When I'm with him it's good, but when we're apart I want to break up. He's the sweetest guy ever and I know he loves me more than anyone and would do anything for me. I don't know what my problem is. I can't live with him, but if we broke up, I'm not sure I could live without him. I don't want to break up and then realize it was a mistake and not have him take me back. I can't stand the thought of hurting him. I know I shouldn't be in a relationship to avoid hurting someone, but I'm so torn. I hate the fact that he doesn't really have friends anymore except for me. He's whiny and acts like a kid and is the laziest person I've ever met. When it's good it's great, but when he's lazy and whiny I can't take him. Worse still, there's someone else who I used to be with that I'm starting to talk to again and I don't know where that's going, if anywhere. I'm afraid that i feel like this because of the other guy, and I don't want to dump a great guy for someone that's not even a sure thing.
2007-01-23 02:50:32 · 12 answers · asked by Emmy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, break up. The longer you wait the harder it will be for both of you.
2007-01-23 02:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by *nevermind* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a situation similar to yours.... what ev
The spark is missing.
Tell the person you enjoy spending time together, but for whatever reason, you just don't feel the spark.
You don't want to mislead the person.
Explain that you care too deeply about the person to ever lead them on, or make them feel the relationship has a chance to progress.
Be encouraging.
Let them know they're a great catch, will recover, and will meet someone new.
Give positive feedback only.
Honestly answer any questions about the breakup. Don't be nasty. Remember, they're a nice guy or girl.
Don't blame the person.
Don't in any way make them feel like the breakup is their fault. Let them leave the relationship believing it was a poor fit between the two of you.
Tell him or her it's not about them.
Make it clear that he or she doesn't have any major physical or intellectual faults. Nice people have a tendency to analyze the breakup for months. If they think it has something to do with a hook nose or lack of knowledge about Renaissance painters, they'll beat themselves up for years.
Don't continue getting physical.
Making a nice person believe there's a chance to continue the relationship, when you have no intention of really dating them again, is just plain wrong.
Deliver the message clearly.
If you think the person will have a hard time leaving you alone, be as clear and business-like as possible in communicating your message that the relationship is over.
er you do dont tell him about this other guy. Ok so here is what to do
2007-01-23 03:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me, you are really not interested in the one you are with anymore and that you should just let him go. The problem seems to be that you are afraid to be alone.
I would say that it is a mistake to move from one relationship to another.
Also that if it is not working out in the relationship that you are in that it is a good idea to stop everything take a step back and look at where you are at. Take a moment for yourself, don't stay with someone just because you don't want to be alone and don't keep the guy you are with from getting over you sooner by making him wait around until you are sure that he is not the one for you. Let him go and you go and find yourself again.
If he is the one, then he will still be there when you figure it all out.
2007-01-23 02:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay with him for at least 2 years. I mean really, he's gonna change eventually. Maybe after you have some kids together he'll change to exactly what you want him to be. If the kids don't work, then get married, that always causes men to change into what women want them to be. Okay, so after a few kids and marriage he is still a lazy bum, but at least you did not hurt his feelings 5 years ago, now you can divorce him, take most of his money and tear the kids apart in a custody battle. Yeah, stick it out.
2007-01-23 03:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his behavior is normal... he's human he's not a robot . It hard to deal with it because you're confused. If you feel that u have no feeling for him its best to break it off.. have you ever sat him down and have a heart to heart conversation...??? have you asked him to stop his habits that annoys you?? maybe ypu annoy him sometimes too he prbably keep it to him self just to keep the peace... relationships is a two way street and its about compromising if you dont learn this now ... future relationships will not work... its not like he cheated on you or whatever.. you can always talk it out rather than leading him on.. fix it now or never
2007-01-23 02:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by im_a_goofy_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea its general. to easily opt to offer up. its alot of weight on your shoulders whilst your being dealt with badly or unfair. rigidity is the final concern you elect. melancholy reasons you to confident learn an extremely helpful lesson whilst its performed...even though it takes a solid volume of day out of your existence. to me melancholy is whilst on a daily basis is a similar concern. you think of a similar, the two dont consume or consume too lots and you grow to be a ****** to your guy or woman thoughts and the situation or individual. i went by it, it sucked so undesirable i think of i dwelled for greater or less 6 months. then i've got been given a role and purely found available have been different issues greater significant. i assume you may say i wakened. love shouldnt harm. human beings say that yet i believe its authentic. in case you with somebody and the affection making is powerful yet after thats performed with he leaves and makes you experience victimized then you definitely shouldnt be there. noone loves for use and if thats what you experience enable it pass. its much less complicated reported then performed yet despite is meant to be will ensue and interior the top despite it is you need to be happy. your existence is what you're making of it.
2016-11-01 02:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, you don't have to make an absolute decision today! take your time see how you feel really feel about your boyfriend and keep talking to that other guy and see how you feel about each other. And when the time comes make a decision that is good for you
2007-01-23 03:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by judy_74074 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to take a break. Say that you need some time to think things over.
2007-01-23 03:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you want someone to give you permission
to end this relationship.
Stop thinking about yourself and think about what
is good for the both of you.
Talk to him tell him how you feel
2007-01-23 02:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him frankly what you have feel these days.be fair then inform him and absorbed what he may tells you!for TRUTH really hurts!GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-23 03:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by speedmaztyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋