I've just separated from my husband, divorce is proceeding, but sometimes I think what if we don;t feel the same way about each other and end up being the worst miserable persons together in the future? Also the difference in our age scares me though I love him and haven't felt this happy in months before I met him. We both want kids, but he will be a very old father. What if I end up being alone few years down the line? Im not looking for some funny answers here please. Thanks.
2007-04-16 18:02:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's scary to deal with the larger age differences, and yet, things could actually work out if you give it a chance. No one knows what's in store for their lives from one day to the next, they can only pray for the best and go from there. If this is what you think will make you happy, wait until your divorce is final and go for it. Don't do anything while you are married, because this will put a damper on your new relationship from the start.
2007-04-16 18:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a relationship with a lady that was 30 years younger than me. It seemed to work. We cracked each other up and never got tired of each others company. In the end, as you know, people drift. It was good while it lasted. I guess the point here is that nothing comes with any kind of 'for sure'. Take love where you can and give love when you can. Try for 'forever', but life is short and forever may not be all that long. You may well get ill and die before him...or hurt...or lose your mind. Spooky thought, but it happens everyday. Also, 'old' fathers are often the best. Be happy, believe me...everything is perfect!
2007-04-16 18:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Noah H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will just say to take it slow! there is no pressure to marry this man. you may find after your divorce that you would like some time without a mate in your life..or time to date. things change once you're divorced. and you might need time to sort things out.
only thing is, we can't predict the future. just because you may have ended up "miserable persons together" in your former marriage, doesn't mean that will happen in a future relationship.
again, i just think you need some time and not be rushed into anything.
2007-04-16 18:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze he's 57, this doesn't mean he has one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel. What if HE is the one ending up alone a few years down the line? Just because you are younger than he is doesn't mean YOU won't die before him...
2007-04-16 19:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see these marriages all the time. Everything you said is right and you may end up being alone. Do you love him enough to take a chance?
2007-04-16 18:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While age is just a number, you are right to be scared. Honestly...unless he is wealthy and will leave you something very worthwhile, then don't have kids with him. Just enjoy the gifts life has to offer while it lasts.
2007-04-16 18:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 52 and my wife is 26. Our son is six months old....
And you can die at any age....The guy might make it until 98...
Or you could marry someone 33 and he could get flattened by a freight train........
Life is full of question marks.....Do what you want to!
2007-04-16 18:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...you're not even divorced and you got another man waiting. there are no funny answers here, gf. you have relationship addiction problems and you need professional help.
as for your old bf? there's no fool like an old fool. i hope someone warns him about you so that he can get in his walker and totter away...
we all know how anna nicole smith's life turned out...
2007-04-16 18:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by chieko 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you love him....thats the most important...other people maybe live together for 60 years..but are they happy?
maybe u have short time with him..
but to live with the person you love and love you back..its priceless...and you goin to remember every moment with him for the rest of your life
2007-04-16 18:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
only you know what you really want in life, if you are looking
down the road to be a mother, then you need to do what is'right for you. in the long run life will be what you want from
it. we all have choice, you need to fiqure out what your choice
will be.
2007-04-16 18:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋