Am i getting played girls?...what should i do?

Question

were both 17. this girl has pillow fights with me, puts her photo into my phone as wallpaper, calls up my friends, even parents for jokes, even though i dont find it amusing, always laughs at my jokes, she gets very close to me, and wont move away.....and likes to touch me alot, and play with things i have. i get mixed signals though, as sometimes during the day she wont talk to me at all, cause she studies, but when were together she cant stop talking, and offering me food, and drinks, and going out places.One thing she does alot is curls up and goes to sleep for like a minute,and then wakes up, and does it again......whats all this mean???she also tells me about times when shes stressed at school and so forth....one thing thats really wierd though, she likes to know what her name is on my phone when it rings???.........need help, im from canada btw guys. I like this girl heaps, and need her to know that, cause im really scared of losing her to someone else

now the other day i asked her to the movies, and she goes"will you be paying?"...well we never ended up going that night since she got really tired, so i took her back home and left.I asked her this week if she would wnna go movies my shout , and she said she wont be going out for at least 2.5 weeks since shes so wasted from study....what should i make of this?.....i feel she is just playing me along now?....what do you guys think?one really odd thing is she talks to me when she needs help, but other than that i have to talk to her first for her to start talking to me.....via txt/msn etc...is she playing hard to get?, or is she just playing me around....im thinking of not saying anything to her and see how she reacts?im now to a point where ive made so much effort, that im not going to anymore and see where it takes this relationship....good idea?i havent spoken to her for a week now, which is a long time and she hasnt spoken to me aswell

Answer 1

Ask her! What are you afraid of?

Answer 2

I'm a lot older than you, but my advise is to just lay low. Most women like to have guys seek them to see if he is interested and if he is... just how much. She sounds like she want to get close but scared. I would not call - so don't. She knows your feeling her and its time that you let her come to you. She sounds like she doesn't really take you seriously. I can't really say she's playing you. If she want to know what name you have her on your phone, I think she's looking for something like "my girl" or "my sweetie" . If you feel like she's playin' you, then let her know that your not the one b/c you don't have time for the childish "one minute your this way and the next minute your that way" game. Check this out:
1. Don't call (not even if your tempted or dying inside)
2. If she does finally call, act like you haven't noticed it's been awhile.
3. Don't question her where she's been or why she didn't call.
4. Speak calmly & don't scream or show fear of loosing her.
5. If she text you, don't respond right away...wait awhile.
6. If she doesn't call you by this Sunday, when she does - wait 3 days before calling her back. (Let her know you have a life)
7. Don't fear loosing a girl you don't know you have yet. Chill!
8. Hang with some of your guy friends and go out.
9. When you finally see her be cool but not cold.
10. Don't ask her why she's showing mixed signals...she knows she is and she knows your confused-but don't stress it. She knows that if she continues to play hard to get - she won't get got and if she don't know....she will soon.

Well I hope this helps. It's not about playing mind games its about not being someone's toy. I know you wanted to hear from guys but I'm a female and I know exactly how we think. This is not written in stone, but I thought It migh help some.

Good luck!
Mickie

Answer 3

Hay,

It does kinda sound like she is playing hard to get. You are doing the right thing by keeping your distance. I mean if you really want to get to the bottom of it and know for sure if she likes you and are shy about asking her, then why not email it to her tell her how you feel and if she does sound like she doesn't feels the same then just remaine her friend. If you leave if like the way it is then you will never know how she feels and you will be thinking about it all the time. What was that all about when she said "are you paying"? what a free loader.

Answer 4

Wow, the curling up for a minute and waking up the next is really really werid. I get the name on your phone, it could be "sexy (insert name here)". They are fully werid signals your getting, I can imagin how confussed you are! I personally think you should not talk to her for awhile, then you can see what happens. I don't think shes the girl for you, from my opinion, but I could be wrong.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

You have 2 choices...
kinda ignore her-act a lil distant and she mite think 'oh crap wot have i dun' and show her tru colours
OR
u tell her how u feel once and for all..say something like..
"i really like u alot, i had to let u know how i feel but unless u can honestly tell me how u feel and stop being so confusing i cant hang out with you"
and walk off..see wot she says.
GOOD LAARRK!

Answer 6

She knows you are crazy about her and she is playing with you. She wants everyone to know she controls you and pulls your strings. She is too pushy and is overstepping her bounds. You are letting her. Keep your phone in your pocket and don't let her have access to it. Make some changes in your relationship so that she can learn to respect you. Let her know you are not a toy.

Answer 7

Figure it out, try to be more manly and stop asking girls for advice.

Answer 8

have you made a move yet ? she is probably getting sick of waiting !!!

Answer 9

can you say bi-polar ?