Family & Relationships - 12 March 2007

Hi all, this is what happened. serious answers please! My ex bf broke up with me two weeks ago, and his reason? we argue too much (we did every week) but besides that everything was perfect. He told me wants to be alone and not in a relationship. I begged for him for a week and realized it wasnt working, i pushed him further away. For the past few days, ive been his friend trying to spark up old memories and stuff despite ppl telling me to leave him alone, but i KNOW i want him back and things CAN work. He had been giving me the cold shoulder, but hanging out with him today in his room...at one point he said 'dont think anything of this when i do this' and he came over to me and hugged me tight for like 20 seconds. He did this twice today. Usually he'd not pay attn to me, i think he was caught off guard that I WASNT beggin for him back. I stayed really positive. He also said 'Ur making this hard for me' WHAT DOES THIS ALL MEAN? should i keep this up? should i leave him alone?

2007-03-12 16:57:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

our mothers are among God greatest gifts to us. let's honour them with love, respect and appreciation. and let us not forget them in our prayers.

2007-03-12 16:57:23 · 6 answers · asked by Cinderella 3 in Friends

I thought I wanted to be married, but I'm close to 24 now and not even close to being ready for the commitment. I don't want to give up my freedom. How old were you when you married (if you're married).

2007-03-12 16:57:20 · 18 answers · asked by M N 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is overseas and he is due back in september, but I miss him so much. How do I keep the relationship spicy? Weve been married for about a year, I mean our sex life is awesome, but how can I keep that going for the next 6 months?

2007-03-12 16:57:00 · 11 answers · asked by sckr4luv 2 in Marriage & Divorce

there are about 730,000 in the columbus metro area, i have had 2 girlfriends (years apart and didn't know each other) cheat on me both with the same guy... the chances of this happening are slim to none... and I don't know the guy just his name and what he looks like... so on a scale 1-10 how bad is my luck... this guy has real good taste in women lol

2007-03-12 16:56:24 · 7 answers · asked by shadows 4 in Singles & Dating

I'am only 18 and i have a 9month son and it's really hard to find a date just because i have a son. I'am not ugly either so what is the promble?

My baby daddy left me for a nother girl so sad, so iam just trying to find somebody to take my mind of him and just to love.

2007-03-12 16:56:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, heres the story. I made out with a friend of mine that is 17. He started it, and I kissed him back. It was going to go further, but there was to much at risk. He also has a girlfriend. I can't blame booze, becasue I knew exactly what I was doing.

Is the age gab wrong???? Next time I see him, this will probley happen again. We both like each other, but the place where we live is just too small. Word speads fast and I am nearly 7 years older than him.

Should I let it go or presue it?

2007-03-12 16:55:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

no need to think too hard. just answer

2007-03-12 16:55:17 · 16 answers · asked by retsuya_86 2 in Friends

To make a long story short, I met a nice guy online, or at least I thought so, we exchanged many e-mails, exchanged phone numbers, talked endless hours on the phone, finally met last Tuesday for dinner. That changed into 3 hours later, and he had to go home as it was getting late. We hit it off right away!! He invited me over for dinner Saturday night, it was so perfect you could not believe it!! I didn't leave until 3:30 a.m., told me I could use the guest room, but I had to get going. Kissed endlessly on the couch, I tried to call him and thank him for the evening, but he didn't answer the phone. I sent him a thank-you card, which he should get tomorrow. He said he really liked me and was happy I was there with him. The sight we met on, he deleted all my messages. I wrote to him before I wrote to you, but I doubt he'll answer me back. He claims he hasn't had a woman in his life in over 2 years. By the way, he is 55, and I'm a few years younger. What happened?! Thanks..

2007-03-12 16:55:12 · 13 answers · asked by Suzie- Q 5 in Singles & Dating

Consider this situation:

About a year ago, i went to a bar, and tried talking to a beautiful young lady. Was completely honest about my profession (IT support) and everything else.

I couldnt get the time of day.

About 3 months ago, i was back in the same bar and i saw her again. This time i had my glasses on, but other then that my physical description hasnt changed.

This time i tell her i am a Doctor (a neurologist), and i swear to god the woman was on me like i was a nba athlete. She dragged me back to her place and we did the deed.

Problem is now she is calling me non-stop and wants to come over to my place (which is nice but not doctor nice) and wants to go out all the time.

And while everyone at work is having a blast calling me The Doctor, i am wondering MORALLY how wrong was this?

Is it wrong to lie to a woman only interested in guys with cash?

2007-03-12 16:54:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met this amazing guy online. He really is the nicest guy I have ever talked to. I love him to death. We've talked about it and decided that we love each other but we both agree that you have to actually meet somebody to be completely "in love" with them. I really want to meet him because I think it could work. Hes only a few years older than me, but I live on the east coast and he lives on the west coast. Has anyone had something like this work? or is it just a really bad idea? I am aware of the dangers of meeting somebody that you met online, but I feel its worth the risk. Also I'm afraid to talk to my parents are friends about this, I don't know if they would understand and I don't want them to think I'm weird. I just wish he lived closer to me. Love is confusing enough without this whole online problem :(

2007-03-12 16:54:40 · 4 answers · asked by Kelly E 1 in Singles & Dating

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking, (me and her haven't talked for ten months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's kind of funny really, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you every weeknight, it as only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always call. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me.

2007-03-12 16:54:14 · 5 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Singles & Dating

He says he still loves me but doesn't want to get sexual with me..what does this mean?
My ex-boyfriend and I broke up 6 months after I left for college but have remained friends (he broke up with me b/c he couldn't handle the long distance and I am also seven years younger.) He use to want to get sexual with me when I came to visit but now, after he doesnt...tells me he loves me, misses me, but has to be good. What does this mean? he says doesn't love anyone else and texts me all the time saying he misses me etc. . do you think he wants me for the future and doesnt want to ruin it? does this show respect? what do you think?

2007-03-12 16:54:01 · 4 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Singles & Dating

Me and my wife have been togothere for 5 years now. i was over in iraq when she cheated on me. just got out and i was a Seal. we have two kids and treated her like a queen. first time in my life i feel like i am dead on the in side. nothing seems right anymore. she was what kept me going when i was over there. now i am going to another place that needs my help. first time in my life i am scared. what do i do?

2007-03-12 16:52:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he is three yrs older than me but lives very far away
we talked to eachother when we first met and i fell instantly in his trap, what should i do? He is my friend's cousin, i know its wierd. he's the only guy i wanna ask to prom.

2007-03-12 16:52:33 · 5 answers · asked by polkadot 2 in Singles & Dating

I've always been this way; I can and do have plenty of orgasms having sex with my boyfriend (whoever he happens to be at the time), but I fake about 50-70% of them. I get into this groove, and he's really trying so hard that I really WANT to ***, it just isn't QUITE there yet. I lose patience with myself, and I figure he's losing patience with me, so I fake it. Often, he'll *** shortly after that, which causes me to REALLY *** (and I worry that he can tell the difference between the real thing and the fake!). He assumes I'm multiply orgasmic (which I am, sometimes, but not nearly as much as he thinks).

A lot of my allure for my current boyfriend is my rampant sexuality, so I hate to bust the sexpot image by not popping when he's trying so hard! What if he gets disappointed in me and moves on? I'm so insecure about this relationship with this awe-inspiring man that I feel I have to be perfect. I figure the bedroom has to be at least 50% performance just so I can hang on!

2007-03-12 16:50:28 · 18 answers · asked by nondescript 4 in Singles & Dating

I met her, talked to her and then took her out, had dinner, watched movies and kissed many times. When asked if we could settle, she said no and took off.

My second attempt: I met her, a different girl, talked to her and then took her out, had dinner, watched movies and kissed many times. When asked if we could settle, she said no and took off.

My 3rd attempt: I met her, talked to her and then took her out, had dinner, watched movies and kissed many times. When proposed to her, she turned me down.

4th attempt: I met her, talked to her and then took her out, had dinner, watched movies and kissed many times. This time I tried to get her pregnant. She lived on birth control pills. Ask her to spend a night, which is did, but would not spend two consecutive nights. So what continue the relationship? So I moved on.

Is there another way I need to approach girls so I can accomplish one of their hearts? I tried to be VERY mean, but didn't help me, either. Your advise?

2007-03-12 16:50:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

like a potluck shower at one of their houses. i have no house n no money . im acting as brides maid and family her mother deceased and she has no sisters

2007-03-12 16:50:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My wife just had a baby and the owner of the place she worked at stopped by the house because he wanted to see the baby and gave her 12 red roses and 100$ , should i think maybe there is something funny going on or he was just being nice? oh by the way i was in the other room and didnt come out to say hi

2007-03-12 16:49:52 · 17 answers · asked by hunda b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i've been seeing my boyfriend for a year now, and I couldn't love him more (i say that all the time, yet I find myself loving him more as days pass...weird, huh?), but because it's outside of my race i'm getting a lot of heat for it. my parents are CONVINCED that this is a dead end relationship and i should get out of it immediately. I disagree. We've been so happy for the past year and we haven't even fought once. We're two mature adults who know how to handle a relationship.

The other night I was at a party (my bf wasn't there) and i was hangin out with some guys outside, just talking. The guys have a tendency to make sexual innuendos and i played along. (i.e. we were smoking hookah and they were pretending the tip was a penis and they were holding it down near their crotch and i would smoke it, etc.) I was having fun just getting along with these guys really well (these guys ARE of my race) and I wonder how different things would be if I wasn't with my boyfriend, but...

2007-03-12 16:49:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i need to know what i can do to be more romantic pleeeeeeeze help me!~!~!~!~!~!~!~!

2007-03-12 16:48:34 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend of four years has always been romantic and loving. But now lately he's been working a lot and hardly has anytime to talk to me. When he does, he's tired and doesnt want to go out or do anything. I, however, go to college so when Im done studying I wanna go OUT! But he hates when I go out without him and I hate it when he goes out without me. So im fustrated in my room wanting to go out but not being able to because he's "too tired". Any suggestions???

2007-03-12 16:48:32 · 11 answers · asked by Mari 2 in Singles & Dating

I just want to know how you met your boyfriend or girlfriend if not at a party or at school. I'm done with school and just got dumped by my GF. Not sure where to go from here.

2007-03-12 16:48:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just don't understand him. He's attended every outing I've been to, msgs me everytime I'm online, generally seems like he cares.. but he said that b/c he's trying to get his life together, he wants to still get to know me so that sometime down the road maybe something can happen btwn us. I can't deal with this... I just can't go 1/2 way into this relationship, it's starting to hurt. how do I deal with this?

2007-03-12 16:48:12 · 12 answers · asked by mellei 1 in Singles & Dating

my best guy friend is turning 16 this April and he never has really had a great b-day party, so i want to throw him a surprise one. but I am not too sure on what I should do for him, any opinions?

2007-03-12 16:47:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Just interested to see what you think ladies. How would you feel if your husband had no selfish attitude and had a selfless attitude, putting you and your feelings and needs ahead of his own.

I personally feel that if husbands put their wife, and her feelings and needs before his, it will make her feel loved and wanted.

2007-03-12 16:47:00 · 13 answers · asked by Bryan M 5 in Marriage & Divorce

hey, im a highschool kid who has a college boyfriend. everyone at school talks about sex 24/7. but im not the type that would talk about sex to everyone and anyone. it seems like to get in with the crowd is to talk about sex. dont get me wrong i had sex before. but i had sex because i love the guy. my friends had sex just to lose it and fit in. now that my boyfriend is off at college i been getting cravings. i told this to a friend and he offer to be friends with benfits. i know its wrong. how can i stop getting pressured by my peers? and how do i control my cravings? i dont wanna cheat. plus sometimes when i hear people talk about sex, it gets on my nerves because they dont know what they are talking about.. how do i control myself?

2007-03-12 16:46:46 · 17 answers · asked by Curious 1 in Singles & Dating

So I like this guy. Maybe he likes me, maybe he doesn't - who can tell with these annoying mixed signals?

Regardless, I need to become better friends because he is a great guy, we have a lot in common and we work together at a volunteer club.

But the way I feel makes me so nervous and awkward that we are really strained around each other.

When we have something to talk about its great because we have very similar senses of humour but when the ideas run low the silence gets really uncomfortable. Online we're fine too (we joke back and forth on myspace all day) but in person I choke up, mumble, get stuck for words and end up avoiding him so I don't have to deal. I think he's picking up on my nerves too because often the awkwardness seems to be mutual.

Has anyone successfully made friends in spite of romantic feelings?
Has anyone overcome the nerves those feelings give you when talking to someone you like?

2007-03-12 16:46:43 · 7 answers · asked by two_red_ribbons 2 in Singles & Dating

I am a stay at home mom. I do all the house work. I do not mind this, my husband works very hard and should not have to wash dishes or do laundry. My problem is with the little things. He won't refill the ice tray or the water pitcher. THings like that drive me crazy and I have tried expaining it to him, but he doesn't do it. What should I say to him that will make him do these little things? I cannot even get him to put the plates in the correct sink!

2007-03-12 16:46:37 · 8 answers · asked by lilly j 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS. I LOVE HIM BUT I THINK I MIGHT HAVE TO CHEAT ON HIM. WE JUST GOT ENGAGED ON 12-23-06 BUT I'M HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS.

2007-03-12 16:46:30 · 13 answers · asked by Sharicka H 2 in Singles & Dating