Family & Relationships - 23 January 2007

Since they already have a VERY good idea we are planning this:

Should we tell our parents of destination wedding upon first meeting; they never met before .... tell them of our plans at first meeting?

My fiance and I have recently decided to have a destination wedding and not invite ANYONE, including our parents.

My parents divorced over 20 years ago and still HATE each other. Both have re-married since then. My fiance's parents are still married and would really like us to have a TRADITIONAL wedding, as would my mother and my grandmother.

While they have an idea of our plans, we are thinking of having them (my mother and stepfather and his parents) meet for the first time for dinner and announce our wedding plan.

We think that they are less likely to get overly upset in the presence of future in-laws, and this will allow them to let the news settle in for a little while.

Is this an ambush to spring it on them like this, or a good idea, so we don't get a guilt trip?

2007-01-23 02:56:49 · 1 answers · asked by Advice Please 3 in Family

2007-01-23 02:55:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok this is not the first time i have a similar question to this one. ok here goes... my actual bf and I already were together in the past, we also lived together for 2 years. we split an year ago, and now we are bk together. before we came bk together i had a bf which i liked alot, since i was always talking about my ex wich is now my actual bf he brokeup with me even though he love me. our realtionship was the best, we never had any fights, and if we did it would be a one minute fight. he was very nice and a best friend to me. when i was with him i thought i love my actual bf and that he was the one i loved. so my bf left me. now that i'm bk with the one i lived before i see that this wasn't what i wanted. it was not like i pictured. we fight more then before, things are not ok, we treat each other like friends, and even though he wants to try i just lost my patience. i can't stop thinking about the bf that left me, i kinda compare what we had and what i have now. what do i do?

2007-01-23 02:55:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was hoping he'd do something wrong then i could break up with him but he is too in love and wont do anything wrong

2007-01-23 02:55:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I are going on 3 years, when I met him I was just out of high school and hanging out with a lot of guys. I stopped doing everything I liked to do and knew. Now I am in the most comfortable state I have ever been with him, except I feel as though I have changed and grown up a bit since I let go of all of my high school years when I met him. Everything that I used to like to do I don't want to do now. So I feel as though I am stuck and have no real hobbies to do on my own as a individual.

Anyone else ever feel like this.

2007-01-23 02:54:27 · 10 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-01-23 02:53:56 · 21 answers · asked by Peter 1 in Singles & Dating

i had $130.00 of my boyfriends money in my wallet nowhere to be found. all my credit cards personal items are gone to. its been reported. he is not worried about my stuff only his. is he selfish? i feel bad. i have helped him with never no thank yous. im upset my belongings are gone as well. i had money missing too. i just paid his electric/gas $800.00 no this has nothing to do with my wallet gone. however, if something of yours is missing thats your problem or they he & his mom blame their dog for eating it. noway!!! so is he a tad selfish? i would be mad as well. but, what can you do?

2007-01-23 02:53:35 · 7 answers · asked by greg b 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Who is also a friends brother?that you were set up with and after 3 dates you dont really like?I mean he is nice and all but i am not attracted to him in that way.I also like another guy in one of my classes.I dont want things to be akward when i see him since we both attend the same college?Can i use the i want to be single right and not ready for a relationship now line? Also personality wise we clash big time he is a shy ultra christian guy and me i am shy too but i like to go out an have a good time once in a while plus i have a little bit of a naughty side.

2007-01-23 02:53:21 · 10 answers · asked by Jenny O 1 in Singles & Dating

Since they already have a VERY good idea we are planning this:

Should we tell our parents of destination wedding upon first meeting; they never met before .... tell them of our plans at first meeting?

My fiance and I have recently decided to have a destination wedding and not invite ANYONE, including our parents.

My parents divorced over 20 years ago and still HATE each other. Both have re-married since then. My fiance's parents are still married and would really like us to have a TRADITIONAL wedding, as would my mother and my grandmother.

While they have an idea of our plans, we are thinking of having them (my mother and stepfather and his parents) meet for the first time for dinner and announce our wedding plan.

We think that they are less likely to get overly upset in the presence of future in-laws, and this will allow them to let the news settle in for a little while.

Is this an ambush to spring it on them like this, or a good idea, so we don't get a guilt trip?

2007-01-23 02:53:10 · 10 answers · asked by Advice Please 3 in Weddings

I crave sex. Is this bad my boyfriend dosnt seem to mind but i olny see him on weekends and sometimes not for weeks.

2007-01-23 02:53:03 · 7 answers · asked by Sexy Blonde 1 in Singles & Dating

To look for dates on line, I mean isn't it kinda like putting a billboard of yourself up in your town saying contact me, I'm lonely. If you meet someone on a non dateing site you click with that is a little different. It just seems a tad desperate to me. What do you all think?

2007-01-23 02:52:57 · 14 answers · asked by krissy 5 in Singles & Dating

Since we got engage..for every holiday we give each other a list of things we may want... I dont know why we do this i think its silly.. i just want him to buy me whatever.. I dont really care what it is. is this normal in a relationship??? I want him to suprise me.. i think if he use his own head to "think" about what I may like it just shows that he know me... guys? girls?? why this?

2007-01-23 02:51:53 · 9 answers · asked by im_a_goofy_chick 2 in Singles & Dating

would it be weird if i didn't spend alot on each one...so i can save money? What kinds of gifts should i get her?

2007-01-23 02:51:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This guy I'm seeing is always playing games with me, I mean I know that he loves me but he's always teasing me about being with him and he tries to say that everybody wants him, he is really conceited but I think it's because he's insecure. Should I break it off with him, I do have huge feelings for him though.? He almost always wants to look better than me, and I'm a girl.

2007-01-23 02:50:57 · 16 answers · asked by Maji 3 in Friends

My son and his family are going to be moving in with us. They have a toddler (10 months old). My husband and I also have another son age 13 still at home. We downsized last year to a very small home - just 5 rooms (2 bedrooms, family room, kitchen and bath. We don't want to invade our 13 year olds room because that's his space. We are going to get a sofa-bed to put in the family room - and find somewhere?? for the babybed. We probably have about 1000 square foot home. My husband is a truck driver and will be going over the road during the week, so he will only be home on the weekends. I really need some advice on how to make this work. With so little room and the different schedules, I am a little worried about what to do. Please help with any experience or advice that you have, without suggesting that it not happen, because it's not really an option that they don't move in. They are putting there stuff in storage this week and are moving in this coming weekend.

2007-01-23 02:50:57 · 4 answers · asked by minnie 2 in Family

2007-01-23 02:50:56 · 4 answers · asked by spin spin sunshine 4 in Singles & Dating

I had a baby and can't stay home for financial reasons. My husband had a partially handicapped friends mother move in to watch the baby while we are at work.

2007-01-23 02:50:38 · 13 answers · asked by kxray88 1 in Family

When I'm with him it's good, but when we're apart I want to break up. He's the sweetest guy ever and I know he loves me more than anyone and would do anything for me. I don't know what my problem is. I can't live with him, but if we broke up, I'm not sure I could live without him. I don't want to break up and then realize it was a mistake and not have him take me back. I can't stand the thought of hurting him. I know I shouldn't be in a relationship to avoid hurting someone, but I'm so torn. I hate the fact that he doesn't really have friends anymore except for me. He's whiny and acts like a kid and is the laziest person I've ever met. When it's good it's great, but when he's lazy and whiny I can't take him. Worse still, there's someone else who I used to be with that I'm starting to talk to again and I don't know where that's going, if anywhere. I'm afraid that i feel like this because of the other guy, and I don't want to dump a great guy for someone that's not even a sure thing.

2007-01-23 02:50:32 · 12 answers · asked by Emmy 6 in Singles & Dating

my parents always interfere in my affairs when i deal with my child. they even make me feel that i'm not a good mother. they take decisions without considering my opinions...i need help. i don't want to hurt them but i need them to respect me as a grown up and a mother!!

2007-01-23 02:50:05 · 12 answers · asked by jessy 1 in Family

What are the typical songs played through out the ceremony. I never paid attention and now I have to tell my pianist what I want. I don't have any desire to be different...and I need suggestions for a song she can actually sing as well.

2007-01-23 02:50:03 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

hi everyone, not sure where to start, but here goes...
ive been seeing a guy now, for at least 6 weeks. when we are together its perfect, i have no issues with him, hes affectionate, and does in his own way shows that he cares. but, he finds it very hard to tell me how he is feeling. he never tells me how much he likes me, the things that you expect at the beginning of a relationship. the problem starts when we arent together, i feel like there im invisable, i feel like i dont have a boyfriend, he rarely texts, he does call now every otherday, if i text he replys pretty much straight away. but he says i never phone him, the reason is cause i think, well during the day he'l be busy and i dont wont to disturb him, but he says it doesnt matter and he can always ring me back if he is busy. i just dont get it, feel like im going round in circles. its constantly me asking to see him, and to arrange things he never says no, if i ask him to meet up then he will. shall i talk to him??

2007-01-23 02:49:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-23 02:49:08 · 3 answers · asked by Helen 2 in Family

2007-01-23 02:48:54 · 10 answers · asked by simply me 2 in Friends

may b i m a muslim? plz guyz help me...they donnot even let me hang out wit my frndz..............

2007-01-23 02:48:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I dont think my looks are not the problem, i dont know what the problem is, he is a gemini, I dont know what is going on

2007-01-23 02:47:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I love my boyfriend and he has never done anything like this before. He didn't tell me about it, I found out later from another source. He said he was afraid to tell me about it but that he wanted to. He said his ex kissed him and he stopped it right away. How do I know what to believe and can he really ever earn my trust again? He is very, very sorry and says he will do anything.

2007-01-23 02:47:27 · 6 answers · asked by purple stars13 2 in Singles & Dating

...BUT I FOUND HER ADVANCES TO FORWARD AS I HARDLY KNEW HER. I ASKED HER TO LEAVE MY HOUSE AND SHE SAID THAT SHE STILL WANTED THE FULL MONEY FOR THE WHOLE NIGHT.....!!

IS IT ME OR WAS SHE OUT OF ORDER, AND JUST A HARD NOSED BUSINESS WOMEN....???

2007-01-23 02:47:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

They barely know this girl, see her at the kid's birthday parties. 3-4 times a year, until she moved out of state. She just found out that they called her sister in law for her address, her parents and her sister's address. Rule of thumb, if you don't have their address---they must not be close....don't invite them! Anyway, my friend doesn't want to go and she doubts her parents or sister will want to go. She's wondering if she should talk to her brother and his wife about it, so that they can explain this to her family? Or if she should just decline when the invites come? Another thought would be decline the shower--but ship a shower gift (from the family)....and decline the wedding? But I don't see why they would even have to go that far. Jeeeez, are people that desperate for gifts? Any thoughts on this? I say decline both, don't send gifts and don't worry about people you barely know.

2007-01-23 02:47:07 · 7 answers · asked by crazymom 4 in Weddings

I have a huge sex drive and my wife turned out to be just the opposite. Situation worsened after birth of my child. The last time we had sex was an year ago. This has got me frustrated and drove me to internet P.orn in every flavor. I imagine sex with every other good looking female i see. Distance between me n my wife has widened to the point that we hardly talk to each other these days. Feel terribly depressed at times. Have even resorted to adultery in depression... and felt bad later on. Plese help. I am still continuing with the marraige becos of my child and becos of our parents who are unaware of the situation. Cant tell our parents of our sexless marraige and cant have my child splitting his time between parents. I weep terribly at times when i analyze my situation, which seems hopeless. Please put yourself in my shoes before u answer. Sometimes i feel an early heart attack would solve my problem. I am 35 and my wife 34 with a marraige of 8 years.

2007-01-23 02:45:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Well, my BF & I broke up for what is the final time last night. I called him to see what he was doing last night & he started to call me a typical female because he thought I was beating around the bush about whether or not he was coming over last night. He said that he wasn't. So when I asked him why, he started to tell me that I was a liar, because I told him I wasn't following him when I was and I caught him with some girl. I later admitted it but he just wanted to keep holding over my head. He said that I wasn't the one for him and when I asked him why he was still dealing with me if I wasn't he said that he's not still dealing with me. I began to ask what did I do that was so bad? He just kept calling me a liar. He came over to my place, brought me my keys and took whatever was his and when I tried to tell him that he's lied to me and I told him the lies that I've caught him up in, he said if you're searching for a lie, I'm going home tonight, there's your lie.

2007-01-23 02:45:58 · 2 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Singles & Dating