WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS. I LOVE HIM BUT I THINK I MIGHT HAVE TO CHEAT ON HIM. WE JUST GOT ENGAGED ON 12-23-06 BUT I'M HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS.
2007-03-12 16:46:30 · 13 answers · asked by Sharicka H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DO NOT CHEAT ON HIM! That will make everything horrible. You need to let him know your true feelings. Let him know your needs and wants and make sure that he tells you how he feels. Maybe he has some unresolved issues and cannot tell you. Whatever the case may be, you need to be honest. If you cheat, you will have a guilty conscious and you will end up hurting your man and yourself.
2007-03-12 16:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be single but I do think you need to set down and have a heart to heart with this guy. It sounds like you may not be on the same road. It is good to have some things in common and different interest. If you don't feel that you can cuddle and have understanding without him having mood swings and not wanting to handle your needs it sounds like he needs a reality check...Love is as much giving as taking. If he really loves you he will understand and make more of a effort.
2007-03-13 00:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by LadyBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well decide now if it is not what you are looking for--probably won't get any better--may get worse. Cheating is not an answer---you are a mismatch by your own description--so get out and find a compatible guy. You say you love him---love what?? He isn't responsive to you and has an attitude---so what is there to love??? Sounds like the biggest part of a relationship is missing---COMMUNICATIONS. You have to learn to talk and settle things---good luck
2007-03-13 00:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having second thoughts that is the best sign that there would be trouble ahead if you were to marry this guy. I would suggest breaking it off and go shopping again. NEVER marry if you have any doubts that may cause problems later on.
there are too many men out there that are loving and caring that may be just what you are looking for.
Live life to the fullest while you can...you are only young once and old much longer...
2007-03-13 00:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have to say i kinda understand u, i have been going out w/ my bf for 2 yrs now he seems so cold and irritated, but i love him! and i can't seem to be able to leave him.
I would just advice you to start meeting ppl...just meeting right now...learn that he's not the only one and that there is better....but still respect him too, dont cheat. I there is someone that you meet that you think is better and like more, then break up w/ him first and start going out w/ the other one.
2007-03-12 23:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by disgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you haven't even gotten married and sex has already died, then it ain't gonna work. just find someone who isn't that way...he sounds like he's either getting *** somewhere else or is gay...try marriage counseling if you really want to make it work, but some things can't be fixed.
2007-03-12 23:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in love there shouldn't be second thoughts.you will break from him somehow .so why get married and then divorce,walk away right now,it'll save lot of trouble for both of you.
2007-03-12 23:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what's wrong or leave him alone for like 2 days straight, if that doesn't work well then ask him what's wrong again and then try to help, if he doesn't want help give him his space or dump him
2007-03-12 23:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by thegalfromtrinidad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not what you want, find someone else. Don't cheat on him.
2007-03-12 23:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by Moral Orel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of men are like that. play hard to get.
2007-03-12 23:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by Michael A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋