like a potluck shower at one of their houses. i have no house n no money . im acting as brides maid and family her mother deceased and she has no sisters
2007-03-12 16:50:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is it wrong to invite a friend of mine that the bride dosnt know.. its wrong right? what if that person was going to school to be an event planner??? and she helped me with stufff??
2007-03-12 17:01:43 · update #1
Yes, that would be fine. Just make sure that the bride and the guests know that everyone pitched in.
2007-03-12 16:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with that, if she's willing to go. She may meet some new people! I do lots of stuff with my best friend, and I could see myself bringing her to a friends shower! It's a lot of work being a maid of honor! You take all of the help you can get, and I'm sure the bride will appreciate all that you are doing for her! P.s. i'm sure all of the other brides maids will be happy to help- people just want to have a part in other peoples "big days"
2007-03-13 00:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by amyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can ask but don't EXPECT them to help. as moh it is your duty to pay for the bridal shower. it's part of what you agree to when you agree to be the moh. i was a bridesmaid where the moh spent a fortune on a bridal shower then turned around & demanded that each bridesmaid pay 1/4 of the cost to her to help her out. needless to say we were pissed. if she had only asked us BEFORE the shower & we had known how much she was spending then we wouldn't have been mad. but she didn't ask us at all, she demanded after the fact & let me tell you, that 1/4 was more than most of us made in a month!
as for the stranger, if the bride doesn't mind then why not? just make sure to ask the bride if she is cool with a stranger being there.
2007-03-13 19:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by ms v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes to the first part
I personally wouldn't want a person I didn't know to be at my bridal shower, but I am a very reserved person. I tend to only hang out with my fiance and we stay home most of the time. If the bride thinks the more the marrier then it should be fine. Either way, I would run it by her, because it may not bother her if the girl comes, but if you didn't even ask her she might think you don't care what she thought about the matter.
2007-03-13 00:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by goaliegirl87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perfectly acceptable, in fact they should offer to help you! But if they don't they don't. Shouldn't expect it but definately ask - they are bridesmaids after all.
As far as inviting the other girl that the bride doens't know. Ask her if she doens't mind - she may want close friends, but do make sure you explain that she helped you plan and is a nice girl and a potential friend of the bride. :-)
God Bless
2007-03-13 01:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Ask someone if they would help you host a shower for the bride and do what you can to help. If you send invites I would list the persons name that is using their house aove yours on the invitations.
2007-03-13 00:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although the maid of honor does have a special job, you can ask for help. After all part of being a bridesmaid is helping out with all the wedding functions. You might want to explain to the other girls just what your situation is as well.
2007-03-12 23:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sara M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the yeses to your first question. They should be happy to help. To answer your second question, I think that's ok too. If your friend is acting as a planner, the bride should be grateful for it if extra help is needed.
2007-03-13 13:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by heatre24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i'm sure that the other girls are aware of your situation and hers and would be happy to help. You could do what my friend done with her hens night, everyone who attended paid $30 we bought our own drinks and had a topless male waiter and a stripper and the rest of the money was put to the girls and what they needed. It was an awesome night, they just had balloons and silly games but it was the best night.
2007-03-12 23:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course! You are not suppose to pay for it ALL yourself. ALL the bridesmaids (and maybe her mother) are suppose to pay and help you plan, etc. Call them all and get them to pitch in (set up, etc), and either pay money or bring several food items. Also ask all the guests to bring 1 food item. On the invitations put "please bring an entree, it is pot luck" and on the other half of the invites say "please bring 1 desert at least, pot luck"
2007-03-13 01:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋