MY g/f has been really stressed lately with all her schoolwork. She's in really advanced classes, and I would never be able to do what she does. But anyway, she was really stressed out cuz she has a buttload of work to do by monday. I tried to calm her down and get her to just chill out cuz her stress was starting to effect the quality of her work, and i think i made her even more stressed. This relationship los long distance, so i can't just go fall on my knees on her doorstep and apologize. How do i make this right? How do let her know that all i was trying to do was let her know that I'll always support her? What do I do? Please, no short answers.
2007-03-29 18:35:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Update: I called her back tonight and she bit my head off again. And now she's about ready to completely give up. I spent all day trying to find her some help because that's what she was yelling last night that she needed. So tonight I tell her that I found her some help and she's all like "f*** it." She's all pissed @ me and WHAT THA F*** DID I DO?!?!?!?!? We've been together for almost five months. Is this proof that it's time to quit? Or should I wait a few more days to see what happens?
2007-03-30 16:20:35 · update #1
You are part of her stress. Drop it. Don't beat a dead horse. Just move on and forget about it. Next time don't nag her when she is feeling low, just listen to her.
2007-03-29 18:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point in time you need to back off. I don't mean break-up give her space and time to get her schoolwork done. If you want to speak to her write an email or send her a handwritten letter. I don't know why you are apologizing because you did nothing wrong - you were showing that you care. You should not take her behavior personally it is not because of you she is stressed out. Your gf is handling her stress badly and you need to just focus on yourself and your interests until things calm down in her life.
2007-04-06 16:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by Cambrianna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are long distance and can't talk with her face to face and she is so busy with school, I assume she can't talk to you on the phone for a long period of time. I would write her a letter, hand written not email as it is more personal. Tell her how your sorry for stressing her that you only meant to let her know you would always be there to support her. Just tell her how much you care for her and want to help but that you weren't sure how. Also with a letter she won't feel stressed like she is being pushed to talk to you for a long period of time and it will show that you care enough to realize how time consuming her school work is. It will show you are paying attention you genuinely care and want to help. Maybe even for some icing on the cake send her some flowers.
2007-03-29 18:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lilu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that you can do above all others is to just talk to her. Tell her what you were thinking. I am sure that she will love you even more for trying to get her mind off her stress.
But do understand that stress had not only crept into other parts of her life, but also into your relationship as well. Give her some time and then talk to her.
It also might help if you could arrange for some flowers to be sent to her with a note proclaiming your love.
2007-03-29 18:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by brevboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know when schoolwork piles or you have deadlines to meet, it can make anyone really stressed. I think in your situation you can do a couple of things....you could just send her something sweet letting her know that you are there for her and you were just trying to help...or after all this cramming she is going through, set her an appointment with a massage therapist at a day spa- so she relax and release all she has been going through. just some ideas. I hope they help
2007-03-29 18:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, listen up! Woman has many kinda emotion. Just wanna tell u dat it's hard for em to control it moreover if they're in stress or deperssed. So, wut u need 2 do nw is give her som time a bit i mean is like som space. Call her when she's free n y dun u tryna ask her out. Weeknd besids the beach or myb jst walked around n flirt. It might helps. Depnds on hw u do dat. Hw's much ur effort. But dun make it obvious dat u're tryin way too hard. She'll look u as a desperate guy. Do it wit flair. If dat doesn't work out, go to her house n make love! Serious, no kiddin! BEST SOLUTION!
2007-04-06 18:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by untitled unnamed unknown 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shes stressed, the best thing to tell her is that youre there for her if theres anything she needs. try to help her with what you can. and dont apologize for what you cant. shes probably just venting her frustration at you. although its not right, its completely understandable. give her time to get past this class, and then evaluate where you stand. you breaking it off with her will probably just add fuel to the fire. and almost ensure she fails. the hard times is when you figure out what your relationship is made of.
2007-04-06 10:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bobby L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off.. give her some time. School work if very stressfull at times. If you email her, just make it short and sweet. Then, just wait. If you don't hear from her in a week, then might be time to start worrying. Space is what she needs right now... let her have some and then just hope for what you want.
2007-04-06 17:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by wtnmale2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you guys communicate. If you talk to each other every day then wait til the end of her evening when she has accomplished something and explain to her what you meant by your words earlier and just tell her that you support her and in supporting her you are going to tell her when you think she is doing something that is detrimental to her productivity or quality of her work in school.
2007-03-29 18:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just send her some flowers and teddy bear and a card..tell her how you feel in the card and that u will always be there when she needs you and just leave it at that u gotta give her time to relax and calm down..she is turnin her stress on you and you didnt do anything so just relax and let her come to you
2007-04-06 17:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by plezbnyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋