my parents always interfere in my affairs when i deal with my child. they even make me feel that i'm not a good mother. they take decisions without considering my opinions...i need help. i don't want to hurt them but i need them to respect me as a grown up and a mother!!
2007-01-23 02:50:05 · 12 answers · asked by jessy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The problem is that you live under their roof and so they feel this gives them the right to make decisions regarding your children. You need to sit down with them and gently, but firmly, tell them how you are feeling. Don't sound accusatory. Say something like " I really appreciate your help and support in raising the kids. Thank you for letting us stay here. I just want to talk to you about some things that are bothering me. I know you don't mean to criticize or make me feel that I am not a good parent, but being a single Mom is hard and I need you to respect that I am their Mother. Please talk to me first before making decisions regarding the kids." If they aren't able to conform to your wishes, then start saving your money and look for a place to live outside of their home. Good luck to you! I raised 5 children as a single Mom and they ranged in ages from 2 mos. to 12 years old when their father and I divorced. I lived 200 miles away from their father and both of my parents were already deceased. Guess what? My youngest will now be 18 in July. I did it. God got me through every situation and you can do it too!
2007-01-23 03:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know. It is hard alone , its hard with the father, its hard when your young and its hard when your older too. Its just hard. Using you as an example, how would you feel if after all your sacrifice and worrying and trying to raise your kid , maybe a girl that she turns around and gets pg at 15!!! It sucks. But, if your guy that got you pg doesn't want to be there physically, make sure you do get a child support order. Because if he gets another girl pg , then she will be the one to get most child support. 1st kid filed for child support gets 25/30% and 5% for every other kid. It is not wrong to try to get support for your child & it works out good for the guys also because you dont have todeal with each other it is just set & not argument
2016-05-24 00:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of your situation, but is there a possibility you can move out? There is assistance out there for low income families such as Section 8. It's a great program. It is hard to live with parents and raise a child, I know from personal experience. Talk with them if you feel like they are interfering too much. They may not realize it's bothering you.
2007-01-23 02:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this probably won't change until you and your child move out of your parents house. In order for them to respect you as a grown up, you need to show them that you are one.
2007-01-23 02:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are having a child you shouldn't be living at home anymore. And if you aren't married, you shouldn't have a baby either. And if you just got divorced, don't move back in with your parents (even though I am totally against divorce, don't be lazy, make it work) .That's just my opinion. Sorry if it's harsh, but it's the truth.
2007-01-23 02:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Farmwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job save some money and move out! Quit living off your parents.
2007-01-23 02:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit them down and explain that they have done a good job raising you, but now you need to raise your own child. ask them nicely to stop trying to make all the decisions, make it a joint thing if they will not leave you alone. if nothing else, try to find a way to move out.
2007-01-23 02:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by deeshair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then you need to find a way to get a place of your own. by you having a place of your own you will not run into the problems that you are having in terms of your parents trying to control how you raise your own child. if you dont' have a job...get one. if you have a job but it doesn't pay enough then find a better paying job.
2007-01-23 02:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be respected as a grown up , then GROW UP!!! Get your own place! Until then you need to be grateful they are letting you and your child live there.
2007-01-23 02:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey good luck!! I had the same problems.... I took me moving out to finally help..(Somewhat)
I don't think they mean any harm & just them being parents.. You live & learn from your mistakes..
2007-01-23 02:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by ahg30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋