Ladies, how would it make you feel if your husband put you and your feelings and needs before his own?

Question

Just interested to see what you think ladies. How would you feel if your husband had no selfish attitude and had a selfless attitude, putting you and your feelings and needs ahead of his own.

I personally feel that if husbands put their wife, and her feelings and needs before his, it will make her feel loved and wanted.

I used to be a very selfish person, and I made my wife feel unloved and insignifigant. Now in no way does my wife treat me as a doormat by my putting her feelings and needs before my own, because if that happens, I will let her know, and likewise, if she feels that I am treating her the same, she lets me know. But I know that my wife loves it, that I put her ahead of myself in my list of priorities.

To me, she's higher in my list of priorities than myself.

My list of priorities goes like this, 1. God, 2. My wife, 3. My kids. 4. My job, 5. My family. 6 My friends and then myself.

Some of you may feel that I'm stupid for putting myself so low on that list, but I am a much happier person and my wife is alot happier and our marriage is alot happier and stronger because of it.

Hey BK, I'm just asking a simple question here asking the ladies how it would make them feel if their husbands respected them by putting them and thinking of them before themselves.

There is nothing wrong with that, and I think ALOT more men in this world need to put it into practice. That's the problem with this world, we are being taught that it's all about me.

I tried that, and I ended up miserable.

I love my wife, and I treat her with respect and put her before myself for good reason. Because I have to.

Hey BK, I'm not going to belittle you, because I feel if I do that, I'm stooping to your level. But I pray that you will accept and come to the saving grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ. And learn his truth. That husbands and wive's can love and respect each other, without there being any unrealistic expectations, and if you think what I'm saying is unrealistic, I'll tell you this, that NOTHING is impossible with God.

Thank you everyone for answering.

Hey BK, God has helped change my life, my life no longer revolves around sex, there's more to my life than sex, and it saddens me when I see people trapped in the same garbage that I was in. I'm not saying that living my life along the straight & narrow isn't easy, it's not, and there's temptation ALL around, but it's how I deal with that temptation, I choose not to give into the temptation. Do I sin, yes, I'm not perfect, and about your question about masturbating, no I don't anymore. And about my wife satisfying me, she does satisfy me in more ways than just sexually. I won't put you down, because that's not right, it's easy and tempting to do it, but I won't sink to that level.

Answer 1

My husband does this all the time and i love him for it... He has taught me so much and i am learning to do this for him as well... being selfless and giving is key in a marriage and or relationship. This does make me feel loved and wanted and very special and spoiled. I love him for this:) I know how good i have it with him and would not trade him or it for anyone or anything else in this world. My husband is not a doormat in any way he just loves and cherishes me and i respect and love him for this. We as women need to learn to put our husbands needs ahead of our own to and to love him selfishly and to treat him the way that we would want to be treated... Goes both ways you know.

Answer 2

That is a good practice, but only to a point. No reason to become a door mat. Likewise for women putting their husband's needs before her own.

Answer 3

Hello Everyone! I am his lovely wife, Alicia. I feel so very loved, wanted, needed, and lucky to have a husband, like Bryan. It hasn't been all peaches and cream, but it's part of life. I am very thankful we got over the hurdles and we are stronger and better than ever. I thank God for that.

Hey, BK (Booger King) if you don't like my husband's questions, quit answering them you psycho!!

Answer 4

Bryan,
This sounds GREAT for you and the most UPBEAT situation I've heard of in a long time!

I am not in that situation here. My Hus. put his needs first, then his immidiate family's, and then mine and the kids ONLY sometimes!

For ex., I'm driving a shi*** car and he isn't trying to FIX it, yet, he fixes his hobbies and bikes 24/7.

Answer 5

Why don't you keep harping on it 19 ways to Friday?

No one is forcing you to watch porn - your reasons why you don't are fine. But for god's sake stop trying to force your ideas on the rest of the world. Some of us think differently than you do. It doesn't make our ideas sh*t, nor does it mean we are selfish, mistreat our wives, or any of the other despicable things you imply.

Hey here's a few more loaded questions:

"ladies how does it feel when your husband tosses lit firecrackers at you?"

"ladies isn't it selfish of your husband to try and shove you into a wood chipper?"

"ladies isn't your husband selfish for breathing *your* oxygen? only a great guy like me gives up all his oxygen for his woman. otherwise i make her feel terrible whenever i inhale. men who breathe are assholes."

by the way have you stopped masturbating 100% completely? yeah, right. well you should - it means your wife can't meet all your sexual needs, according to your brilliant logic.

Listen you are free to believe what you want - give others the same freedom.

EDIT: Hey BM you've been harping on this topic all night. It's not a simple question - it's a continuation of your thinking about why you don't watch porn. Isn't that lying? Our blessed Jesus doesn't like you to lie. He kills a kitten every time you tell a lie. Or masturbate. Put God first, huh? Riiiigghhhht. As long as it is convenient. You never answered the maturbating quesiton, either. I'll answer it for you. Of course you masturbate. So, how does your wife feel about that? Have you told her how much you jack off? She can't meet all of your sexual needs. Just as bad as watching porn, my man. Running those pictures of whoever through your head. Who is it this week? That hottie in the choir? Salma Hayek? She is stacked like a brick sh*thouse. Naughty, naughty. You prefer your hand to her. She must feel like crap about that. Plus - ommmm - it's a sin. You are "spilling your seed" like Onan did. Look it up. Let's not try the old God first Bible humble guy routine unless you are really walking it, ummm-kay? Learn to live it first, then brag about it later. Otherwise you are going to get your a s s handed to you.

Simple question, my left foot.

Answer 6

Yeah, that sounds pretty idealistic to me.

Naive young women might think it sounds ideal, but in reality, when a man unquestioningly puts a woman's feelings and needs ahead of his own, he is volunteering to be a doormat. Who wants a doormat? I sure don't. I want a man who sees me as an equal partner. somebody who is going to share his thoughts and feelings with me, even if we don't agree. I want to know him, not own him.

If you don't understand my point, then try to imagine this role reversed. What kind of man is looking for a woman who will always put his wants and needs before her own?

Relationships are about respecting each others wants and needs, not one bowing down to the other.

Answer 7

My husband does this most of the time. He's one of the most selfless persons I know. He's not perfect, but I appreciate when he does this and it motivates me to do the same for him.

Answer 8

Any and all women would love that. We just want to feel loved. My guy is learning how to put my feeling ahead of his...it is such a wonderful feeling.

Answer 9

wow, an actual bible thumper that put god first, wow, all i can say is good luck, i've been down that road before, god does not get a place with me anymore

but yea, you go ahead and do whatever, eventually you will learn

Answer 10

Good for you Bryan, now give yourself a pat on the back and go on!!!