there was a girl in our office,she is in love with some1 for 8-9 years,but due to some family probs they are not getting married,before 9 months me & she came close,we became very good friends,we use to talk about her & her boyfreind and there problems,in the mean time we got very close,we both started to love each other,she took the initiative and expressed her feelings,i said i to love her but concentrate on her boy friend as dont want to come in between them.but she said that they have sacrifised there love as there parents were not allowing and she loves me lot and want to continue with me.even then i said no,but after sometime i also said ok & we started the relation.but now i came to know that she was never break-up with her old b/f she has maintained everything as it is & where it is (she only told me & she dont want to continue with me ),i trusted her like 5 year baby,she just cheat me.now i have stopped communicating her.in office i am just friendly with her,tell me what 2 do
2007-03-29 18:34:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a woman will cheat that should tell you all you need to know about her. You were wrong to become involved with her, so now you must pay the price. You will get over it but you need to move on. No back sliding please.
2007-03-29 18:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to pass judgement from a distance. But only when you are in the thick of things ,one realises that 2+2 does not make 4 or even 3 in real life. Many a times it just adds to 2.25 only - but then that is life ;painful and slow many a times. Nobody I think is cheating in this case. See if you assume that she is cheating then you would doubt your initial judgment and your subsequent action and I am sure you behaved in a PERFECT manner. But she has multiple and complex thoughts - she loves her BF, she loves you too as a friend, she thought that she has managed to breakoff with her BF when it did'nt work out, but she could not in reality, and so on. I have gone thru it ( in the girl's position ) and i feel that the best thing for you is to just take life EASY for a while.
2007-03-30 02:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by captrg217 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl is not cheating u, she is using u. She is caught up in circumstances that she needs help badly. One side she is in love with a man (not u), and the other side her parents are putting a lot of pressure on her, I pity the girl, she is desperate and is willing to do anything to get out of the situation. U are the answer, she needs u to help her, maybe her parents accept u for some reason, and with your help (knowingly or unknowingly to u) she wishes to convince her parents that she has sacrificed her first love, and is happy with u, maybe she may even marry u so that her parental pressures are out, then, in her small mind, she feels she can unite with her first love. She does not realize the complications that may crop up because of your entry in her life. She has no feeling for u, only she needs your help badly and feels she can remove u from the picture when she requires it.
I strongly recommend that u help this girl, her love is deep and true to the first guy, but she is weak and frail, she is deperately clutching to u for help, like the proverbial drowning man clutching to the straw to save himself. She is only acting that she loves u, to get your help. U can either play with her or help her on your terms. But I am sure god will bless u for your sensitivity and timely help.
2007-03-30 01:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like she wants to have the cake and eat it too!
Just tell her she can have the "cake" or "spoon" both are not gonna work !!!
Perhaps would be best if u moved on she is not to be trusted...and if u decide u wanna give her a chance then don't do it until she proves her self to u and works on getting ure trust back !
P.S. Sajan M...nice hairdo dude !!!....lol
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2007-03-30 01:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her as she needs some1 else man... She thinks she's dropped her old love but she can't. I don't think she meant to hurt you. You can forgive her and if you can, tell her politely and nicely that you know she still loves the first guy. Talk to her but don't love her as anythin more than a friend.
2007-03-30 03:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by noora k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her. If she is Indian, she will never forget her first love. And in case you merry her, the first love of her shall spoil your married life.
Be wise and just breakup
2007-04-02 07:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by james love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do not change ur attitude towards that girl as it was when u were in love and see one day she will be coming knocking at ur door .
if want something more then just IM me i will defenately help u
2007-03-30 02:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by AaSHEK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have done all you need to do --- accept that she was cheating and move on --- learn to love like you have never been hurt before --- a wonderful bit of graffiti from my home
2007-03-30 01:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her find some one for your self and start a new begining all over again.
if it still bothers you just think that she cheeted you .
and she dumped you and not you dumped her ! soory but thats the truth .
2007-04-02 14:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Winie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Begin afresh your love life.
2007-03-30 02:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mahesh R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋