told guys in the past early on that this was the case and honestly I think it scaried them because its not something most people would think based on who I am.
I am just starting out with a guy who is older then me and I know has been in sexual realationships, I am fairly sure he has no idea i'm a virgin. should I tell him earlier, later or just when and if it comes up?

2007-04-16 17:51:11 · 6 answers · asked by horsedance5 1 in Singles & Dating

Are there ways you can get to the "whys" in a person's life story without using the word? Have you ever needed to "dig" for some truth in order to understand someone in your life? What did that feel like and would you have done something different?

2007-04-16 17:51:10 · 1 answers · asked by holla 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

What certain things should a girl do?

2007-04-16 17:50:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been married for 4 years...about 3 weeks ago I made friends with a man, I didnt tell my husband. I haven't had any sort of sexual relations with him...we are just friends. We talk a lot on the phone and I've only seen him out once. My husband found out today about him from the cell phone bill. He doesn't believe me at all that I haven't had sex with him. He left...he said he needed time to calm down and think about things. I love my husband and I dont want to lose him. I realize I have made a mistake. I'm hoping through time I can gain his trust back. I would die if he divorced me. What are you suggestions one what I need to do? He says he can't believe a word that comes out of my mouth now and he can't ever trust me.

2007-04-16 17:50:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I are both christians, however I want to discover ways that I can improve myself as a wife and mother. I realized that I'm focusing alot on what I dislike about my husband when the truth is there are alot of things I dislike about myself and really need to dig deep and work on my skills as a wife. I really want to understand how to interact better with the male species. After all, they say you can only change yourself. If you know of any good books or even websites to visit that may help me on my road to self discovery I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks in advance!

2007-04-16 17:49:52 · 15 answers · asked by porkchopsgirl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

well he visited and he was like inquiring of my feedback that there was this 'someone' who calle now he is like confused...i said why not choose who you really like/want and all that crap...and he was like whats yer fill in it - so i said freakin choose me! lol. was i stupid to act this way...of course i said em all in a light manner...though it freakin sucks when he left. it was all casual, and discreet...uh, though i was comfortable with him. Though the case it...what now?

FILL ME IN Y'ALL. :)

2007-04-16 17:48:09 · 3 answers · asked by shanekeavy 5 in Singles & Dating

I just went on a date and when the guy asked if I wanted kids, I said yes, because I do want them. Then he asked if I could have them, and I felt kinda funny and said "I don't see why not" with a strange look on my face. I told him that I've never tried to have them before, so I don't know, nor have I ever asked my doctor if I CAN'T have them? I am still young and healthy. Mind you, he was married before and she couldn't have kids, but this is our first date...what a weirdo!

Anyone ever been cornered like this? Got a better response? And NO WAY am I going out with him again, he was weird and cheap.

2007-04-16 17:45:29 · 10 answers · asked by Runnin for my life '73 2 in Singles & Dating

when ever she start to talk about some thing I generaly start thinking somthing else, and in the end when she ask tell me wat i do my answers genrally r, ya u r right do wat ever but think before doing.

Though i Really love her.

Is this happen with u guys also?

2007-04-16 17:42:13 · 16 answers · asked by hah 2 in Singles & Dating

I have a problem. When ever I have a girl that I might be interested, I talk to her mostly on msn or phone. We go out maybe a couple times, but when I see that she is getting interested, its as if im not interested anymore.

I am only 18, I have had a few relationships in the past, a couple that lasted 5-6 months. Its been about 1-2 years since me and my ex broke up, and ever since, Im having that trouble.

I would like to have some tips on what should I do to keep interested once she is aswell, or target what is causing me to act like that.

Thanks for your time

2007-04-16 17:41:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-16 17:39:52 · 20 answers · asked by jalisa_perry 1 in Other - Family & Relationships