I am a stay at home mom. I do all the house work. I do not mind this, my husband works very hard and should not have to wash dishes or do laundry. My problem is with the little things. He won't refill the ice tray or the water pitcher. THings like that drive me crazy and I have tried expaining it to him, but he doesn't do it. What should I say to him that will make him do these little things? I cannot even get him to put the plates in the correct sink!
2007-03-12 16:46:37 · 8 answers · asked by lilly j 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if i leave it empty, it only hurts me. I get dehydrated easily and have to drink water almost constantly. I can't drink water out of the tap b/c it tastes nasty where I live. So the pitcher has to stay full for me.
2007-03-12 17:53:35 · update #1
It has been my experience that when these little, even trivial, things drive you crazy, then its really just the straw that broke the camel's back. There are probably more important underlying issues. Like feeling taken for granted. Feeling unfulfilled. Feeling like a slave to your family. I don't know. Only you can figure out what is REALLY bothering you. Give yourself some alone time for some self searching. Try to figure out what's going on with YOU. Only then can you address the real issue. You might even find that just the better understanding of yourself will give you a better ability to cope and just let go of some things. Spouses don't always give us exactly everything we want. But they almost always are giving us something that we need. Good luck.
If that doesn't work, then get a refrigerator with ice and water dispensers. And, I guess, be glad that your husband is putting dishes in any sink.
2007-03-12 17:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably raised that way and feels 'men' don't do things like that. Tell him that times have changed and he needs to help a little. A stay at home mom is a FULL TIME job, 24/7.
Tell him once more to refill the ice trays, water pitcher, etc. If he does not do it then just leave them EMPTY.
It would not hurt if he learned how to do the laundry or help fold clothes either. Its not about being a male, its about MARRIAGE and sharing the duties and responsibilities.
My wife was a stay at home mom for years and I helped with the kids, laundry, dishes and cooking. Today we both work (empty nesters) and I still do most of the cooking, and we share the housework, laundry etc.
2007-03-12 23:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do the little things your self too as you say you are a stay home mom and there is lots of work for you too , maby if you tell your husband that you work hard with the kidsand arround the house too , maby he will help out
tell him you will not complain
but you are a mother
a dishwasher lady
a buzzer.
a cook
a landrylady
. a babysitter /Nanny
a baker
a teacher
a wife
a nurse if the kids or he are ill
a cleaning lady
a shopping lady achofeur to take the kids to school
and if you have pets a petsitterand veterianien if he pets are ill
and Gardener
and a Maid for him
just tell him if he would had to hire all this different people how much money he can save if you do this things. and tell him you like to have help sometime or you will hire all those people and he has to pay for . maby he change his mind and help out. good luck
2007-03-13 00:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, honey, honey...mine is the SAME way. I can't stand it. The most annoying is his socks in the floor, for some reason they never find there way to the laundry basket.
This is how I deal with it. My hubby is a welder, so his clothes have their own separate basket and they are washed separate from everything else cuz of the soot and stuff. Since he doesn't want to do the little things to help out, I went on
strike with his work laundry. It only took a couple of Mondays with no clean work clothes for him to catch on.
Best of luck to you, but men are hardwired this way.
By the way, that Seoul guy up above there, he needs to back off before he gets the stay-at-home mom army on his bad side.
2007-03-12 23:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by nic h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home wife also, luckily my husband does the things your talking about, why not try leaving the ice trays and water pitcher empty instead of filling them when he doesn't? He'll want ice and there won't be any and whose fault will it be?
2007-03-12 23:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple things might work. If he won't do things but knows that you will come along to do them if he doesn't, why would he do them? Just let the icetray go empty etc until he gets it through his disrespectfull head that your not his slave. If that doesn't work get him where it counts. Cut him off and tell him why.
2007-03-12 23:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jester17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start paying your share of the bills then you may kindly ask him to do these menial tasks.
2007-03-12 23:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Seoul Brother 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
withhold sex, lol. if you figure it out, let me know k?
2007-03-12 23:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋