Family & Relationships - 29 March 2007

I'm 38 and have never felt true love. Now I have dated lot's of men but nothing that worked or lasted. I'm an attractive woman, but always seem to find what I am not looking for. I have my men standards which are reasonable like: have a job, family oriented, intelligent, gentle but not a punk...things like that. I sometime feel like I'm meant to be alone. I guess I'm just ready to settle down. I have two girls 15 & 9 and I pray that one day they will see me in a healthy,fullfilling relationship. Summer is approaching so hopefully I can meet someone special. I do believe in the saying "Don't look for love let it find you"...but damn. I don't dwell on it and I'm enjoying my life but sometimes I wish I had strong warm arms to hold me. I guess I had to get this off my chest. Is there anyone else out there who is around my age or older that is scared they will never find that true "I can't breathe without you love"? Or is it just me? ( it feels like I'm the only one waiting)

2007-03-29 18:46:17 · 6 answers · asked by me 2 in Singles & Dating

were both 17. this girl has pillow fights with me, puts her photo into my phone as wallpaper, calls up my friends, even parents for jokes, even though i dont find it amusing, always laughs at my jokes, she gets very close to me, and wont move away.....and likes to touch me alot, and play with things i have. i get mixed signals though, as sometimes during the day she wont talk to me at all, cause she studies, but when were together she cant stop talking, and offering me food, and drinks, and going out places.One thing she does alot is curls up and goes to sleep for like a minute,and then wakes up, and does it again......whats all this mean???she also tells me about times when shes stressed at school and so forth....one thing thats really wierd though, she likes to know what her name is on my phone when it rings???.........need help, im from canada btw guys. I like this girl heaps, and need her to know that, cause im really scared of losing her to someone else

2007-03-29 18:44:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was /supposed to spend the night with him and I was gonna go over after he got off work. Well he gets off at 11 and a girlfriend asked me out for drinks for a special occasion. I stayed a little later than usual. Well when I called him and told him this situation and that I had to go home before coming over he got an attitude like he didn't want to talk. He doesn't drink and I do and I drank that night. So again he has attitude. He always stands me up especially for his sister and if he has plans with her he will shorten ours and make it on her am i wrong

2007-03-29 18:42:33 · 2 answers · asked by candyvision06 1 in Singles & Dating

ok, just want to know your opinion - please, everybody, tell me what you think about this!

Let's pretend you know someone who is the oposite sex of yours, not gay, and he can provide you housing in a very nice place (one of the best in the city), for no payment from you to him at all.

He doesn't have enough $ to pay his rent every month, but he really says that he can let you stay at his place without paying him $ (instead of getting a roommate who can pay), and says he doesn't want ANYTHING else either, he just wants you to stay there 'cause he's a nice person and wants to help you.

He also gives you other things that you like as a "gift", but he never wants anything back from you. He just wants to help.


Now I ask:

***1 - Does anyone believe this guy wants nothing back??

***2- What do you think he wants??

*** 3- Do you think someone who accepts this kind of "help" for months is a decent person?

2007-03-29 18:42:20 · 5 answers · asked by drill 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

He will not like me. He's seen a lot of pics but it's always different in public. Any ideas on how I should dress? I am thick. I don't wear skirts? What do guys like?

2007-03-29 18:41:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Recently broke up with my boyfriend, I was so fed up with his disrespectful comments! Then his mood swings, I never did nothing right! If we went to the baseball field to see the boys play a game...he swears I am just there checking everyone out...MEN!!! This man was 365lbs....and yes i did love him. I am NOT that heavy and he would put me down so much!! Why???? Did it make him feel better? About himself!!! Then he would truely get so upset and cry when I just packed up and left!! He talks about counseling.....Why would that work? I just keep running back and forth..... confused, miss him when i get lonely and you know how it goes!! He says he wants to get married someday!! And I wish i could but in my heart this man is just going to be good for A WEEK and back to the same ol stuff!!! He tells me I need medication and that I need to go to the doctor and I cant believe he thinks its me with the problem!! I am the one trying to be superwomen! i think i just answered my own question!

2007-03-29 18:39:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

MY g/f has been really stressed lately with all her schoolwork. She's in really advanced classes, and I would never be able to do what she does. But anyway, she was really stressed out cuz she has a buttload of work to do by monday. I tried to calm her down and get her to just chill out cuz her stress was starting to effect the quality of her work, and i think i made her even more stressed. This relationship los long distance, so i can't just go fall on my knees on her doorstep and apologize. How do i make this right? How do let her know that all i was trying to do was let her know that I'll always support her? What do I do? Please, no short answers.

2007-03-29 18:35:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-29 18:34:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there was a girl in our office,she is in love with some1 for 8-9 years,but due to some family probs they are not getting married,before 9 months me & she came close,we became very good friends,we use to talk about her & her boyfreind and there problems,in the mean time we got very close,we both started to love each other,she took the initiative and expressed her feelings,i said i to love her but concentrate on her boy friend as dont want to come in between them.but she said that they have sacrifised there love as there parents were not allowing and she loves me lot and want to continue with me.even then i said no,but after sometime i also said ok & we started the relation.but now i came to know that she was never break-up with her old b/f she has maintained everything as it is & where it is (she only told me & she dont want to continue with me ),i trusted her like 5 year baby,she just cheat me.now i have stopped communicating her.in office i am just friendly with her,tell me what 2 do

2007-03-29 18:34:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there is this lovely woman i am fond of very much she and well i think she is a wonderful woman she is everything i have been looking for do you think that long distance relationship last and is it possible to fall in love and someday marry her?

2007-03-29 18:33:44 · 6 answers · asked by john b 1 in Singles & Dating

well me and my bf are breaking upo but not on a bad note what is a good gift that he will remember me by?

2007-03-29 18:32:17 · 10 answers · asked by Veny 2 in Singles & Dating

im in a relationship and have been for two years i moved to florida with him and i guess we argue so much he wanst to break up so now i have to move back to illinois , problem is i love him and he loves me and im afraid that this move will permanetly seperate us he says he might change his mind and want me back but im afraid it will be to late. how can i get him to change his mind

2007-03-29 18:30:15 · 9 answers · asked by Veny 2 in Singles & Dating

ok so i rellli like this guy. theres one problem hes my bestfriend. i mean he has asked me out before;; but i was rellli stupid and i said no. and i feel relli bad because i really love him alot. i just want to know wat 2 do..

2007-03-29 18:29:14 · 2 answers · asked by rawr 1 in Singles & Dating

my husband left me just after our 5th yr weding anvsry..for his own reason giving to me all the blame in this marriage w/out listening to my side.his a man in uniform & we have no children.

2007-03-29 18:29:04 · 8 answers · asked by hurtful aries 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-29 18:26:24 · 7 answers · asked by JJ 2 in Friends

I have an obnoxious male coworker. He is about eighteen, and I am twenty-one. I don't know why I let him get to me. But whenever I'm talking to another coworker, he always feels the need to say something to me and usually whatever he says is obnoxious. A few days ago, he said, "I hate looking at you face." I had said I hated something to another coworker and unwarranted he just answered with the previous statement. How should I deal with this annoying guy? It seems as if he may be trying to get my attention, as he constantly glances in my direction whenever we are near one another, but I really can't stand him because of his personality. What should I do?

2007-03-29 18:25:23 · 13 answers · asked by Kit 2 in Singles & Dating

At first he said he didnt want to start anything because he wanted to make sure she and he were done 100%. Well recently hes said that hes decided that shes not for him, they fight too much, and Im by far better for him. The only thing that kept/keeps him is the fact that she was his first sex act and love. Hes said that hes made a concious decision to do things right and make it work with me. She and him havent spoken in wks she used to call 24/7. Well since that conversation I found a recent doc on his computer expressing feelings for her. What do I do? I use his comuter too, shouldnt he have made it discrete, changed the attention grabbing title? Could this be how he copes? How do I address this?

Im a bit turned off and I feel thats a bit obsessive whats hes done. Like gee get over it...

2007-03-29 18:23:20 · 17 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Singles & Dating

My now husband.When we began seeing each other, he led me to believe that he had been seperated for almost a year and lived back at home with his parents, and that the reason why he wasn't divorced was because his ex (who was supposidly evil) had cancer and needed to stay on his insurance. Later he led me to believe that he was in the process of divorcing and we got engaged. I never had any reason to doubt anything he said because he spent everyday with me and we would even vacation together for over a week at a time. Suddenly 1 day he really wanted to try for a baby. I eventually gave in. Three days after I confirmed that we had concieved, I found out the truth. The whole time we had been dating, he was married and living with his wife. now I can't seem to trust him & it is causing us problems, what can I do. I want to make things work, but I never feel at ease I always think that he is going to do the same to me. I don't want to continue having these feelings. Any advice?

2007-03-29 18:23:06 · 10 answers · asked by Me 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Just a thought, who thinks the difference is too great. Because I personally don't think it's that big of a deal.
I am referring to relationships.

2007-03-29 18:22:02 · 13 answers · asked by Nebel6 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-29 18:21:32 · 10 answers · asked by mamalvbabe84 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

How do you start dating for the first time ever?
I have..... ZERO experience... and is very shy....
Just what do you do to get noticed for a shy girl? And how do you start conservations/talking/etc without it going awkard.........

I go to a school with a bunch of nerds.

2007-03-29 18:19:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you call and/or email the girl you like a lot or play it cool at first???

I am trying to figure out whether this guy I started seeing in the past couple of weeks really digs me or not.

We have NOT had sex yet. Our dates have gone really well so far.

I guess I get confused with all those dating books that say if a guy isn't ringing your phone off the hook, he just isn't that interested blah blah blah.

2007-03-29 18:19:25 · 5 answers · asked by Attorney 1 in Singles & Dating

Well okay maybe not everyone hates me but why does it feel like they all do? When I say they I mean pretty much everyone I am associated with. I always thought I was a likable person... have I been wrong?

I am myself or I try to be... what I mean by that is I dont try to be like everyone else... I am quiet naturally but when I am with my friends can be outgoing and laugh...

I work hard... I have two jobs and at both I do the best I possibly can do...

I try to do everything possible to make people happy with me so they dont hate me...

I am not loud and obnoxious to other people

I am very friendly to other people all the time. (part of my customer service skills I guess)

I listen to everyone else when they need to talk...

I try not to overbear with my own troubles...

So what is wrong with me? I talked to a friend 10 min before she was done at work and she said she was coming over... she never showed didnt call or anything. None of my other friends ever return

2007-03-29 18:17:49 · 27 answers · asked by tears fall softly 2 in Friends

it all started getting to me after i had a dream that right before the wedding after everything was payed for an just waiting to be put on that he leaves me an this dream has become reoccurring nightly each time more detailed i dont know if this is my bodies way of showing cold feet or what the deal is with it but whatever it is its freaking me out and both his friends and mine have said that will never happen but i cant help but wonder... i know this is what i want more then anything but as of right now im wondering whats going on any advice?

2007-03-29 18:10:48 · 10 answers · asked by navygrl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm dating a man that was married for 4 years. He seems like a wonderful guy. For people that have been divorced, or have dated or been in relationships with someone that's divorced, is it any different then dating someone that's never been married? This is a first for me.

Is there anything I should be aware of, or sensitive to?

I really like this guy, and I would like to do all I can to make whatever may happen as good as possible.

2007-03-29 18:09:58 · 9 answers · asked by FlyingNutSquirrel 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-29 18:09:56 · 9 answers · asked by a 1 in Friends

Just a forewarning, this is long.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and its pretty serious. At first i knew i was going to marry her. Now im not so sure. I'm having doubts. I think i still love her, but she's my first true girlfriend, so i don't have anything to base that off of. I know she's crazy about me and loves me and wants to marry me, which makes this so hard. I don't know if these doubts are normal. Also, as our relationship has progressed, im finding myself less attracted to her physically. I still love her personality though. I hate to think of myself as shallow, but is this just my male tendencies showing through? Is it normal too? A year ago I would have never considered ending this relationship but now Im not so sure. Please help!

2007-03-29 18:05:54 · 7 answers · asked by kirishsirik 1 in Singles & Dating

how can you stop yourself from falling in love?

2007-03-29 18:05:01 · 3 answers · asked by broken inside 2 in Singles & Dating

Can you please help me?So I had this friend named Felicia, and she's been a copy, and fake ever since forever. Well her boyfriend's name is Jacob, and he's very nice and deserves more than her. Felicia has put me and my best friend through a lot, and acts like a **** 24/7. Jacob and I became best friends, and she decided that she couldn't have that. Her and Jacob have had problems since forever. So when I became friend with him again after she told me to stay away, she decided to date him again. So anyways, Jacob and I started hanging out, and he put me on his top and heroes before her, and she always yelled at him for it. When my best friend planned a suprise b-day party for me, Felicia told me about it. WHO DOES THAT? And so Jacob before told me that he loved me. Not like, but loves me more than her, and wanted to date me, and he was mad about what she did. So he told me that he was going to break up with her. He didn't. Instead he went over her house that day.

2007-03-29 18:03:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

ok well.... at school... a lot of girls think im attractive ...but in a girly way...my facial features are more female like and my hair is kinda long and well styled.....im pretty tall and skinny
anyways....will girls acctually "like" me....or am i just someone people look at and say "wow...that guy is hot" but then have no feelings for him = =

2007-03-29 18:01:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating